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September 08, 2018 Anniversary Wishes 3 comments

Giving newlyweds a few words of advice can be helpful, yet isn't always appreciated. However, starting a new life together can be stressful and listening to.

Have you ever noticed that everyone seems to have marriage advice for newlyweds, even if they haven’t had a successful marriage themselves?

In fact, it occurs to me that the couples who have been married for 30 years or more tend to be fairly modest about their relationship accomplishments. Come to think of it, maybe their humility is one of the reasons that they have managed to stay happily married for so long!

The good news is that these amazing couples have plenty of advice to give. We just need to ask!

Along these lines, I thought that it would be fun to ask the women in our community who have been married for 30+ years to give some marriage advice for newlyweds. Within a few minutes of me asking the question, more than 50 women responded, offering some amazing ideas. Some of my favorites are below.

If someone in your family is getting married for the first time, I highly encourage you to share this list with them. Personally, I wish some had shared this advice with me when I go married. It would have saved me a lot of heartache!

Here is Some Surprising Marriage Advice for Newlyweds from 30th Anniversary Couples

Diane advised newlyweds to, “Keep your sense of humor and remember that no-one is perfect. Talk to your spouse and show them that you love them every day. Life will throw you curveballs. Just remember that paying attention to your relationship always pays off. We’ve been married for 40 years and we still love each other dearly.”

Susan added, “Remember that your marriage is a commitment that you need to work on every day. Say something nice before you leave the house each day. You never know when your partner will be gone.”

Barbara said, “It’s like the song we sing together at church. None of Self and All of Thee. If both spouses practice this, everything will work out well!”

Carol, who has been married for 42 years, said, “Keep God in your marriage. Don’t try to change your spouse – just offer them plenty of praise and encouragement. Have your own interests. Don’t forget to have at least one date night per week – even if it’s just a cup of coffee with the cell phones switched off.”

Yvonne commented, “Communication and trust are just as important as commitment. Work every day to build all of these. We’ve been happily married for 39 years… and counting!”

Barb gave the following marriage advice for newlyweds, “Don’t let relatives ruin your marriage.”

Tessie added, “We’ve been married for 46 years. During this time, we’ve learned to have a sense of humor and laugh. Have a date night every week and dance together in the kitchen.”

Another Barb in the community said, “Be kind to each other. Never walk out angry – you don’t want this to be the last thing you remember about the person you love if something unexpected happens. Work hard and keep laughing.”

Amy gave the following marriage advice for newlyweds, “Laugh together every day. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Maintain your own individuality and personal space.”

Cherie gave some practical advice. She said, “Start saving for retirement as soon as you get back from your honeymoon.”

Kathleen said, “We’ve been married for 42 years… trust is a must, as well as, respect. Recognize that your partner has his or her pals and encourage them to spend time together. No couple is perfect. No person is perfect. Remember that communication is essential. We’re not mind readers! Never assume anything and don’t run away when the times are rough. Finally, always look for the good in your spouse.”

Janice, who has been married for 40 years, said, “Find things that you have in common and find time to do these things together. Your spouse should be your best friend. Most importantly, laugh, laugh and laugh some more. It’s good for your marriage and it keeps you young!

Finally, Donna offers, simply, “Pick your battles.”

I couldn’t agree more! Actually, this last piece of advice is good for everyone, married or not!

If you are just getting married, I wish you all the happiness in the world! I hope that you have found this advice useful! If you have been married for several decades, please continue to add your advice in the comments section below.

How long have you been married? What marriage advice would you give to newlyweds? What advice do you wish someone had given you when you got married? Please join the conversation.

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Margaret Manning is the founder of Sixty and Me. She is an entrepreneur, author and speaker. Margaret is passionate about building dynamic and engaged communities that improve lives and change perceptions. Margaret can be contacted at [email protected]

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words of wisdom for the happy couple

Recently, our readers were incredibly generous in helping me create the MOST AMAZING “marriage advice bridal shower” for my sweet friend, Natalie this past weekend! The response was nothing short of AH-mazing… I actually received hundreds of insightful and wonderful bits of marriage advice from our fabulous readers!

And when it came time for the shower, your marriage advice seriously MADE her day. When Natalie walked in to see the outpouring of love and support written on heartfelt messages from SO many people, she could NOT believe her eyes! It really was such a special moment I will never forget! And neither will Natalie. You all completely made that happen for her!! And down the road, when people ask her what the secret to a long happy marriage is, she will totally know the answer!

I truly could hug you ALL for being so amazing and reaching out the way you did! My heart is so full of gratitude and love for each of you!!!! So, I wanted to share with everyone these OVER 600 incredible snippets of marriage advice! Your wisdom and your generosity can now serve SO many other couples, too!

{and ps: Here’s how the advice looked hung up at the shower! Sooooo pretty!!!}

  • This is going to sound harsh…but you need to get over yourself 🙂 You’re not always right, and when you are, don’t be smug about it. Humility is THE BEST trait that you can have in marriage and it has worked well for me and my husband for the past 10 years. Laugh at yourself, laugh at your mistakes and don’t sweat the little things! Best wishes! – Erin Williams
  • Fight naked. He will give in every time! – Stephanie Dulgarian
  • The best advice I ever got was to remember that your spouse decided to marry you because he or she fell in love with YOU.  It is therefore so important to keep true to you, even through all the seasons of marriage, parenthood and even personal and couple changes. Best wishes and many blessings on you both xoxo –Cecilia DeArtola
  • Congratulations!  Always treat each other respectfully as equals.  Never speak poorly of each other socially. Remember that neither of you is the parent of the other.  Date each other and have fun!   – Miranda Holsted
  • Remember if one of you wins the argument, both of you and your marriage loses. (Not talking about the sports trivia question kind of argument) –Lisa & Drew Stillman

  • One of the best things we’ve done for our marriage is have a weekly meeting (ours is Sunday after kids are in bed) where we plan the week and ask each other how we can make their life better that week. It keeps anything from building and gives us a chance to talk about anything that is going wrong. We only get to make one request for the week so it’s pretty easy to remember. Our relationship has grown and strengthened so much since we started! –Hillary

  • I am no expert on marriage but what my main advice would be is to always work on your marriage.It is the most important thing!A good marriage is the foundation to bring kids in a home that has so much love already.Use the Dating Divas!Go on dates and have fun!Don’t sweat the small stuff and just enjoy life!Be happy and in love!Married life is the absolute best!!! –Kassie Peterson

  • This has probably been covered before, but set realistic expectations.That was the most challenging thing I faced, but having realistic expectations and choosing to NOT expect perfection really helped my marriage. –Fawn & Nathan Bohlken

  • Be kind to each other. Treat your spouse as you would your best friend, better than your best friend. If he/she is having a tough day, give them a soft place to land. If he/she is angry/grumpy/frustrated take a step back, don’t take it personally, treat them with an increased measure of love and respect.    –Mrs. Jongejan

  • Marriage isn’t easy.It’s a lot of hard work but that work should be a labor of love.It is work that you should enjoy doing. P.S.Same rules apply to childbirth. –Kelly & Daryl Patterson

  • Don’t go to bed mad! –Mrs.Pruitt

  • Take the time to put down the phones and talk. It is so easy to let the electronics get in the way. You need meaningful conversation every day, even if it’s just for 5 minutes. –Sharylann Smith

  • One thing I always try to do is randomly call or message my husband throughout the day just to ask him how his day is going and not complain about my day. I like to just listen and hear him out, he tells me that he looks forward to my call and being able to talk. –Nina Verkaik

  • Starting on your first anniversary, buy your spouse a gift following the traditional or modern gift ideas. Ex. Year 1 is paper, Year 2 is cotton, etc.After you’ve been married a few years, you don’t really need anything and it’s always fun to be creative with the themes.For example, for our first anniversary I bought and framed 1 piece of Disney stock. (We went to Disney World on our honeymoon.) –Nina & John Oliver

  • Sometimes going to bed upset or mad is ok… you wake up to realize what you were arguing over was silly and you both were just tired! –Joyce

  • Never tell your parent(s) about a fight that you had with your spouse. You will forgive and forget, but your parents won’t. I was given this advice and didn’t listen to it. The result…my mom hated my husband! Best of luck to you! –Julie

  • A great quote to be reminded of! “None of us marry perfection, we marry potential.”-Robert D Hales –Friend

  • My favorite advice comes from a quote in the movie “Parental Guidance.”The daughter is arguing with her mom and yells “You’re always taking his side!” in reference to her father.Her mom responds, “With good reason, because after your kids leave, he’s the one who stays.”Remembering this quote helps me to keep my marriage as my top priority. –Jessica

  • Just because your hubby does things differently than you, doesn’t mean he’s doing it wrong. –Becca

  • Not so much marriage advice but great advice nonetheless – brother in law told my husband, “the best thing you can do for your children is to love their mother.” Showing them the love and friendship will foster a like minded love and friendship. Something for them to emulate. –Heather

  • Do things together and have fun…. It’s ALL about the memories 😉 –Samantha

  • Women need to feel loved. Men need to feel respected. And learn each other’s love languages. It will save you a lot of hurt and misunderstanding down the line. –Marcie Kent

  • Always put your love of each other first! It’s all too easy for “life” to take over. Whether it be work, friends, a new baby, house projects, etc. So it’s important to prioritize your love by taking time and effort to nurture it on a consistent basis. Congratulations and Blessings to you both! –Noel

  • The best piece of advice I got when I was married, 6 years ago, was from my Grandma. She told me that no matter what happens in life to still get dressed up for dates. “Life gets crazy, I know. BUT it is important to still try and impress your husband even after 53 years of marriage.” –Mandy

  • Most people say: To live learn and grow in a marriage you must communicate. I wholeheartedly believe this but, I believe that you must also laugh!Mike and I have been together for almost 15 years and we do our fair share of communicating. Some of the time it just happens to be yelling and screaming at each other but, he makes me laugh every day and this I love.Joanne Woodward who was an actress in the 50’s and married to Paul Newman for 40+ years said “Sexiness wears thin after a while, and beauty fades. But to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, now that’s a real treat.” Laugh with each other and at each other every day.If you’re relieved to be done with the wedding planning, it’s easy to forget that the real work hasn’t even started yet. Marriage is always a work in progress. The feelings and attractions that brought you together early on in your relationship are unlikely to hold you together as you mature and your lifestyle changes. Promise each other that you’ll build a future together and that you’ll always honor his or her needs and point of view. You can only go as far as you want to go!! A successful marriage requires falling in love over and over again, always with the same person. As you both learn and grow in your lives you will also learn and grow within your marriage! We can’t wait to see the wonderful couple you become! –Shelley and Mike Jag

  • Shower together! It helps save water 😉 –Roxanne Dent

  • Put each other first.If you take care of his needs,and he takes care of your needs, then everyone is taken care of. –Jennifer and Gregory Babbitt

  • This advice was given to me by my step mom… You may not always like each other but you will always love each other. There will be times when your mad or upset with your spouse and won’t “like them” but always remember the reasons you love them. Marriage has a lot of ups but there are also downs, so don’t be afraid to ask for help when things get hard… –Beth

  • Choose to love each other every day. Many people believe love is a feeling, but we believe it is a choice as well. We choose to love each other even in the hard times and it has kept us strong for 17 years. –Jennifer

  • Pray to love your spouse more every single day, to be their support through good times and bad, enjoy their company and makes loooots of love! –Friend

  • If you ever find yourself in a argument I suggest taking your clothes off because it will end so fast. I know this, I have been married now for 17yrs. And it works every time. Well as least at home. Good luck and congrats. –Stephanie & Paul Trujillo

  • If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything! But half of those times, just make up something nice to say 🙂 –Kiomi
  • Refuse to take offense, because offense is rarely intended. –Tiffany & Kyle McGarry

  • The couple that LAUGHS together stays together! 🙂 –Kelly DeBardelaben 

  • Congratulations!!!Communicate, communicate, communicate & you’ll have a wonderful future!!Communicate verbally, emotionally, and physically…nobody is a mind reader!!Have fun!! –Teresa & Russell Higgins

  • I’ve been with my hubby for 13 amazing years.Here are a few simple (but important) things we follow. Never let the little things fade, consider each other a team and keep an open communication (good and bad). I wish you both a lifetime of happiness. –Kaylene

  • Remember that you came from different backgrounds so you may see things differently. Have an open mind and communicate because you will not always see eye to eye on some topics. There is not one right answer so come up with it together so it can be your right answer and what’s best for both of you. –Kennedy & Andrew Brown

  • The best way to get the last word in following an argument is to say, “I’m sorry.” –Robyn Madsen

  • Continue dating. Nurture your relationship. –Dana & Sal Crano

  • My husband and I have been married for 20 years. I’m still very much in love with him and I still get excited when he comes home from work. Now don’t get me wrong, marriage is hard work so here’s Some of the best advice I can give you…

    1-Always take the time to have alone time together once a week. We have 4 boys and know how busy life can get. But it’s always important to take time to reconnect and make each other feel special with alone time.

    2-This is VERY important. Do not hang out alone with the opposite sex no matter how long you have been friends. It causes doubt in your spouse that they may or may not admit to. We have had friends that made fun of us for this but then later agreed it was a good idea when they ended up divorced over an affair that occurred from this kind of friendship.

    3- Never stop trying to make your spouse feel special. Do occasional surprises like hidden notes or random texts messages. Grab them when they come home from work and sneak off for a quick make out session.

    The bottom line is, your spouse is a gift. You never know how long you get to have them for, tragedies may happen and God might call them home. Make every day count. Yes you will fight and disagree with things but honestly, those things make your marriage stronger when you respond to them in a positive way. Treat your spouse with the love that you want to be returned to you. –Shannon

  • The best advice is to always be best friends first! –Heather Barrios

  • I know that a lot of people say “Never go to bed angry” when you and your spouse are in a disagreement.While that’s nice in theory…lets be honest.You can’t exactly turn your feelings on and off like a light switch, and that’s OK!Sometimes, you just need to have your “me” time to reflect and sort out your feelings, and often that requires a good nights sleep.That being said, while you might go to bed still fuming/upset about a particular instance…always tell the other person that you love them and goodnight.Even though you might not be the happiest with them at that moment…you BOTH will feel worse if those 3 little words aren’t said. 🙂 –Christina Helms

  • Use kind words to each other like please and thank you regularly. Just because your spouse knows you best doesn’t lessen the need to extend this simple courtesy. –Friend

  • Before you even get married promise each other you will NEVER, EVER say the “D” word! My husband and I promised each other we would never use the word divorce. That was 18 years ago and I’m happy to report we have never let that word come out of our mouths. –Renee

  • Let God be the center of your marriage. Pray together!!! –Karla

  • Communicate effectively and never go to bed angry at each other. –LaKia

  • The best advice I ever received reminded me that open communication is key to a successful marriage. What you need to say may hurt each other’s feelings, but if you can trust that it comes from love (and not make it personal) you can get past the hurt and grow even more close together. This will help you soar above and beyond all challenges that come your way. –Friend

  • Each of you work individually to be inspired to make great changes in your life.Inspire each other to be better by becoming better yourself.When both of you work at it, and no one is expecting the other to change for them, great things happen!Never expect changes in your loved one.Work on being humble and teachable instead of hard headed.🙂 –Shannon White

  • The best advice is FORGIVE. I would have never ever suggested such a thing but having been married for 20 years that is the one thing nobody ever told me I should or would have to do. It is not easy but most marriages that have lasted have done so because of forgiveness. –Chris

  • Love with all you have, there will be times when you disagree . You both will change over time but always love that person for who they are and who they become. Change together. And most of all forgive often, forgiveness is the key to a lasting marriage. –Friend

  • Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!! Talk about everything even the hard stuff and even when you don’t want to. Especially the hard stuff and especially when you don’t want to. It’s the one piece of advice my mother-in-law gave me and it has taken us a long time to get it!! But every bit of these 17 years makes it all worth it! –Laura

  • Never go to bed angry, always tell each other you love them at least once a day, if not more, and ALWAYS show respect, no matter what the situation is. –Friend

  • My advice for both of you is to never stop being friends, and to truly love each other for who you really are. If you don’t, you are creating unrealistic expectations for one another, that neither one of you are able to live up to. You will see the worst of each other, but you’ll also see the VERY best. My husband and I have been together for 7 years, and have a 2 year old daughter. Once you have spent days and weeks without any sleep, you will definitely know what the worst is in someone. And before you say something, just step back, and breathe, and think is this really that big of a deal? Chances are…. it’s not. There will be times that you laugh together, and cry together, but always do them together. I wish you both the very best in your marriage!! –Krystin & Derris Butler

  • Always remember your “sense” may not be the same as your spouse. If you think about a large iceberg, you can only see the top portion. What you do not see is the largest part which is under water.The under water portion is what gives your partner their “sense” of a situation.Try to see their sense. –Brandy Allen

  • Natalie,

    I want to share two pieces of advice that I feel will be important for many years to come…

    1st: Always LOVE with all your heart!

    1 Corinthians 13:4-7New International Version (NIV)

    Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

    2nd: Remember to put God first in your marriage and you can NEVER go wrong!

    Philippians 4:13 – I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

    Much Love and Happiness for many years to come!! –Kimberly

  • Always put your spouses needs first. If you both do this, you will always win. Don’t forget to always always date your mate. –Diana

  • 1. If you show and respect him, he will always cherish you.

    2. Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy. –Pamela

  • No matter how hard it is to realize…sometimes he is right!!Ha! Ha!Been married 23 years as of this March, and we work together 24/7 in our own business and have raised two beautiful children.Best wishes!! –Nicole

  • Continue to date your husband, even after you have moved in together and/or gotten married. Every day I tell my husband what it is that I love about him- both to remind him and most importantly to remind ME why I married this man. Also, after we fight, even if I feel I’m “right” I still go to him after I have calmed down to apologize for being so hot headed. We usually are both “right” from our perspectives, but it is more important for us to be together than apart and still angry. And then I tell him from my heart why I got so angry, especially if it wasn’t his fault I am angry. Good luck! It’s a lot of work but it’s so wonderful that it doesn’t feel like work. –Teresa Flores

  • My Grandmother told me the secret to marriage: “There are very few things worth arguing about.” –Becky Lacey

  • Marriage is a 50/50 relationship, but no one on Earth can tell you what that really means. So if you both put in 60, you’ll be fine! –RenéHale

  • Seek out opportunities to laugh and be silly with each other. … and when he’s on your last nerve, it always gets better when you realize that you can never change your partner but you can change how you react to your partner. –Jessica

  • Marriage is awesome, but it’s also hard!It’s God’s best way of refining each of us to be more like Him! So my advice to you is:

    1) Keep God first in everything.Rely on the Holy Spirit to be a giver more than a taker.

    2) It’s okay to argue, it just depends on how you do it!When you start to argue, take the time to pray first.Pay attention to how God is looking to change you, and pray for God to take care of your spouse.

    Many blessings on your marriage! –Friend

  • Forgive Easily –Holly & Jonathan Buchanan

  • Start each day with a snuggle and a prayer. No sweeter way to start the day! –Sabra Penley

  • Smile and laugh often! And they now sell pregnancy tests at your neighborhood Dollar Tree stores. 🙂 –Friend

  • Date night is not optional – especially when kids come! –Stephanie

  • My best advice is to keep Jesus as the center of marriage. All other problems fix themselves when He is your sole purpose for marriage. I would also say to not waste time fighting about the little things. If you aren’t going to remember what you were upset about in 3 days, it’s not worth wasting time arguing over. Life is way to short and sweet to waste time being at odds with the one we love. –Rachel

  • You are never too old shop at places like Victoria’s Secret. Just seeing the bag will help you with a little romance if you need it! –Star Bailey

  • Dear Natalie,Throughout the years, as you deal with life’s difficulties, you may(;wink) get angry with each other. No matter what, practice daily forgiveness. Do whatever you can to make up before you go to sleep, and enjoy the making up part! With blessings for your marriage – Niki
  • If you push to get an answer more quickly, you’re likely to not get the answer you want.And if you force your spouse to give the answer you want, they may not mean it in their heart.From now on, be prepared to wait patiently and accept the truth from your spouse. It may not always feel good, but when you receive the truth graciously, you create an environment where your spouse never needs to lie to you. –Crystal

  • Even when your other half is grumpy, moody, or unlovable….show them love…shower them with love…and you will see a dynamic change in them…Love conquers all! –Michele McCartney

  • Always be a student of your spouse. Your spouse is dynamic, with preferences, dreams, and needs always changing. You’ll never have them entirely figured out. So humbly and eagerly learn in amazement and wonder as the gift of who your spouse is continually unwraps over the years. Congratulations! Enjoy the journey! –Sarah M

  • My husband and I are about to celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary. We have 2 beautiful children.My husband is starting his 21st year in law enforcement.Needless to say he has missed many holidays, birthdays, soccer games, and other special events.My best advice is to talk to each other. We always carve out time each day between shuttling children to practices, church actives, and homework. We are each others sounding boards.He tells me when he has had bad day at work.I tell himwhen I am worried about the kids or aging parents etc….My next piece of advice is date! After you have babies and there is not much money or time, make it a priority to have special time for just the two of you.One day the babies will grow up and fly the nest and it will be just the two of you again. It will happen faster than you think it will 🙂 You don’t want to be staring at a stranger when that day comes. -Jennifer Getts

  • Don’t ever loose your sense of humor. The more stressful things get the more you’ll need a good laugh. Share inside jokes that only the two of you will get and always have each other’s back. –Laurie

  • Always remember and think of each other as your best friend! –Robin Guadagnini

  • Every time you think something negative about your spouse, (ie..he never puts his dishes in the dishwasher) think of three things he does do to help out around the house. It puts things into perspective and will make you smile! –Friend

  • Never go to bed angry. Even if it means you have to stay up till 2am to resolve it. That said pray together everynight before bed and kiss and say I love you. –Melody

  • First of all, congrats! You two chose each other over 7.125 other billion people. That is an amazing thing! My advice is to remember that marriage is fun! There will be times where you will feel bogged down with responsibilities and stress. Taking the kids to practice, pressures at work, chores, errands, etc. Just because we’re adults and have more responsibilities, doesn’t mean that we can’t have fun while we’re at it. Lean on each other and remind one another that you’re on this wonderful, fun, and exciting journey TOGETHER! 🙂 –Joy

  • All marriages are unique and change over time. Always be ready and willing to change something that you thought would make “the perfect marriage” to something that give you the marriage you need and deserve. Being willing to sacrifice the short term wants for the long term beautiful marriage. –Brooke & Paul Iverson

  • Marriage isn’t always easy or happy but when it is happy it is so good!And if and when you start a family some day remember to always make time for each other and give each other “me”Congrats!Live, Laugh, Love! –Friend

  • Always treat your husband with the same love and respect that you would want your future daughter-in-law to treat your son. –Teresa & Joseph Ramires

  • The wedding is the easy part, the marriage takes work. Always listen to eachother, remember no matter what, God comes first, then your partner, then your kids. Have an amazing wedding, wonderful memories and people around you who love and support you! –Jackie Ludwig

  • Communicate. Communicate. Communicate. Never stop. –Nickole

  • Tomorrow, February 9th, I will be married 25 years. After thinking long and hard on this, the best advise I can honestly give is this: Choose your battles wisely. Always make sure that it is worth the turmoil and headache. Will it cause your marriage harm in the long run? Will you be able to forgive each other by sundown? Will you be able to look each other in the eyes and always say I Love You without doubting.Not all battles are worth fighting. Sometimes it is best to look the other way and pray about it first. 

    Oh, and have separate tubes of tooth paste, always. –Cyndi

  • Don’t take life so seriously. My hubby and i just love being silly together, even acting like teenagers in love. Life is full of hard “grown up” stuff, so just be goof balls together. –Shannon

  • First of all congrats on your engagement!!!I hope you both will have a lifetime of love, peace and happiness together!Let’s see a couple of tips or advice I can give would be to never go to bed angry. Be a good listener, respect and try to see your spouses side of thingseven if you don’t see eye to eye on the same thing. Try to have a date night together at least 2x a month. Either at home or go out somewhere. Having a girls night/boys night is just as important. You’ll both need that alone time. Just have fun being in love and enjoying each other’s company! May God bless you both in your marriage! Congrats again:) –Breanne

  • I’ve been married to my love for 11 years. My two pieces of advice are… 1. Never ever talk bad about your spouse to others… even when with your girlfriends and they start complaining about their spouse. It is a slippery slope where if you start dwelling on a negative, it starts to grow in your heart. And 2. Always take interest and ask questions about your spouses passions. My husband has worked in radio, as an on-air personality part-time since he was 12. I must have heard all his stories hundreds of times, but I take the point and ask to hear about certain stories again. To see his eyes light up when he goes into his story, is so worth hearing a story that you can lip sync along with! 🙂 Best wishes on your nuptials! –Rebecca Kuchenbecker

  • Compromise!!!That is the key to a successful marriage.And too often we are more worried about having the last word.Sometimes you just have to say “your right dear” (even when you know YOU are!!!) Silly arguments often end up being huge disagreements, usually fueled by pride. –Samantha Nelson

  • Our priest told us to fight naked. 🙂 Have we? no, but it makes sense. If you’re arguing over something meaningless, by the time you’re naked, you realize that it wasn’t something to be arguing over in the first place. Bonus, you’re already naked 😉 However, communication is key to any long standing relationship. Don’t forget that.

    Also, don’t forget to say I love you out of nowhere. It becomes so routine, that it’s nice to get a random I love you text in the middle of the day.

    Lastly, never stop dating. We get so caught up in our everyday lives/routine that we forget why we got married in the first place. Whether it’s once a week or once a month, make time for a date night/day. Go be a tourist in your city/state, dinner and a movie, or cook dinner together and cozy up to a movie at home. Put away the computers and cell phones and enjoy each other! Don’t let life get in the way of love. –Ashley

  • Love isn’t always a feeling. Meaning, there will be times in your marriage when you don’t feel like being very loving or your husband isn’t being very lovable, but you act like a loving wife anyway. –Friend

  • If it won’t matter in 20 years, its not worth fighting over now.

    For him: If you are in a situation in which you need to choose between your mother or your wife, always choose your wife! –Amy

  • Be Kind. -Friend
  • Put God as the ultimate center and head of your marriage. Think of 1 nice thing about your spouse and give him/her at least 1 nice compliment everyday. –Joanne

  • Never, ever go to bed angry with each other.If it’s bothering you, speak up as soon as possible.Otherwise, it’s not worth your time.Life is way too short so speak up if it matters to you. –Laura

  • Always fall asleep touching! There’s something beautifully powerful to feeling the peace, safety and comfort of knowing each of you are only one small touch away. So, why not, no matter how tired, worn out, satisfied or hurt you may be when you lay down your head on the pillow at night, just make one small move towards connecting in such a simple way! –Rhiannon

  • Learn what God’s design is for marriage, what His role is for wives, and be obedient to that role and calling. The world’s ideas are so contrary to God’s plan, but following His plan and design, being obedient to that calling, will bring innumerable blessings beyond comprehension! –Melissa & Robert Pallone

  • Never go to bed angry at each other. Sometimes holding to the “never” isn’t possible, because life happens, but in those instances, make an action plan for when you are going to work through whatever is wrong and promise each other that you’ll individually work on forgiving yourselves and your spouse. This prevents grudges and unsolved issues. We always feel stronger and closer after this process so that we can rest a little easier that night. –Anna & Josh Goodman

  • I’ll give you the best advice I got at my wedding: Keep God first and never shower alone 😉 –Kaylin & Gregory Spurrier

  • Go to bed angry! In my marriage and relationship skills class they talked about when to HALT an argument and put it aside for later. H(hungry) A(angry) L(lonely) T(tired). Those important conversations can wait until you are rested, thinking clearly, and no longer emotionally charged. Sometimes you will find that sleep will solve the little problems that seemed big at the time all by itself. “Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved.” –Elizabeth

  • I’ll give you the best advice I got at my wedding: Keep God first and never shower alone 😉 – Kaylin & Gregory Spurrier
  • The best advice I can give is always be able to communicate with each other. Also always be able to laugh together. Being able to talk and laugh with each other makes everything so much better and stronger. – Courtney & Kevin Mole
  • Communicate, communicate, COMMUNICATE!! Don’t assume your spouse automatically KNOWS what you’re thinking, wanting, expecting, excited about, struggling with, angry about, or simply that you love him/her. You have to let them know and seek to work through the difficulties by talking through them together, using God’s Word to solve problems. –  Molly & Steve Stillwell
  • Do “it” when you don’t FEEL like it–forgive, make love, laugh, go the extra mile, compromise. Right emotions follow right actions. Embrace anything you perceive as a body flaw, because he won’t see it…you’ll just be beautiful to him…believe him when he says it. – Johanna & Michael Moak
  • Always be completely open and honest!  Just laugh off the little things – what may seem like little annoyances in the beginning will make you smile later on and say, “yep that’s my husband!” – Liz (& Zack) Dees
  • Hi Congratulations!! NEVER NEVER MENTION the word divorce don’t ever put it on the table in arguments and itll never be a temptation during the heat of the moment. – Jodi & Brandon Jaggers
  • Learn to pick your battles. Some things aren’t worth arguing over, even if it means you know you’re right be don’t say it. However, if something is important to you, stand your ground. – Lori
  • Always listen to each other and find that happy medium. Marriage is not you or me, is us, so even if you not agree on everything, compromise a little and find that middle where you both can be happy. – Glenda Morrison
  • When your husband is ready to ‘throw in the towel’, you fight for your marriage and vice versa. As long as one of you is always fighting, then your marriage will stay strong! The key is never giving in at the same time 🙂 We all have ‘moments’ when it feels too hard…you just can not have them at the same time! – Reader
  • Never stop dating your spouse! Life can be CRAZY with work, friends, kids, but setting aside a time for just you and your sweetie can make such a different in your life. Whether it’s a movie date or setting out on a new adventure together, it’s the fact that you are making valuable memories TOGETHER. – Diva Heather Butler
  • The opportunity to do FOR your spouse, is just that, an opportunity.  It’s not a chore, and remember it’s not a tally sheet.  You have a chance to make life easier for the person you love, that is a gift.  Choose to give it every chance you get. – Amanda Barbercheck-King
  • Remember that both of you come from different communication backgrounds and that it is ok to disagree or argue. It is ok if you both need some space for a little bit to think and calm down. Remember to always reconcile and come together after a fight. Also in my experience it is always ok to go to bed mad. Almost every time we do, we wake up feeling refreshed and not as angry as the night before. Also remember to do fun things together and make memories before kids come along. Stay up late binge watching Netflix, have sleepovers in the living room, try adventurous foods, make new couple friends and most importantly: TRAVEL!  – Kayley Wilson
  • Always remember that in marriage, it is NOT a 50/50 relationship. It is 100/100. Give 100% of your effort. Especially when your spouse isn’t able. Stop keeping score.  – Kari
  • Pray together!  Hold hands and pray TOGETHER.  My husband and I either embrace each other or just holds hands every morning before we leave and recite the Lord’s Prayer together.  At night when we go to bed we lay in bed, holding hands and one of us will pray again giving thanks for the day and for protection for the day ahead. One thing we know for sure…the couple that prays together, stays together!  Congratulations!!! – Angie & Pete Tuitel
  • Be patient, be kind, pick your battles & always try to put yourself in your spouses shoes.– Friend
  • Always be willing to serve first, forgive the fastest, and love the most. Congratulations! – Shelli
  • Make the decision from the beginning that there is no out. That this is going to work. Stay dedicated to that through the awesome times, but even the hard times that will come as well. Be willing to accept your spouse as they are, not as you want them to be, realizing that the person you marry today will change. We all do! But, that can be a really great and fun experience if you go in accepting that from the start. LAUGH. Be willing to laugh at yourself and laugh with your spouse. PLAY. Don’t ever get to old to have fun. Make sure to remember to have fun with each other, making your spouse not only your husband/wife, but your friend. – Jessica Stahl
  • Congratulations! My husband and I don’t argue often, that doesn’t mean we don’t have bad days at work and get frustrated. We all come home and feel like just picking a fight sometimes. We hate to admit it, but it’s human nature to blow off some steam! On nights like this when we know we are “in the mood to argue" we try to argue about things that would never hurt each other’s feelings. We argue about things that have nothing to do with each other. We stay on topic and sometimes it gets heated. But we walk away knowing we are still a team with opposing views.  Last time we “got into it,” it was over Home Owners Associations! Hahahah! You get to feel like you are blowing off steam and fighting but again, you walk away still feeling good about each other and no one has their feelings hurt. -Ashley & Matt Gootee
  • Coffee in bed! My husband and I used to have breakfast in bed almost every Sunday and talk and daydream and read the paper and just hang out… now we have a toddler in our bed EVERY Saturday AND Sunday morning, but we still share a mug of coffee in bed and simply enjoy being together (and reading picture books out loud in funny voices). – Britta Bichowski
  • Don’t run to your mom or girlfriends every time you have a fight. You two will make up and forgive & forget.  Your mom and friends will NEVER forget! – Valerie
  • Enjoy the quiet moments, when all there is to do is be together! – Reader
  • Always strive to uplift each other. If you love each other, you make it work. Whatever that “it” may be at the time.-Ginny
  • My best wishes to you and your husband to be, Natalie! Love and Honor him by respecting yourself and never ever talking in anger. Appreciate her as much as you can because when a woman loves, she does with her heart and soul. “HAND IN HAND; HEART WITH HEART!” I wish you both all the best now and always do things hand in hand to make decisions more sound and heart with heart to live in peace knowing you both become one! Lots of love! – Clar
  • Never go to bed angry!-Liz
  • Don’t be selfish. Think of your spouse’s feelings first. If both of you do that, you’ll have a loving, self-sacrificing romance for the rest of your lives.-Annie
  • Even when you’re mad, kiss each other goodnight. – Jamie
  • Hopefully, you are marring your best friend – so, remember, you will NOT agree on everything.  Make a pact to agree to disagree sometimes.  That can be done without being disagreeable! – Sara Hanvey
  • You must put each other first, no matter how busy you get when you become crazy dance mom or a soccer mom! Your husband is priority 1 and will be happier if you are always there when he needs you to fill all his many needs and there are many. Be best friends and always hold hands in public. Be his girlfriend always – Cheryl
  • Remember you’re on the same team! Not competing against each other! – Friend
  • I have found there are three main factors in a lasting marriage… forgiveness, laughter and lots of love! Date each other, do special things together, and spend quality time together. Pick your battles, and forgive quickly. Best wishes to you both! – Ang & Kenneth Mayes
  • Marriage really isn’t a union you can prepare for. It’s all about on-the-job training. In my opinion, that’s the whole point of making the commitment up front. You don’t know what you’re getting into, whether it’s the morning after or ten years down the road. People change and they stay the same. Often, it seems the things we want to change stay the same and the things we wish would stay the same change. But therein lies the beauty of the commitment. It says, “I don’t yet know all of who you are or who you will become. I choose to love you for who you are now, all of you that I know and even the bits of you I may not be aware of yet, and I choose to continue loving you even when you may not be the same person you are today.” – Amy Hutchisson
  • Hmm,the best advice I can offer, is to do your best to keep things new and fresh. I always listen to the things my wife talks about with her friends. and i take all of the information and do things accordingly throughout the year, doesn’t really have to be a special occasion. Guys always come to me asking for advice on date ideas for their wives now, LOL! We have been together almost 12 years now, things still feel pretty fresh for us… I wish you guys the best!!! – Antwon
  • Beloved, make your homes a world of peace, an oasis of romance, an island of hope, a sea of creativity, a plethora of sex & an institute of innovation! Congratulations! – Adrienne E. Bell
  • Know each other’s Love Language. Also if you find yourselves in a battle, call a time out -meaning: each of you ‘get more sleep!’  (and for the bride – read ‘The Queens Code’ ) – Valery
  • Love is not as much of a feeling as it is a choice. Every morning choose to love each other. There may be days when you don’t ‘feel’ the love, but you can still choose to love. – Sarah Loncar
  • First, Congratulations! My advice for the both of you is that your spouse should never be number one in your life. I know this goes against everything our culture says, but your spouse should always be number two. Your relationship with Jesus Christ should be number one, then your relationship with your spouse with fall into place. Blessings to the both of you as you celebrate this joyous time! – Crystal & Todd Tucker
  • Even if you’re fighting or upset with eachother always sleep in the same bed. Just by sharing a bed and being able to reach over and touch the one you love, you will feel better about your life, it also aids in communication and energy exchange between the two of you! – Keeley
  • It is not a lack of love….it is rather a lack of Friendship and communication that makes unhappy marriages! Always make time for FUN! – Friend
  • Don’t feel like you have to go out to go on a date. Stay in, pour a glass of wine or two, order in food, and put on a movie or watch your favorite show. Simplicity is the best. – Candance
  • CONGRATS!!! Enjoy being engaged. Show off that ring and try to remember every detail of the proposal. Journal about the experience. When planning, FORCE yourself to enjoy the wedding planning process, even when you get stressed. Take your time. Relax. Have fun! Choose things YOU want for the wedding because you WON’T be able to please everyone. You won’t. And it’s okay because it’s YOUR WEDDING!!! Oh, things won’t go as planned, so roll with it and be HAPPY YOU ARE MARRIED!!! 😀 – Annemarie Chamberlin
  • Communication and commitment are key in a marriage! You have to communicate with each other and be on the same page! Going into a marriage with commitment is also a must. Any marriage can fail without being fully committed. It’s hard work, but it’s a definite must to make it last! Good luck! – Katy
  • Make your relationship the first priority. – Heather & Rich Betzold 
  • Never underestimate the power of small gestures and thank yous.– Michelle & Chris Bommarito
  • Never go to bed angry….even if it means you stay up till 3:00 am talking about things.  The longer a fight drags out, the harder it becomes to let it go. Congrats on the engagement!!! – Joann & Chuckie Pagano 
  • Honor each others feelings. Treat each other with respect. Seek opportunities to encourage each other. Go on a date at least once a week. Flirt with each other. Never go to bed angry/mad. Always kiss each morning and each night. – Veronica
  • Love your spouse as THEY want to be loved (not as you do! These often aren’t the same and may take some investigating on your part!) -Amber
  • Love isn’t black and white, right or wrong, yes or no.  Love is the gray area, the give and take, the giving up of your pride to make the other one happy, the beautiful compromise. – Amie Gould
  • A great marriage requires falling in love over and over again. But always, always with the same person! Never stop trying to learn about your spouse, and never stop holding hands! – Brande
  • Tell your spouse how you feel when you feel it. Don’t let feelings fester and grow like fungus. Discuss, attack (the issue), and love again. 🙂 – Dalys Geraets
  • Whenever we take off our wedding bands (surgery), our spouse puts it back on our wedding finger and seals it with a Kiss. Works for us, almost 30 years. – Linda & John Martin
  • Never stop holding each other’s hands. Whether you are walking together, sitting beside each other, whatever you are doing reach out and grab his (her) hand. It connects you without words. It communicates “I’m right here,” It’s a symbolic joining of your lives together. – Vanessa Bockover
  • Kiss and cuddle every single day! Even if you only get a quick out-the-door peck, get your daily dose of spousal affection, no matter what. – Clarise & Adolfo Villalpando 
  • Communication is the key. No matter how tired, busy or occupied you are, don’t forget to talk to each other. Say “I love you” daily and cherish every moment! – Jane
  • Always say please and thank you to one another. You’ll be surprised how many people don’t. – Heather
  • Stay strong for each other even if everything doesn’t go your way. – Gaucha
  • FOR NATALIE: Always be kind! Men are not as tough as they seem to be on the exterior! Even when he deserves it, temper your admonishments and criticisms with loving kindness. FOR HER FIANCÉ: Love her tenderly through all of her emotions. Even when she seems angry or indifferent, she needs hug and your understanding. Be her rock through thick and thin.  She will cherish your thoughtfulness! – Alicia Moore
  • Make time for sex. This is a huge part of marriage for your husband, and where you will get him connected the most. As long as love is alive all other parts of life seem to just flow along! Even when things are tense, make time to be intimate, it will keep the atmosphere between you and hubby comfortable and open! – Nicole & Ty Harty
  • Sweet, Sweet Natalie….My Marriage advice for you is that Communication is key! I cannot stress that enough. There will be hard times, EVERY marriage has them. You need to talk, touch base, and have at least one date night per month. Spend time on yourselves, and Marriage classes down the road will be a Godsend! One more, never go to bed angry and Always kiss each other Good night! Congratulations!!!!!!! – Kimberly
  • CONGRATULATIONS on your upcoming marriage! How exciting. My advice to you is to always put your marriage first. Yes, even after you have children, your marriage should be first. Also, continue to date each other after you are married. Your children need stable, happy parents and watching you put each other first will have a great impact not only on their childhood, but on what they accept from a partner when they are adults. Also, when you put each other first and continue to date, you will continue to know each other through your journey, so when your kids are grown, you will have grown together, not apart, and you will have rewarding and happy twilight years as well.– Katherine Clegg
  • Always communicate and NEVER go to bed angry! Put God first and all will fall into place. Always respect his decision and even if you don’t agree with his choices be supportive and be a helper to him not a burden. Love, love, love each other daily. Always remember to compliment each other and date each other often, because whatever it took to get him you will need to do that in order to keep him!! Best wishes on a happy & successful marriage!!! – Deone
  • The best way to keep the spark going is never stop having fun with each other! Don’t let bills, housework, work etc. come in between you. If life feels too serious go see a comedy! Coulkes who play together, always stay together! Good luck and God bless 🙂 – Toni & Lee Sutcliffe Whyte
  • Hi Natalie, My best advice is to not put your issues onto one another and when an argument arises remember: you and him vs. the problem. Warm regards, Toni Bergquist
  • Make sure you laugh everyday with each other. It doesn’t matter what you are laughing about but do something that will make you both have a good laugh. Another good piece of advice is never leave the house without saying I love you no matter how long you’ll be gone or if the other one is sleeping. They might get a little irritated by being woken up but it will make you feel so loved to know that they couldn’t leave you without letting you know how much they love you.– Crystal Hampton
  • A couple pieces of advice….1) listen 100% more than you talk! 2) When you feel like giving up, stop, pray, and wait. Never make serious, especially emotional, decisions when seriously stressed or overwhelmed with emotion. Time, prayer, and love put things in a very different light! All the best!! – Paula & Rex Termeer
  • Never talk bad about your spouse! Not to your friends, family, people at work NO ONE! Always paint them in the best light and pray they are doing the same for you. You are a team and nothing breaks up a team like hearing that the person you trust most in the world is talking poorly about you behind your back! – Diva Jessica Keck & husband Branden
  • Always make time to talk… With the technology wave, people stopped communicating! Always make time to talk together. – Allyson
  • My advice is  – always keep open communication between each other and never forget He’s your best friend. Accept him for who he is and love with all you got. Lastly – keep them hands & feet cute, girrrll!! lol, they can never say no to foot rubs if you have well kept toes 😉 – Jessica Abbott
  • You’ll walk down the aisle soon, and (hopefully) have this amazing GUT feeling that you just KNOW this is the RIGHT thing.  Remember how that feels.  Harness the power of that extreme amount of KNOWINGNESS.  Some day down the road, you’ll likely question your marriage… everyone goes through something and questions at some point, and it is a horrible feeling.  Future you might wonder if you were just young and stupid trusting in your gut when you said “I will.” No. If you truly feel the moment is right NOW, then you aren’t wrong (it’ll be the future you that’s wrong). Harness that and stick it in your back pocket.  It will save your marriage and keep you together when/if the time comes that you start to question things. OH – and talk to one another about the things that bother you, don’t complain to others about it.  That just makes those things bother you even more, and encourages others to talk bad about your spouse to you. All you’ll do is make yourself miserable as well as your spouse, who won’t know what they’re doing that’s bothering you! – Amy
  • Live on just one income. That way if you work, one income can be saved or go toward making large purchases (furniture, appliances, down payments on cars or homes). Also, if/when you decide to have children, you’ll already be accustomed to living on one income and can have the freedom to be a SAHM if you wish! – Genita
  • “Never stop growing together. Always communicate & be Best Friends.”
    My wife & I were finally able to get married (#lovewins) after being together for 23 years. The above “words of wisdom” come from our many years together. – Reader
  • Always choose Oneness. Never speak ill of your husband. Love assumes the best about the other person. Trust me counts.– Karissa
  • Enjoy your lives together- the ups and the downs. Things may not be perfect every minute of every day you spend together, but being able to look back on all of the great things you have accomplished together helps you get past those bumps in the road and will make your relationship stronger! – Casey & Aaron Ward
  • Laugh a lot together – Samantha
  • This is something fun that my wife and I do. We put these letters where the other will find them and when you find them you have to give them back. The letters are “SHMILY” it stands for See How Much I Love You! We work in a school together so I will write it on her white board, or put it on a sticky note attached to her computer screen. At times I will find it in my lunch, or on the visor of the car. SHMILY! – Kurt
  • Remember to let things go. There will always be things that annoy you about your spouse. Remember that you didn’t fall in love with them to change them. Accept them and let things go. In the long run the little things that bug you don’t really amount to much! – Roseanna & David Robison
  • Make sure you take time for yourselves.  Sometimes its easy to forget that those dates that brought the two of you so close are important.  Take at least one date a month just to talk and laugh together.  Xoxo – Cortney & Ben Dunnigan
  • Always start and end each day with a kiss and an “I love you!” – Michele
  • Once a month have a date night at home. Take out your best china, silverware and glassware and use it. Even if you get take out Chinese food and put that on the plates. Make it fancy – light some candles and enjoy! – Karen
  • Don’t give up! Some people say the first year of marriage is the hardest, for my husband and I it took 3-4 years to become fully in sync. We both have strong independent personalities and I was used to doing everything myself. It was hard to “give up control” and once we figured out what worked for us everything fell into place.– Cassandra
  • When life is stressful and pulling you both in different directions; Sometimes having a picnic on the living room floor is the best date ever.  Perhaps some candles and wine? – Melissa Miller
  • No matter what try your best to never go to sleep mad at each other. My grandma and grandpa lived by this rule and they have been married for 67 years. Good luck and I wish you both a beautiful marriage – Stephanie
  • Treasure every good day because when you don’t agree on something, you’ll need to remember why you love each other sooooooo much. Congratulations! -Endia
  • Be humble with each other. Don’t take each other for granted. Enrich and support each other even when times get rough! Most importantly, love one another very very much. Love and respect xo.– Joana Pimentel
  • When times are tough remember to HUG each other for a few minutes.  It really does help me and my husband of 15 years, when life is kicking you the physical contact helps us remember we are being kicked together and that makes it easier to bear 🙂 – Shauna & Josh B.
  • No matter what, stand by each other and do not give up.  Times will get tough, things will happen, but if you remember the love you have for one another today, it will help you when the going is the worst.– Tom
  • Be HONEST ALWAYS.  No matter if you think it will hurt your partner, remember they are your partner and will stand by will stand by you at all times. – Kim
  • Keep your love focused on the Vision of your future and your generations to come. My father used to say that the line between love and hate is a very thin one and can be broken in an instant and go from Love to Hate. Work on this love together. Make the little things meaningful. – Laretta &  Joseph Spitzenberger
  • A marriage is made up of 2 imperfect people. NEVER forget that. Don’t expect perfection from him. Say what you mean. Don’t play word games. Thank him for the little things (taking out the trash, cleaning out the car, carrying in groceries, etc). Best wishes!! – Pamela Bowden
  • Early on in our marriage, my husband said to me “We are part of the same team” that is my marriage motto to live by! Anything I can do to help another of my team members and contribute, I am all for it! – Peggy
  • I used to be a banker and have lots of advice for those you are joining together. Do your finances together. At the end of each month calculate your expenses, pay your bills, pay yourself and your savings, and save a bit for a special trip.Too many of us divorce due to financial stress and arguments when we don’t have to. It should be about each other, not the money :). – Britney
  • NEVER take each other for granted and thank your spouse for even the smallest things that they do for you.  ALWAYS be attentive and put their needs ahead of yours.  If you both do this, it is a blissfully, happy, forever marriage!  Good luck. – Terri
  • Listen to each other…and I mean listen with not just your ears, but your heart too. Be understanding and always be compassionate. – Tiffany Bush
  • The number one key to a successful marriage is communication. The reconnection keeps you going, face to face with each other every chance you get-date nights make a difference-even if it’s just a drive and a cup of coffee together. Eventually, all we will have left after life happens is talking to and listening to our spouse-so learn the skill and work to perfect it now! – Karen
  • Find out your spouse’s love language early on and learn how to speak that language for them!! – Chelan
  • If it’s a nice day, take a walk together. Something about the fresh air, sunshine, and exercise always gets us talking about our future together. -Kate and Rob
  • At the end of the day, always find a little time to share your day with your partner (and vice-versa).  Best of luck xox – Melissa
  • My advise is treat your marriage like a box. Put more into than you ever take out and it will always be full. – Kas
  • ZOOM OUT! Always try to look at the big picture. When faced with small or tough, hard decisions, always zoom out and make decisions from a broader view, it allows you to see just how important the decision is and the role it plays in the priorities of your life. Congratulations! – Laura
  • We are now in our 42nd Anniversary of a Blissful married life. There are only 3 simple guidelines:  Argue but don’t fight. Keep conversation going as if nothing happened….and finally KISS whenever and wherever. A kiss is a good healer, a fantastic love-sparkle. God Bless you both. – Gorg Sciberras
  • Don’t ever let divorce be an option – keep your vows.– Marianne
  •   Communicate with words! You can’t read each others minds. Laugh every day. Don’t spend more time with anyone else than you do your spouse. Put yourself in their shoes. Pick your battles and let the little things go. Never give up on each other. Be grateful for each other. -Sarah
  • There will be good times and there will be tough times. In all those moments your motto should be “this must work.” – Alex Ndubai
  • Always try new things & the things that you don’t really like to do may be way more fun with your lifetime love! Again, Congratulations & I wish you the greatest of lifetimes together!– Megan
  • Pray together, laugh together, always plan adventures together. Be your own person and challenge yourself to grow individually so you can enhance your marriage. – Michelle (happily married over 16 years)
  • In a marriage there is always growth and change. No one in the beginning of a marriage is never the same five, ten, or fifteen years down the line. If you always keep that in the front of your mind you will be able to adapt gracefully and have a full satisfying marriage!! Maturing together is wonderful! -Denise Wiley
  • They say the key word to relationship is communication but sometimes your significant other also need space, private time to themselves when angry, emotional, or hurt. Don’t pressure him/her to talk until he/she is ready to.  -Thomasita & Paul John
  • NEVER stop pursuing each other! – Serena
  • Find hobbies to enjoy together that will last long after the kiddo’s are grown & gone! Let It Go! – When you have petty disagreements – Don’t hang onto them; It’s just not worth it! Choose joy!- Jennifer Garcia
  • If real love exist both ways, learn how to say your sorry regardless which party did the wrong. Real love will do everything to keep each-other happy. – Jeri
  • Treat all of the little moments together with as much importance as the big events.  All of those little moments — pushing the cart through the grocery aisles, folding laundry, crashing on the couch after work — can strengthen or weaken your marriage, so make them count! – Olivia
  • Arguing leads to no victories. Take a deep breath, step back, and come back to talk, and REALLY talk things through. It’s so easy to let anger control your words (which aren’t so easy to take back), so when both of you are more calm, ask them to explain their side, then yours. This helps each of you to see the others point of view and how they feel about it. And if words were said, say sorry. It’s the hardest best thing to start the make up process. Best wishes!! – Patricia
  • Stay young and playful just like the first date you had, remember? Never let the passion for each other die. – Elvy
  • Always respect each other.– Lorene
  • Remind yourself every day about something that makes you love your spouse! Some days this will be hard to do, but there is always something to love! – Aimee
  • My mother told me two things. First don’t ask yourself if you can live with this person but rather ask if you can live without them. I know I can’t live with out my hubby and we are happy going on 14 years. The second thing was what works for your relationship is not always what is right for others, so if it works for your marriage, keep doing it. Congrats from our family to yours! – Claire
  • Above everything else, communicate! Share what you like and what you dislike. Ask about what your husband/wife likes and dislikes. Learn from each other & your love will grow beyond anything you dreamt possible. My best to both of you! – Melissa Webster
  • You love each other as you are. Never think of changing your loved one, anyway, anytime. Accept your beloved as she/he is. Being so has brought us full happiness and sheer bliss. Congrats and love.– Philippe
  • Make an effort to go away every year to celebrate your anniversary.  I know as the years go on it gets harder but it’s very important to make your marriage a priority and get away and leave the kids at home! – Tara Vecrumba
  • Never ever stop dating each other. – Jill
  • Make plans for a weekly or monthly date night…and stick to it!! This is especially important after children come into the mix. A family is only as strong as the marriage that holds it together. Good luck! – Andrea Lauer
  • TRUST: that is the most important thing in a marriage. If you question something they say or do. Don’t stew on it but ask them without being condemning. This is the person you’ve chosen to spend the rest of your life with, you should be able to discuss everything. It’s hard don’t get me wrong. But it makes all the difference. All love and prayers to both of you!! – Marilyn Hall
  • Be honest with each other. Even when it is uncomfortable.– Erica
  • Celebrate everything!! Birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, Easter, Pet’s birthdays…You get the gist 😉 Always have a reason to have fun, love and laughter every month of the year! xxx – Emma Manley
  • 1.From day one, establish that divorce will never be an option. During any difficult times purpose to fight towards one another and not away, and take up the fight together and you will have victory.  2. Be careful not to be more emotionally connected with anyone, than you are with one another.  Celebrating your lifelong love! – Jule (blessed in marriage 29 years)
  • Dear Natalie and fiance, I am a happily (thank God!) newlywed from beautiful Hellas (Greece) and I truly wish you both the very best from the bottom of my heart. I’ll share with you advice that our priest gave us on our  wedding day: “May you always love and respect each other and may you always try to be better, not for yourselves, but mostly for your other half. Always remember the day of your wedding and try to live everyday like this beautiful day and always love each other this much!” Best wishes. – Maria
  • Don’t be so serious, laugh and have fun together, like when you 1st meet!– Jeannie
  • Believe the best in your spouse.  Give each other the benefit of the doubt and choose to operate in the mindset that they love you and have your best interest at heart. Congratulations!! – Megan
  • A woman always has the last say in an argument. Anything that the man says afterwards is just the start of a new argument. – Peter
  • When we were going through pre-marriage counseling, I was asked to define love.  I defined it as “a choice to act apart from feeling.”  Later, my grandmother stated “a 3 cord strand is not easily broken, it’s deliberately unraveled one piece at a time.” At the time I was getting married and newly married I had no idea how much these two statements would help me through the hardest moments of my marriage.    When conflict and disagreement ran high and it’d be easier to just sleep on the couch, I heard that still small voice say “it’s deliberately unraveled, choose love” and so I would hug him and say “I’m sorry”  It wasn’t always easy, but it always gave us hope that we could push through. – Tiffany
  • Share a deep friendship with your spouse as well as a bed! Laugh way too much and date each other always!– Taylor Skelton
  • Be comfortable in living your own separate lives but together. Appreciate the uniqueness in each of your interests and support one another’s hobbies and pursuits. But don’t feel like you have to do everything together all the time. I love living my life next to my husband living his.– Anna
  • Be each other’s cheerleader. Respect each other and build each other up.Always be kind.
    Always remember birthdays and special events:) -Natasha
  • Save your best self for each other rather than give it all away to other projects/work/strangers.  Enduring love starts with true friendship and letting God be the leader of your marriage. – Teresa
  • Love grows deep. The ooey gooey mushy puppy love won’t last forever. But the more you learn about each other, the deeper you will learn to appreciate and respect each other. Your love will grow deeper and stronger, so when the tough times come, your love will remain rooted and established. Congratulations! – Amanda Beard
  • Marriage is a lot of work! Be devoted to making it work everyday! Always have a ear to listen and take the time to talk often! No day is too busy for each other. Stay playful and always say I love you! Best of luck to you both! – Joanie Blackmore
  • TALK! Talk about absolutely everything. If the conversation leads to hurt feelings take at least a twenty minutes away from each other without speaking, then come back together and TALK more.– Nakisha Carroll
  • Every day you must catch each other doing something right and comment on it.There is nothing more discouraging than trying to please the other person and not getting it right.There are as many ways to do a job as there are people so give each other room to do a job differently than you would do it And express gratitude. –Shanna Wheeler

  • Keep the communication. I have been with my husband 36years, Times get hard but with love, you will get through things. Congrats! –Sue

  • Never be afraid to communicate, for it is the key to eternal happiness! –Kat

  • Make sure laughter is prominent in your marriage.It has saved my husband and I a lot of dirty fights because we were able to find humor and make the other laugh. –Michelle

  • Forgive as much as you can,we all make mistakes.Then go forward with your life. –Terri

  • 1)Each day share with your spouse One thing about them you are grateful for…different thing each day! Yes you will discover more each passing day!

    2)Whatever disagreement you have settle, seek forgiveness and make amends before you go to bed!

    3) Read Gary Chapmans book on Five Love Languages together!!! Speak your love in the language your spouse will best recieve it!! Gods richest blessing on your “till death do we part” journey! –Margie Heard

  • Wash his dishes, cook his meals,

    Raise a family, pray together,

    Spend his money, share your thrills

    Through clear and stormy weather

    Help him with work then help him play,

    Always do your part,

    But most important along life’s way-

    Always protect his heart. –Teresa Camp

  • Conversations can be the most important part of a relationship. Beauty may fade, but your partner’s ability to make you laugh or challenge your thoughts will last forever. –Leigh

  • Sorry but I have 3 things I’d like to share

    1.On your wedding pic or engagement pic, each of you either write or have printed the things you truly love about each other.even write the small things he/she does.The key is to always focus on the those things, especially when you are angry with each other.The point is to read those things when you are mad each other so that the thing you are mad about doesn’t seem so bad!There will be times that you don’t like each other very much, but as long as you can focus on what you love about each other everyday then your love will only grow stronger.And never, and I mean never focus on the things you dislike, never speak about these things to your friends!This is the man/woman that you chose to love and stand by your side.

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    Positive Marriage Quotes

    words of wisdom for the happy couple

    Of course the most popular advice of all is: ‘don’t get married’. On the serious note, the first thing is the couple needs to care deeply about the other person, and willing to put the other’s needs before their own.

    Both of them have to make a daily commitment to stick it out, whatever woes they encounter along the way.

    Another important tip for a successful and lasting relationship is they need to engage in regular and honest conversation. And never ever go to sleep on an argument.

    Both must know this sacred axiom:’Don’t let the in-laws interfere’.

    Whatever it is, let’s find out more about from these best marriage advice quotes for newlyweds, before you tie the nuptial knot.


    “Don’t go to bed angry at each other.”– Unknown

    “Happily ever after is not a fairy tale. It’s a choice.”– Fawn Weaver

    (Happy Wives Club)

    “A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”– Dave Meurer

    (If You Want Breakfast in Bed, Sleep in the Kitchen, p.17)

    “A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.”– Ruth Bell Graham

    (A Quiet Knowing)

    “When entering into a marriage one ought to ask oneself: do you believe you are going to enjoy talking with this woman up into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory, but most of the time you are together will be devoted to conversation.”– Friedrich Nietzsche

    (Nietzsche: Human, All Too Human: A Book for Free Spirits, Translated by R. J. Hollingdale, sec.7 Woman And Child,406)

    “We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.”– Sam Keen

    (To Love And Be Loved)

    “The best friend will probably get the best wife, because a good marriage is based on a talent for friendship.”– Friedrich Nietzsche

    (Human, All Too Human, Translated by R. J. Hollingdale, sec.7, Woman And Child; 377)

    “A long-lasting marriage is built by two people who believe in and live by he solemn promise they made.”– Darlene Schacht

    (Time-Warp Wife)

    “Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.”– Unknown

    “One does not fall “in” or “out” of love. One grows in love.– Leo Buscagalia

    (Love: What Life Is All About, p.92)

    “In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything and two minus one equals nothing.”– Mignon McLaughlin

    (The Complete Neurotic’s Notebook, 1981)

    “Love is a partnership of two unique people who bring out the very best in each other, and who know that even though they are wonderful as individuals, they are even better together.”– Unknown

    “The first to apologize is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest. The first to forget is the happiest.”– Unknown

    “Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit.”– Peter Ustinov

    (BBC Ustinov’s Comic Touch)

    “The most desired gift of love is not diamonds or roses or chocolate. It is focused attention.”– Rick Warren

    (The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For?)

    “Marriage, at best, is but a vow. Which all men either break, or bow.”– Butler.

    (The Lady’s Answer to the Knight, line 155)

    “You don’t marry one person; you marry three: the person you think they are, the person they are, and the person they are going to become as a result of being married to you.”– Unknown

    “To keep your marriage brimming, with love in the wedding cup, whenever you’re wrong, admit it; whenever you’re right, shut up.”– Ogden Nash

    (Marriage Line: Notes of a Student Husband, Volume 368, A Word To Husband; p.79)

    “Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness.”– Oliver Wendell Holmes

    (A Mortal Antipathy; p.246)

    “Marriage: a community consisting of a master, a mistress, and two slaves, making in all, two.” – Ambrose Bierce

    (The Devil’s Dictionary)

    ”No one can go back and change how it started but a new future for any marriage can begin the moment one person begins to invest in it.”– Fawn Weaver

    (Happy Wives Club)

    “In the opinion of the world, marriage ends all ; as it does in a comedy. The truth is precisely the reverse. It begins all. So they say of death, “It is the end of all things.” Yes — just as much as marriage.”– Anne Sophie  Swetchine

    (The Writings Of Madame Swetchine, Thoughts, On The World, – On The Affections.- On Different Ages, – On Politics, Chapter II, LXVIII.; p.69)

    “Success in marriage is not finding the right wife, but rather finding the right soul-mate.” – Quotationize

    “The bonds of matrimony [….] are like any other bonds – they mature slowly.” – Peter De Vries

    (Comfort Me With Apples: A Novel)

    “Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb. It isn’t something you get. It’s something you do. Its the way you love your partner every day.”– Barbara De Angelis

    (Are You the One for Me?, Real Moments; p.158)

    “There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.”– Ronald Reagan

    (Reagan: A Life In Letters; p.61)

    “You want to learn from experience, but you want to learn other people’s experience when you can.”– Warren Buffett

    (The Tao of Warren Buffett, No:45; p.54)

    Marital Advice Quotes

    Love doesn’t sit there like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; re-made everyday, made new.”– Ursula LeGuin

    (The Lathe Of Heaven)

    “…A good marriage is that in which each appoints the other guardian of his solitude….” – Rainer Maria Rilke

    (Letters Of Rainer Maria Rilke 1892 1910, To Emanuel von Bodman Westerwede bei Bremen; August 17, 1901)

    “The more we can laugh together, the more we can connect together. The more we can spend time together, the more we can live together.”– Quotationize

    “Don’t marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can’t live without.”– James C. Dobson

    (Love Must Be Tough, p.92)

    “Love is a flower which turns into fruit at marriage.”– Finnish Proverb

    (Proverbs By Vas Gratian, p.112)

    “Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, half shut afterwards.” – Benjamin Franklin

    (Poor Richard’s Almanac )

    “‎A happy marriage has in it all the pleasures of friendship, all the enjoyment of sense and reason – and indeed all the sweets of life.”– Joseph Addison

    (The Spectator, September 29, 1711, No: 261)

    “Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” – Robert Heinlein

    (Stranger In A Strange Land, XXXIII, Part Four, His Scandalous Career)

    “Marriage is that relation between man and woman in which the independence is equal, the dependence mutual, and the obligation reciprocal.” – Louis Kaufman Anspacher

    (Address, Boston; December 30, 1934)

    “Marriage isn’t just about holding hands, but holding to the passion of love.” – Quotationize

    “Marriage isn’t supposed to make you happy; it is supposed to make you married.” – Frank Pittman

    (Grow Up!: How Taking Responsibility Can Make You a Happy Adult; p.195)

    “Friendship […]is a deep oneness that develops when 2 people, speaking the truth in love to one another, journey together to the same destination.”– Timothy Keller

    (The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Marriage with the Wisdom of God)

    “Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.”– Bruce Lee

    (Bruce Lee: Artist of Life)

    “Marriage, like a submarine, is only safe if you get all the way inside.” – Frank Pittman

    (Grow Up!: How Taking Responsibility Can Make You a Happy Adult; p.195)

    “Marriage has the power to set the course of your life as a whole. If your marriage is strong, even if all the circumstances in your life around you are filled with trouble and weakness, it won’t matter. You will be able to move out into the world in strength.” – Timothy Keller

    (The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Marriage with the Wisdom of God)

    “Let there be spaces in your togetherness.” – Kahlil Gibran

    (The Prophet, Marriage; p.9)

    “In our daily lives, we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but the gratefulness that makes us happy.”– Unknown

    “Marriages are made in heaven and consummated on earth.” – John Lily

    (Mother Bombie by John Lily, 1590, Act IV, sc. I)

    “Marriage is one long conversation, chequered by disputes.” – Robert Louis Stevenson

    (Memories and Portraits: Stevenson’s Vol. 21, ch.XI)

    “Love is blind; friendship closes its eyes.” – Unknown

    “What a happy and holy fashion it is that those who love one another should rest on the same pillow.”– Nathaniel Hawthorne

    (The letters, 1813-1843; p.341)

    “A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short.”– Andre Maurois

    (Call No Man Happy: : Autobiography, 1941; p.299)

    “Marriage always demands the finest arts of insincerity possible between two human beings.”– Vicki Baum

    (‘Zwischenfall in Lohwinckel’, translated by Margaret Goldsmith as ‘Results of an Accident’, 1931; p.140)

    “The more you invest in a marriage, the more valuable it becomes.”– Unknown

    “We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.”– Tom Robbins

    (Still Life With Woodpecker, ch.46, p.122)

    “New love is the brightest and long love is the greatest. But revived love is the tenderest thing known on earth.”– Thomas Hardy

    (The Hand of Ethelberta, 8.Christopher’s Lodgings-The Grounds About Rookington)

    “Courtship to marriage, as a very witty prologue to a very dull play.”– William Congreve

    (The Old Bachelor, Act. X)

    “Marriage does not unite two people; it entangles them.”– Abraham Miller

    (Unmoral Maxims; Marriage And Love; p.21)

    “Many brief follies–that is what you call love. And your marriage puts an end to many brief follies, with a single long stupidity.” – Friedrich Nietzsche

    (Thus Spoke Zarathustra, First Part, On Child And Marriage)

    “The problem with marriage is that it ends every night after making love, and it must be rebuilt every morning before breakfast.”– Gabriel Garcia Marquez

    (Love in the Time of Cholera, ch.4)

    “Love stands opposed to death. It is love, not reason, that is stronger than death. Only love, not reason, gives kind thoughts.”– Thomas Mann

    (The Magic Mountain,  ch.6)

    “Marriage has many pains, but celibacy has no pleasures.”– Samuel Johnson

    (The History of Rasselas, Prince of Abissinia, Ch.26)

    “Love is life. If you miss love, you miss life.”– Leo Buscalglia

    (Speaking Of Love, 1980)

    Newlywed Advice Quotes

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    23 Pieces of the Best Marriage Advice EVER (Collected Over 13 Years)

    words of wisdom for the happy couple

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    Funny advice for marriage

    Advice for bride: don't expect your husband will change after marriage.
    For groom: don't expect your wife won't change!
    On your wedding day, remember you can't buy happiness - but a luxury home and a few sports cars on the driveway could help!
    Advice for man: marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right and the other is... a husband!
    Advice for her: he stole your heart, so steal his last name!
    One piece of advice for a successful marriage - Keep her happy!
    Advice for newlywed: you love each other because you hate the same stuff!
    Funny advice for both: the happiest people don't HAVE the best of everything, they just MAKE the best of everything.
    Funny marriage advice: marriage should not be about looking at each other but looking in the same direction!
    Advice for a husband: never laugh at wife's choices, because you are on of them!
    Don't sweat the small stuff on your wedding day - Your marriage has only just begun!
    Two things are necessary to keep wife happy. First, let her think she's having her own way. And second, let her have it.
    Keep calm! It's only a wedding...
    A simple "I love you" means more than money.
    (American singer Frank Sinatra)
    Funny toast for newlyweds:
    Here's to love and laughter,
    And happily ever after.
    As a husband and wife
    Starts ther new life,
    Let's us toast together
    Their true love forever!

    Funny quotes for newlywed

    Marriage is not always 50-50. Some days you will wake up and may have to give 90% and your spouse will give only 10%. Other days you may give just 25% and your husband will have to put in the rest 75%!
    Five magic words for a successful marriage: I'm sorry, it's my fault!
    Some wedding advice from the wisdom of the ages: Happy Wife, Happy Life!
    Do all things with love!
    You may now update your Facebook status...
    Remember marriage is like a flower - Keep it fed and watered so it can blossom and grow!
    If at the end of the wedding party you are married to the one you love - then everything went perfectly!
    Congratulations! You have found that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.
    Advice for husband: If at first time you don't succeed - try doing it the way your wife told you!
    Congrats on your promotion from "When will you marry?" to "When are you going have babies???"
    Funny quote about marriage: Marriage is a workshop where husband works and wife shops...
    Advice for clever bride: A man can be the head of the house, but a woman is a neck and she may turn the head any direction she wants!
    For woman: from now you can eat whatever you want!

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    Jul 6, 2013 Here is a big list of the best marriage advice quotes for newlyweds and ( Marriage Line: Notes of a Student Husband, Volume 368, A Word To.

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