Quotes on the nature of anger and the many harmful effects of being angry, last but not least also some wisdom on how to overcome it!.
Below you will find our collection of inspirational, wise, and humorous old anger quotes, anger sayings, and anger proverbs, collected over the years from a variety of sources.
A hand ready to hit, may cause you great trouble.
Maori (on anger)
A man in a passion, rides a mad horse.
Ben Franklin (1706-1790)
A quarrelsome man has no good neighbours.
Ben Franklin (1706-1790)
Anger is a short madness.
Horace (65-8 BC)
Anger is often more hurtful than the injury that caused it.
English (on anger)
Anger is one letter short of danger.
Eleanor Roosevelt (1884-1962)
Clouds gather before a storm.
Don't get your back up.
Exaggeration is truth that has lost its temper.
Kahlil Gibran (1883-1931)
Fire in the heart sends smoke into the head.
Hard words break no bones.
If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.
If you kick a stone in anger you will hurt your foot.
Korean (on anger)
Postpone today's anger until tomorrow.
Tagalog (Filipino) (on anger)
Below you will find our collection of inspirational, wise, and humorous old anger quotes, anger sayings, and anger proverbs, collected over the years from a.
If you kick a stone in anger, you’ll hurt your own foot
– Korean Proverb
Some people are angry. Most of them learn anger from their parents and are trapped in a vicious cycle. One of the saddest things is an angry family, in which the parents are angry at the kids, who are angry at their parents, who are angry at their kids…
Anger always comes from frustrated expectations
– Elliott Larson
Some say anger peaks during the teen years. I am not sure this is true for everyone. I know many teens who are joyful and happy. I was angry until I became a teenager, so I believe anger has nothing to do with age and hormones and everything to do with awareness. I think anger is a mindset that clutters our thinking and we are angry because we have poisoned ourselves with thoughts of disappointment and frustration.
For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
Let’s face it, we are all angry at times. We are angry when things do not happen the way we want them to. Anger is a form of extreme disappointment that we think we are directing towards what we believe to be the source of the disappointment, but in fact, we direct it only towards ourselves. When I think of anger, I immediately see a bottle of poison. I remember this quote:
Being angry is like drinking a cup of poison and expecting someone else to die
Some people experience anger towards themselves for the same reasons they are angry with others. Their expectations of themselves do not match reality.
Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured
– Mark Twain
The first thing we need to do is notice when we are angry and when we flood our body with this kind of poison. Anger takes lots of energy and depletes the resources in our body. When I studied Reiki, our teacher told us always to start working on the liver, where anger is stored (think of the word “livid”). When she talked about health, anger was the source of all evil (that and not drinking enough water).
Anger is only one letter short of danger
– Popular Saying
The origin of anger is fear. Fear is a feeling that creates stress from an undesired outcome. It can be fear of uncertainty, fear of losing control, fear of change, fear of failure, fear of wasting time, fear of social exclusion or fear of ridicule, just to name a few. The best way to check this is to think of a situation when you were very angry and ask yourself, “What was I afraid of?” and to keep asking it until you reach the deepest underlying fear.
The angry people are those people who are most afraid
– Dr. Robert Anthon
One of the biggest triggers of anger are “should have”, “could have” and “would have”. If you listen to people speaking, you can tell the level of their frustration and anger by the number of times they use “should have”, “could have” and “would have”. Using them too often in your communication with yourself and others is like playing with fire near a bomb.
Communicating in anger is very risky business. When we are angry, we cannot think clearly. Most of the time, because of our anger, we say and do things that we regret later on.
Anger blows out the lamp of the mind
– Robert Green Ingersoll
If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow
– Chinese Proverbs
Anger, if not restrained, is frequently more hurtful to us than the injury that provokes it
People who fly into a rage always make a bad landing
– Will Rogers
Sarcasm is the second cousin of Anger
– Dr. Buddy Rydell
Expressing anger is a form of public littering
– Willard Gaylin
There are two ways to avoid the self-poisoning of anger. The first way is to change our expectations. The second is to change our reaction when things happen differently from what we expect.
Byron Katie wrote a book called Loving What Is, which I really liked. She came up with a formula to change our expectations. She said if things do not happen the way we expect them to and we hold on to our expectation and wait for things to change accordingly, it is like arguing with God (or reality or nature, you choose).
It is like banging your head against the wall and expecting the wall to move. How much pain do you need to feel in order to understand that walls do not move when you hit them with your head? Similarly, if you expect your child to get an A in math and she keeps getting a C, you have all the proof in the world that your expectations are not connected to reality. Most people in the world live by the irrational rule that says, “Things must be the way I want them to be. Otherwise, life will be intolerable”, and this mindset brings them misery in a form of conflict, friction and heartache (see Irrational Rules of Living: My Way or the Highway).
Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were
– Cherie Carter-Scott
Acceptance is a wonderful cure for anger. Many religions and spiritual systems view acceptance as the source of comfort and calm.
When I was 10 years old, I had a book of tales about wise people. One of them was the story of a man who said, “Something good will come out of this”, no matter what happened to him, good or bad. He was the ultimate believer in good.
I have used his method many times, even to overcome one of the angriest and saddest times in my life, when I lost my two babies. For a long time, I said to myself, “Something good must come out of this pain”. I said that even when it was hard to believe in it. 2 years later, when Tsoof was born, I discovered that lots of good came out of my pain. I had a wonderful baby who has since grown up to be a wonderful person, and I became a better and more appreciative person. It has truly made me a better person.
The anger was a voice in my head, saying, “It shouldn’t have happen”, or, “Things did not happen the way I wanted them to and life is unbearable”. The whole time until Tsoof was born, I was afraid – afraid of uncertainty, afraid that my body would fail me again, afraid of being helpless, afraid of not being able to experience joy anymore, afraid of drowning in sorrow, afraid of giving up, afraid I would only have one child, afraid the pain might stay forever. Sleep was my only refuge.
He who angers you conquers you
– Elizabeth Kenny
Children learn anger from their angry parents, because anger is a habit. Sometimes, they develop anger because their parents are a source of frustration. Many people lie on the therapist’s couch for years learning to say to their parents, “I am angry with you”. If you want to reduce the chances your kids will ever need such therapy, teach them, and give them permission, to say, “I am angry with you”. Many parents do not allow their children to express anger and by that, they punish them twice and double the anger and the feeling of helplessness.
Anger is a fuel. You need fuel to launch a rocket. But if all you have is fuel without any complex internal mechanism directing it, you don’t have a rocket. You have a bomb
– Gil Schwartz
Anger can be easily channeled to make sure things do not get out of proportion and end up in conflict and pain. Expression is a great way to do this. There are many ways to express anger and I recommend exploring all of them to find the best healer for you.
One of the best healers of anger is forgiveness for ourselves and others. The existence of anger means we do not give ourselves or others permission to think, feel or act differently from what we expect. Forgiveness is the cure for this mindset. A lot has been said about forgiveness, but I like this poem and I think it says it all.
by Sydni Masoncup
is not to forget.
is really to remember
that nobody is perfect,
that each of us stumbles
when we want so much to stay upright,
that each of us says things
we wish we had never said,
that we can all forget that love
is more important than being right.
is really to remember
that we are so much more
than our mistakes,
that we are often more kind and caring,
that accepting another’s flaws
can help us accept our own.
is to remember
that the odds are pretty good that
we might soon need to be forgiven ourselves,
that life sometimes gives us more
than we can handle gracefully.
is to remember
that we have room in our hearts to
begin again … and again
Anger is not a healthy feeling. In the story of the two wolves, an old grandfather tells his grandson about two wolves that are constantly fighting inside of us. One is an angry bad wolf and the other is a loving good wolf. When his grandson asks which one of them wins, the grandfather says, “The one you feed!”
Anger is triggered by unmet expectations. It is like a fire that destroys everything and everyone in its path.
If anger is fire, forgiveness is water.
When fire gets out of control, use plenty of water
– Ronit Baras
May the force be with you,
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Awesome Quotes and Sayings About Anger
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Consider how much more you often suffer from your anger and grief, than from those very things for which you are angry and grieved.
The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.
Never go to bed mad. Stay up and fight.
Angry people are not always wise.
~Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice
The best remedy for a short temper is a long walk.
There are three things all wise men fear: the sea in storm, a night with no moon, and the anger of a gentle man.
~Patrick Rothfuss, The Wise Man’s Fear
My tongue will tell the anger of my heart, or else my heart concealing it will break.
~William Shakespeare, The Taming of the Shrew
Two things a man should never be angry at: What he can help, and what he cannot help.
The longer I live, the more I observe that carrying around anger is the most debilitating to the person who bears it.
Holding anger is a poison…It eats you from inside…We think that by hating someone we hurt them…But hatred is a curved blade…and the harm we do to others…we also do to ourselves.
~Mitch Albom, The Five People You Meet in Heaven
Do not meddle in the affairs of wizards, for they are subtle and quick to anger.
~J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean.
To carry a grudge is like being stung to death by one bee.
~William H. Walton
Humor is almost always anger with its make-up on.
~Stephen King, Bag of Bones
Anybody can become angry — that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.
The worst-tempered people I’ve ever met were people who knew they were wrong.
Keep in mind, hurting people often hurt other people as a result of their own pain. If somebody is rude and inconsiderate, you can almost be certain that they have some unresolved issues inside. They have some major problems, anger, resentment, or some heartache they are trying to cope with or overcome. The last thing they need is for you to make matters worse by responding angrily.
Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.
Resentment is an extremely bitter diet, and eventually poisonous. I have no desire to make my own toxins.
The best fighter is never angry.
When angry, count four. When very angry, swear.
Anger is a bad counselor.
Never strike your wife — even with a flower.
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.
Be like the sun for grace and mercy. Be like the night to cover others’ faults. Be like running water for generosity. Be like death for rage and anger. Be like the Earth for modesty. Appear as you are. Be as you appear.
It is wise to direct your anger towards problems — not people; to focus your energies on answers — not excuses.
~William Arthur Ward
Anger is a killing thing: it kills the man who angers, for each rage leaves him less than he had been before — it takes something from him.
In a world filled with hate, we must still dare to hope. In a world filled with anger, we must still dare to comfort. In a world filled with despair, we must still dare to dream. And in a world filled with distrust, we must still dare to believe.
Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.
Malice drinks one-half of its own poison.
That’s why I want you there, he said. You’re unpredictable, and that can be the difference between success and failure. Most people make decisions in anger, fear, love, or obligation. You make decisions to irritate people.
~Kim Harrison, For a Few Demons More
You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.
Letting go gives us freedom, and freedom is the only condition for happiness. If, in our heart, we still cling to anything – anger, anxiety, or possessions – we cannot be free.
~Thích Nhất Hạnh
So you try to think of someone else you’re mad at, and the unavoidable answer pops into your little warped brain: everyone.
Usually when people are sad, they don’t do anything. They just cry over their condition. But when they get angry, they bring about a change.
If you are patient in a moment of anger, you will escape one hundred days of sorrow.
Let today be the day you stop being haunted by the ghost of yesterday. Holding a grudge & harboring anger/resentment is poison to the soul. Get even with people…but not those who have hurt us, forget them, instead get even with those who have helped us.
~Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
Transformation is my favorite game and in my experience, anger and frustration are the result of you not being authentic somewhere in your life or with someone in your life. Being fake about anything creates a block inside of you. Life can’t work for you if you don’t show up as you.
Maybe I needed sensitivity training. I once signed up for an anger management class, but the instructor pissed me off.
~Darynda Jones, First Grave on the Right
Anger is just anger. It isn’t good. It isn’t bad. It just is. What you do with it is what matters. It’s like anything else. You can use it to build or to destroy. You just have to make the choice.
These people fail to realize that it is on the inside that God must be defended, not on the outside. They should direct their anger at themselves. For evil in the open is but evil from within that has been let out. The main battlefield for good is not the open ground of the public arena but the small clearing of each heart.
~Yann Martel, Life of Pi
Anger and folly walk cheek by jole.
Learn this from me. Holding anger is a poison. It eats you from inside. We think that hating is a weapon that attacks the person who harmed us. But hatred is a curved blade. And the harm we do, we do to ourselves.
~Mitch Albom, The Five People You Meet in Heaven
At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.
~Marshall B. Rosenberg
Never forget that God is your friend. And like all friends, He longs to hear what’s been happening in your life. Good or bad, whether it’s been full of sorrow or anger, or even when you’re questioning why terrible things have to happen.
~Nicholas Sparks, The Last Song
Anger blows out the lamp of the mind.
~Robert G. Ingersoll
A flood of emotions rushes into me. Pain and anger. Sadness and pity. But most surprising of all, hope.
~Jay Asher, Thirteen Reasons Why
Do not teach your children never to be angry; teach them how to be angry.
That initial anger she had felt turned to sadness, and now it had become something else, almost a dullness of sorts. Even though she was constantly in motion, it seemed as if nothing special ever happened to her anymore. Each day seemed exactly like the last, and she had trouble differentiating among them.
~Nicholas Sparks, Message in a Bottle
My mother’s psychologist says I have an overactive anger switch, but people just keep pissing me off.
~Meg Cabot, Darkest Hour
If you’re angry at a loved one, hug that person. And mean it. You may not want to hug — which is all the more reason to do so. It’s hard to stay angry when someone shows they love you, and that’s precisely what happens when we hug each other.
All cruelty springs from weakness.
Anger and jealousy can no more bear to lose sight of their objects than love.
Most hatred is based on fear, one way or another. Yeah. I wrapped myself in anger, with a dash of hate, and at the bottom of it all was an icy center of pure terror.
~Laurell K. Hamilton, Guilty Pleasures
Don’t hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.
Anger is short-lived madness.
Never respond to an angry person with a fiery comeback, even if he deserves it…Don’t allow his anger to become your anger.
~Bohdi Sanders, Warrior Wisdom: Ageless Wisdom for the Modern Warrior
It was as if that great rush of anger had washed me clean, emptied me of hope, and, gazing up at the dark sky spangled with its signs and stars, for the first time, the first, I laid my heart open to the benign indifference of the universe.
To feel it so like myself, indeed, so brotherly, made me realize that I’d been happy, and that I was happy still. For all to be accomplished, for me to feel less lonely, all that remained to hope was that on the day of my execution there should be a huge crowd of spectators and that they should greet me with howls of execration.
~Albert Camus, The Stranger
If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.
~Rainer Maria Rilke
No man can think clearly when his fists are clenched.
~George Jean Nathan
Hope has two beautiful daughters; their names are Anger and Courage. Anger at the way things are, and Courage to see that they do not remain as they are.
~Augustine of Hippo
Anger, resentment and jealousy doesn’t change the heart of others– it only changes yours.
~Shannon L. Alder, 300 Questions to Ask Your Parents Before It’s Too Late
If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.
~Shannon L. Alder
Anger dwells only in the bosom of fools.
Anger is stupid, and stupidity will kill you more surely than your opponent’s blade.
~Patricia Briggs, Dragon Bones
People are strange: They are constantly angered by trivial things, but on a major matter like totally wasting their lives, they hardly seem to notice.
Not the fastest horse can catch a word spoken in anger.
Do not do to others what angers you if done to you by others.
How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it.
~Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
The trouble with anger is, it gets hold of you. And then you aren’t the master of yourself anymore. Anger is. And when anger is the boss, you get unintended consequences.
~Jeanne DuPrau, The City of Ember
Anger as soon as fed is dead—
‘Tis starving makes it fat—
Anger exceeding limits causes fear and excessive kindness eliminates respect.
Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.
~George Lucas, Star Wars, Episode I: The Phantom Menace
If you kick a stone in anger, you’ll hurt your own foot.
Vanity was stronger than love at sixteen and there was no room in her hot heart now for anything but hate.
~Margaret Mitchell, Gone with the Wind
Out of anger comes controversy, out of controversy comes conversation, out of conversation comes action.
I enjoy my anger, it’s the only hobby I have.
~Laurell K. Hamilton, Cerulean Sins
Watch out for each other. Love everyone and forgive everyone, including yourself. Forgive your anger. Forgive your guilt. Your shame. Your sadness. Embrace and open up your love, your joy, your truth, and most especially your heart.
Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
One of the gifts our planet gave us is to love completely. Without jealousy or insecurity or fear. Without pettiness. Without anger.
~Pittacus Lore, I Am Number Four
Under certain circumstances, urgent circumstances, desperate circumstances, profanity provides a relief denied even to prayer.
~Mark Twain, A Biography
If you try to get rid of fear and anger without knowing their meaning, they will grow stronger and return.
Hard times build determination and inner strength. Through them we can also come to appreciate the uselessness of anger. Instead of getting angry nurture a deep caring and respect for troublemakers because by creating such trying circumstances they provide us with invaluable opportunities to practice tolerance and patience.
~Dalai Lama XIV
Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath.
The world needs anger. The world often continues to allow evil because it isn’t angry enough.
Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you are.
When you say something really unkind, when you do something in retaliation your anger increases. You make the other person suffer, and he will try hard to say or to do something back to get relief from his suffering. That is how conflict escalates.
~Thích Nhất Hạnh, Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames
Anger at lies lasts forever. Anger at truth can’t last.
People who fly into a rage always make a bad landing.
Conquer the angry one by not getting angry; conquer the wicked by goodness; conquer the stingy by generosity, and the liar by speaking the truth.
~Gautama Buddha, The Dhammapada
The fiercest anger of all, the most incurable,
Is that which rages in the place of dearest love.
~Euripides, Medea and Other Plays
Depression is merely anger without enthusiasm.
He who angers you conquers you.
Whatever is begun in anger, ends in shame.
Anger is really disappointed hope.
Men in rage strike those that wish them best.
There is nothing more galling to angry people than the coolness of those on whom they wish to vent their spleen.
There is nothing like wounded affection for giving poignancy to anger.
~Elizabeth Gaskell, Wives and Daughters
Anger is a valid emotion. It’s only bad when it takes control and makes you do things you don’t want to do.
~Ellen Hopkins, Fallout
Never forget what a man says to you when he is angry.
~Henry Ward Beecher
If a small thing has the power to make you angry, does that not indicate something about your size?
~Sydney J. Harris
In days that follow, I discover that anger is easier to handle than grief.
~Emily Giffin, Heart of the Matter
Your perspective on life comes from the cage you were held captive in.
~Shannon L. Alder
The way to change others’ minds is with affection, and not anger.
~Dalai Lama XIV
I have lived lies. I have done it again and again. I live lies because I cannot endure the weakness of anger, and I cannot admit the irrationality of love.
~Anne Rice (Marius)
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Anger be tough.
It can spawn its ugly minions, like frustration, fear, anxiety, stress and even rage.
It can feel like its eating you up inside as it practically ruins your entire day while filling your head with a bunch of angry, negative thoughts.
Let’s cool it a little shall we?
Here are 10 quotes on anger to help calm you down
1) “If you get angry easily, it may be because the seed of anger in you has been watered frequently over many years, and unfortunately you have allowed it or even encouraged it to be watered.”
– Thich Nhat Hanh
Indeed, you’re responsible for your anger.
Effectively, to constantly water it would mean you’ve created the habit of anger. You’re probably even addicted to it.
To stop being so angry, you’ve to break out of anger. Stop watering the angry seed within, live your life and start planting other seeds!
2) “Speak when you are angry – and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.”
– Laurence J. Peter
You’ll never mean the things you say when you’re angry. So try to be calm. You don’t want to end up saying things that’d only serve to produce guilt and regret.
3) “Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath.”
Anger is not a primary emotion. It’s secondary.
You’ve find the root cause of your anger. What is it? Fear? Rejection? Sadness? Guilt?
It’s going to be terrifying, but you’ve to be honest with yourself and start asking the bigger questions in order to overcome anger.
4) “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”
That’s how it feels like when you keep thinking about revenge or getting back at your wrongdoer or bully.
This is why you’ve to let it go. All the angry thoughts in the world isn’t going to help change your situation. The best thing you can do is lead your own life and be happy. That’s how you surprise your enemies.
5) “For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
It’s only logical. Getting angry is not allowing other positive emotions to come in and that is time and space you’ll never get back.
And life is way too short to be pissed off all the time. You’re going to die eventually, so be smart about it!
6) “Hanging onto resentment is letting someone you despise live rent-free in your head.”
– Esther Lederer
That is why you need to stop holding grudges or coming up with scenarios of getting back at them!
It simply doesn’t make sense to let toxic people play such a big role in your life. Raise the rent in your head. Stick with good people only.
7) “Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too.”
– Will Smith
Will Smith himself!
Yes, life is just like that. People will find a way to make you angry, but that’s not something you can control.
So let it go. It’s no use wishing that people should abide by your standards. It’s only going to make you even more mad. Let God, the universe or life itself deal with them.
8) “Happiness cannot come from hatred or anger. Nobody can say, ‘Today I am happy because this morning I was angry.’ On the contrary, people feel uneasy and sad and say, ‘Today I am not very happy, because I lost my temper this morning.'”
– Dalai Lama
This is so straight-forward.
Anger in the end, cannot sustain you. It can perhaps propel you with energy, but if you use it to create more anger, then happiness will never come to you.
9) “Anybody can become angry — that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.”
I love this quote for the fact that it states how easy it is to be angry.
To extend that, I like to say that it’s easy for anybody to get angry and start breaking things around the house, shout at somebody or even get into a fight.
It’s not easy however, to stay calm, think logically, be wary of consequences and ultimately be the master of your own emotions.
Isn’t it time we stay above it all and work for a happier life?
This last quote is rather long, so I made it into a picture.
To sum it up, it means: You’re part of a grand journey called life. You’re always creating new experiences for yourself. Don’t judge the experiences. Just take it in and be happy.
What others do with their experiences is their problem. Not yours.
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