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Many people spend their whole life searching for the right person to marry. Having a successful marriage is like having a second job. It requires hard work, dedication, and continually working at it. The below quotes and words of wisdom for marriage provide the right type of relationship advise and peek into what it takes to be successful in the long term. These are intended to be used to increase your overall relationship success. 

A long marriage is two people trying to dance a duet and two solos at the same time.

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.

Admit when you are wrong. Shut up when you are right.

Always give 100%, never expect anything in return, that way you will always be surprised.

Be honest about who your spouse is and trust that they will be exactly that until they prove otherwise. Manage your expectations and love them for who they are.

Being in a long marriage is a little bit like that nice cup of coffee every morning – I might have it every day, but I still enjoy it.

Don’t tie a half-hitch knot. Plan to stay married forever.

Engage God to work within our family, and be a family which can solve problems for its self. Understand each other and be able to forgive.

Examine your relationship often. Know its vulnerabilities. Keep it moving in the direction you both want it to go.

In the opinion of the world, marriage ends all, as it does in a comedy. The truth is precisely the opposite: it begins all.

Kiss for at least 10 seconds every day without fail; do it all at once or spread it out.

Laugh together. If you can laugh at yourself, it’ll be easy.

Love doesn’t make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.

Marriage is a book of which the first chapter is written in poetry and the remaining chapters in prose.

Matrimony is a process by which a grocer acquired an account the florist had.

More marriages might survive if the partners realized that sometimes the better comes after the worse.

Never embarrass, criticize or correct one another in public; try not to do it in private, either.

Never go to sleep angry. Keep talking until you get over it or forget why you were mad.

Never miss an anniversary, a birthday or a chance to make a memory. Memories may not seem important now, but one day you will treasure them.

Newlyweds become oldyweds, and oldyweds are the reasons that families work.

Remember one of life’s ironies: We are least lovable when we need love most.

Show by your actions as well as your words that the person you married comes first. Let nothing and no one come between you.

Take care of business. Pay your bills, change your oil, cut your grass, call your mother.

Tell the truth, only the truth, and always with great kindness.

The best time to love with your whole heart is always now, in this moment, because no breath beyond the current is promised.

The greatest marriages are built on teamwork. A mutual respect, a healthy dose of admiration, and a never-ending portion of love and grace.

There is no substitute for the comfort supplied by the utterly taken-for granted relationship.

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.

We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.

The following infographic aims to capture the cost of getting married. Many tax benefits are associated with married couples. The lifetime cost of never marrying can be over a million dollars. Additional financial benefits can also be obtained such as being eligible for IRA contributions, receiving unlimited tax free gifts of money to spouse, and estate tax exclusion on inheritance. Almost 40% of single Americans are looking for dates and someone to be with. This leads to more than 17% of couples that eventually get married, meeting online. This and more important facts about falling in love are listed below.

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Wisdom for Couples Considering Marriage

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 Anything that is worth having always requires perseverance. Never give up. Always do your best. With God's grace anything is possible.

Like the change of the seasons, a marriage is meant to change over and over. Do not fear the change. Like the seasons, it keeps your marriage beautiful.

Be prepared to share your time, your space, and your love.

Always make time for each other - date nights!

Pray for your spouses. Not only for but with them.

Withholding information is just as deadly as lying - be honest with yourself and your partner.

Keep God first. Be kind. Be thankful for each other. Show your love by example.

To always treat your mate with respect. Love is a two-way road.

Married life is not a wonderful fairy tale where everything is perfect. There are many challenges but by working together we can accomplish anything.

If you really love and respect each other, there is no problem or obstacle you can't overcome together! Especially with God's help!!

You don't have to be competitive… or you don't always have to be right all the time.

Be respectful, kind and loving in the words you say to each other. Open communication is the key to a healthy relationship.

Don't sweat the small stuff!

Talk to each other and trust each other.

Red hot monogamy just keeps getting better - practice often!

The vocation to marriage is about finding joy and fulfillment in giving yourself to your spouse and children more and more each day.

Never take each other for granted - each day encourage each other.

Just because you are angry at each other doesn't mean you don't have love for each other.

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Why Conventional Marriage Wisdom Is Wrong

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9 Secrets From a 73-Year Marriage

After 73 years of marriage, 94-year old Barbara Cooper knows how to get through matrimony's rough patches. The author of Fall in Love for Life shares her hard-earned wisdom.
After 73 years of marriage, 94-year old Barbara Cooper knows how to get through matrimony's rough patches. The author of Fall in Love for Life shares her hard-earned wisdom.
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On making time to make love
"I don't understand couples who say they are too busy or too tired to sleep together. Unless they are building roads all day or running a multi-national corporation, I expect they have just lost sight of priorities. If you wish to stay connected and happy in your marriage, my advice to you is to never be too tired or too busy to feel love for your partner. When your life is nearly over, you will regret it if you look back and recall too many nights when you made excuses instead of making love."
"The most important thing for any couple trying to get along is to think before you speak. If you are bickering and find that you are getting angry, take a deep breath and change course, and ask your partner to do the same. Try saying something conciliatory like, 'I don't know why this is making me so upset, but it is, so can you just humor me and help me get over it?' By simply admitting you are losing your cool, you may find that the anger quickly dissipates."
"If you want your relationship to survive and to thrive, you will have to train yourself to focus most of your attention on the person you love. When your sweetheart comes into the room, whether it's just from taking care of some chores in the garage or from a long day at work, your job is to put down whatever you're doing, look him in the eye, and verbally express your delight at seeing him again. It's really so little to ask, and delivers so much — to both of you."
"Some people have affairs because they tell themselves that they deserve more attention than they get at home. Or maybe they get annoyed because they feel that all of their needs aren't getting met by their partner. Well, whoever told them that one person could meet their every need? You can actually live quite comfortably without having all of your needs met. Try thinking about it that way; you might be surprised how liberating it is. You are not perfect, and neither is your partner, but you can make a very pleasant life together if you are both serious about providing the love and support that go along with a marriage."
On going from lovers to parents
"It's true that when your babies are small, there isn't much time left over for romantic gestures. But the wonderful thing about romance is that it is the quality, never the quantity, that matters. So when the baby is napping, throw a blanket on the living room floor, slice some peaches or plums or whatever you have in the house, pour a glass of something bubbly, and enjoy a mini picnic. Write love notes to each other and slip them in between the clean diapers. Be creative, and if you want your love to flourish, it certainly will do so."
On overcoming money problems
"The most important ingredient for getting through tough economic times is THE TRUTH — it's so important it should be capitalized and italicized. So this means that if you have any financial secrets you are keeping from your partner, you must put them on the table. Doesn't that sound scary? I am sure it does, but as with so many unpleasant things that only get bigger and stronger in the dark, these secrets have a funny way of shrinking in the light of the truth. And as they get smaller, your stress and worry will fly away. There's never a better time to be honest with your partner and yourself and make a plan for dealing with your debts and your excess spending — together. I promise, you will not regret it."
On tuning in to your partner
"I think the place where good marriages break down is when one or both parties begin to take the other person for granted. And yet it's understandable that this happens. Life is complicated and can be exhausting, so there is always a temptation when you get home to just tune out, because home is one place where you should feel safe enough to let your guard down this way. But there's a difference between relaxing and disengaging, and while relaxing is a healthy way to recharge your psychic and spiritual batteries, disengaging is a drain on you and your relationships. Nothing is more important than that you recognize the difference and stay present for all the people you love."
"The most important lesson I can teach you from our happy marriage is that we did not rehash. If something was unpleasant, we got through it, handled the fallout, and did not bring it up again in happy times. So we both knew that once a problem was solved, that was it — we would not have to answer for it again, at least not in its current form. And knowing this, we could give all our attention to fixing the problems that came along, because once they were fixed, we could forget about them, which is a very wonderful feeling."
On controlling your anger
"Have you ever noticed that you can't spell dangerous without anger? I'm no linguist, but I don't think that’s a coincidence. When you're ready to blow, you might say anything hurtful, things you would normally spare the person you love from hearing. Don't say something you'll regret forever. Don't give your partner an excuse to come back to you with his or her own resentments. Instead, find a way to get your anger under control. For myself, I simply run through my mind a short movie of how foolishly I have been acting. You may have better luck singing a silly song, or patting your head while rubbing your tummy, or doing whatever little trick helps bring you outside of yourself long enough to regain control."
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Words of Wisdom for Married Couples

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Happily married is more than a mere phrase! It takes whole lot of efforts to maintain happiness and harmony in any marriage. One should not simply jump into marriage without knowing what to expect and how to handle its many surprises. You need some guidance from those who have been there and done that. Don’t just take your single friends’ word for it! To help you out, we have here some words of wisdom from famous people and characters who know what it’s like to be a spouse.

“By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll become happy; if you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.”-  Socrates

Marriage can be your best teacher when it comes to love and life. When the finances are getting crazy or there is a nonstop fight for the time between your wife and your job, you might as well start writing a journal and be another Socrates in these modern times. If you are a mature and rational adult, you will know how to handle disagreements with your partner and with every fight, you will learn more about your partner, yourself and how you two can handle your married life.

“If you want your wife to listen to you, then talk to another woman: she will be all ears.”- Sigmund Freud

The message that the phallic king is trying to send here is that most married couples do not know how to listen to each other. Some married couples do not know how to communicate at all. If you want to say something to your partner, say it! Communication is the key to all successful relationships.

“Marriage is like a game of chess, except the board is flowing water, the pieces are made of smoke and no move you make will have any effect on the outcome.”- Jerry Seinfeld

You have read every book on how to be a perfect husband or wife. You paid attention when your aunt and uncles shared their stories and life hacks on how to handle married life but somehow, you are now here. Marriage is a circus. It’s just crazy! Learn to sit back, find humor and enjoyment in whatever is in front of you and just simply wait for it to end. Your kids will get over their teenage angst and your partner will soon realize that he or she is acting like one of your kids. When things like these happen and you have no control over it, stay silent until all the chaos is over and calmly talk to everyone in the family.

“No! Please don’t eat me! I have a wife and kids – eat them!”- Homer Simpson

Isn’t the Simpsons just the perfect poster family for a healthy life? Seriously, finding something to smile and laugh about in the midst of chaos is a good and advisable coping mechanism for couples, for anyone generally. There will be times when you would fantasize about having one day, one single day, to sit quietly at home with no one screaming or setting the house on fire. But then you snap back to reality because you know that you cannot make it through even one single day without your family.

“I love being married. It’s so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.”- Rita Rudner

Remember how grossed out you used to be whenever you saw your parents in their fifties goofing around in the kitchen and randomly kissing in front of you? That is true love. Married life will get boring. One day you will catch yourself on the same routine. The kids will grow up and move out and before you know it, you are waking up to a wrinkly face beside you and you smile because you know that this is the best decision you ever made. Through the storms and fire of marriage, you came out alive because you have the best teammate.

To be honest, marriage is not always rainbows and butterflies. It’s compromise! (Take it from Marron 5!) Talk about the values you want your marriage to be based on and everything will be alright. This rollercoaster ride won’t be as scary. In fact, you will learn to enjoy the ride despite the twists and bumps. Here’s hoping that you have a wonderful marriage!

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