Happy newlywed wishes

Remember if one of you wins the argument, both of you and your marriage loses. (Not talking about the sports trivia question kind of argument) –Lisa & Drew Stillman

One of the best things we’ve done for our marriage is have a weekly meeting (ours is Sunday after kids are in bed) where we plan the week and ask each other how we can make their life better that week. It keeps anything from building and gives us a chance to talk about anything that is going wrong. We only get to make one request for the week so it’s pretty easy to remember. Our relationship has grown and strengthened so much since we started! –Hillary

I am no expert on marriage but what my main advice would be is to always work on your marriage.It is the most important thing!A good marriage is the foundation to bring kids in a home that has so much love already.Use the Dating Divas!Go on dates and have fun!Don’t sweat the small stuff and just enjoy life!Be happy and in love!Married life is the absolute best!!! –Kassie Peterson

This has probably been covered before, but set realistic expectations.That was the most challenging thing I faced, but having realistic expectations and choosing to NOT expect perfection really helped my marriage. –Fawn & Nathan Bohlken

Be kind to each other. Treat your spouse as you would your best friend, better than your best friend. If he/she is having a tough day, give them a soft place to land. If he/she is angry/grumpy/frustrated take a step back, don’t take it personally, treat them with an increased measure of love and respect.    –Mrs. Jongejan

Marriage isn’t easy.It’s a lot of hard work but that work should be a labor of love.It is work that you should enjoy doing. P.S.Same rules apply to childbirth. –Kelly & Daryl Patterson

Don’t go to bed mad! –Mrs.Pruitt

Take the time to put down the phones and talk. It is so easy to let the electronics get in the way. You need meaningful conversation every day, even if it’s just for 5 minutes. –Sharylann Smith

One thing I always try to do is randomly call or message my husband throughout the day just to ask him how his day is going and not complain about my day. I like to just listen and hear him out, he tells me that he looks forward to my call and being able to talk. –Nina Verkaik

Starting on your first anniversary, buy your spouse a gift following the traditional or modern gift ideas. Ex. Year 1 is paper, Year 2 is cotton, etc.After you’ve been married a few years, you don’t really need anything and it’s always fun to be creative with the themes.For example, for our first anniversary I bought and framed 1 piece of Disney stock. (We went to Disney World on our honeymoon.) –Nina & John Oliver

Sometimes going to bed upset or mad is ok… you wake up to realize what you were arguing over was silly and you both were just tired! –Joyce

Never tell your parent(s) about a fight that you had with your spouse. You will forgive and forget, but your parents won’t. I was given this advice and didn’t listen to it. The result…my mom hated my husband! Best of luck to you! –Julie

A great quote to be reminded of! “None of us marry perfection, we marry potential.”-Robert D Hales –Friend

My favorite advice comes from a quote in the movie “Parental Guidance.”The daughter is arguing with her mom and yells “You’re always taking his side!” in reference to her father.Her mom responds, “With good reason, because after your kids leave, he’s the one who stays.”Remembering this quote helps me to keep my marriage as my top priority. –Jessica

Just because your hubby does things differently than you, doesn’t mean he’s doing it wrong. –Becca

Not so much marriage advice but great advice nonetheless – brother in law told my husband, “the best thing you can do for your children is to love their mother.” Showing them the love and friendship will foster a like minded love and friendship. Something for them to emulate. –Heather

Do things together and have fun…. It’s ALL about the memories 😉 –Samantha

Women need to feel loved. Men need to feel respected. And learn each other’s love languages. It will save you a lot of hurt and misunderstanding down the line. –Marcie Kent

Always put your love of each other first! It’s all too easy for “life” to take over. Whether it be work, friends, a new baby, house projects, etc. So it’s important to prioritize your love by taking time and effort to nurture it on a consistent basis. Congratulations and Blessings to you both! –Noel

The best piece of advice I got when I was married, 6 years ago, was from my Grandma. She told me that no matter what happens in life to still get dressed up for dates. “Life gets crazy, I know. BUT it is important to still try and impress your husband even after 53 years of marriage.” –Mandy

Most people say: To live learn and grow in a marriage you must communicate. I wholeheartedly believe this but, I believe that you must also laugh!Mike and I have been together for almost 15 years and we do our fair share of communicating. Some of the time it just happens to be yelling and screaming at each other but, he makes me laugh every day and this I love.Joanne Woodward who was an actress in the 50’s and married to Paul Newman for 40+ years said “Sexiness wears thin after a while, and beauty fades. But to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, now that’s a real treat.” Laugh with each other and at each other every day.If you’re relieved to be done with the wedding planning, it’s easy to forget that the real work hasn’t even started yet. Marriage is always a work in progress. The feelings and attractions that brought you together early on in your relationship are unlikely to hold you together as you mature and your lifestyle changes. Promise each other that you’ll build a future together and that you’ll always honor his or her needs and point of view. You can only go as far as you want to go!! A successful marriage requires falling in love over and over again, always with the same person. As you both learn and grow in your lives you will also learn and grow within your marriage! We can’t wait to see the wonderful couple you become! –Shelley and Mike Jag

Shower together! It helps save water 😉 –Roxanne Dent

Put each other first.If you take care of his needs,and he takes care of your needs, then everyone is taken care of. –Jennifer and Gregory Babbitt

This advice was given to me by my step mom… You may not always like each other but you will always love each other. There will be times when your mad or upset with your spouse and won’t “like them” but always remember the reasons you love them. Marriage has a lot of ups but there are also downs, so don’t be afraid to ask for help when things get hard… –Beth

Choose to love each other every day. Many people believe love is a feeling, but we believe it is a choice as well. We choose to love each other even in the hard times and it has kept us strong for 17 years. –Jennifer

Pray to love your spouse more every single day, to be their support through good times and bad, enjoy their company and makes loooots of love! –Friend

If you ever find yourself in a argument I suggest taking your clothes off because it will end so fast. I know this, I have been married now for 17yrs. And it works every time. Well as least at home. Good luck and congrats. –Stephanie & Paul Trujillo

Refuse to take offense, because offense is rarely intended. –Tiffany & Kyle McGarry

The couple that LAUGHS together stays together! 🙂 –Kelly DeBardelaben 

Congratulations!!!Communicate, communicate, communicate & you’ll have a wonderful future!!Communicate verbally, emotionally, and physically…nobody is a mind reader!!Have fun!! –Teresa & Russell Higgins

I’ve been with my hubby for 13 amazing years.Here are a few simple (but important) things we follow. Never let the little things fade, consider each other a team and keep an open communication (good and bad). I wish you both a lifetime of happiness. –Kaylene

Remember that you came from different backgrounds so you may see things differently. Have an open mind and communicate because you will not always see eye to eye on some topics. There is not one right answer so come up with it together so it can be your right answer and what’s best for both of you. –Kennedy & Andrew Brown

The best way to get the last word in following an argument is to say, “I’m sorry.” –Robyn Madsen

Continue dating. Nurture your relationship. –Dana & Sal Crano

My husband and I have been married for 20 years. I’m still very much in love with him and I still get excited when he comes home from work. Now don’t get me wrong, marriage is hard work so here’s Some of the best advice I can give you…

1-Always take the time to have alone time together once a week. We have 4 boys and know how busy life can get. But it’s always important to take time to reconnect and make each other feel special with alone time.

2-This is VERY important. Do not hang out alone with the opposite sex no matter how long you have been friends. It causes doubt in your spouse that they may or may not admit to. We have had friends that made fun of us for this but then later agreed it was a good idea when they ended up divorced over an affair that occurred from this kind of friendship.

3- Never stop trying to make your spouse feel special. Do occasional surprises like hidden notes or random texts messages. Grab them when they come home from work and sneak off for a quick make out session.

The bottom line is, your spouse is a gift. You never know how long you get to have them for, tragedies may happen and God might call them home. Make every day count. Yes you will fight and disagree with things but honestly, those things make your marriage stronger when you respond to them in a positive way. Treat your spouse with the love that you want to be returned to you. –Shannon

The best advice is to always be best friends first! –Heather Barrios

I know that a lot of people say “Never go to bed angry” when you and your spouse are in a disagreement.While that’s nice in theory…lets be honest.You can’t exactly turn your feelings on and off like a light switch, and that’s OK!Sometimes, you just need to have your “me” time to reflect and sort out your feelings, and often that requires a good nights sleep.That being said, while you might go to bed still fuming/upset about a particular instance…always tell the other person that you love them and goodnight.Even though you might not be the happiest with them at that moment…you BOTH will feel worse if those 3 little words aren’t said. 🙂 –Christina Helms

Use kind words to each other like please and thank you regularly. Just because your spouse knows you best doesn’t lessen the need to extend this simple courtesy. –Friend

Before you even get married promise each other you will NEVER, EVER say the “D” word! My husband and I promised each other we would never use the word divorce. That was 18 years ago and I’m happy to report we have never let that word come out of our mouths. –Renee

Let God be the center of your marriage. Pray together!!! –Karla

Communicate effectively and never go to bed angry at each other. –LaKia

The best advice I ever received reminded me that open communication is key to a successful marriage. What you need to say may hurt each other’s feelings, but if you can trust that it comes from love (and not make it personal) you can get past the hurt and grow even more close together. This will help you soar above and beyond all challenges that come your way. –Friend

Each of you work individually to be inspired to make great changes in your life.Inspire each other to be better by becoming better yourself.When both of you work at it, and no one is expecting the other to change for them, great things happen!Never expect changes in your loved one.Work on being humble and teachable instead of hard headed.🙂 –Shannon White

The best advice is FORGIVE. I would have never ever suggested such a thing but having been married for 20 years that is the one thing nobody ever told me I should or would have to do. It is not easy but most marriages that have lasted have done so because of forgiveness. –Chris

Love with all you have, there will be times when you disagree . You both will change over time but always love that person for who they are and who they become. Change together. And most of all forgive often, forgiveness is the key to a lasting marriage. –Friend

Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!! Talk about everything even the hard stuff and even when you don’t want to. Especially the hard stuff and especially when you don’t want to. It’s the one piece of advice my mother-in-law gave me and it has taken us a long time to get it!! But every bit of these 17 years makes it all worth it! –Laura

Never go to bed angry, always tell each other you love them at least once a day, if not more, and ALWAYS show respect, no matter what the situation is. –Friend

My advice for both of you is to never stop being friends, and to truly love each other for who you really are. If you don’t, you are creating unrealistic expectations for one another, that neither one of you are able to live up to. You will see the worst of each other, but you’ll also see the VERY best. My husband and I have been together for 7 years, and have a 2 year old daughter. Once you have spent days and weeks without any sleep, you will definitely know what the worst is in someone. And before you say something, just step back, and breathe, and think is this really that big of a deal? Chances are…. it’s not. There will be times that you laugh together, and cry together, but always do them together. I wish you both the very best in your marriage!! –Krystin & Derris Butler

Always remember your “sense” may not be the same as your spouse. If you think about a large iceberg, you can only see the top portion. What you do not see is the largest part which is under water.The under water portion is what gives your partner their “sense” of a situation.Try to see their sense. –Brandy Allen

Natalie,

I want to share two pieces of advice that I feel will be important for many years to come…

1st: Always LOVE with all your heart!

1 Corinthians 13:4-7New International Version (NIV)

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

2nd: Remember to put God first in your marriage and you can NEVER go wrong!

Philippians 4:13 – I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

Much Love and Happiness for many years to come!! –Kimberly

Always put your spouses needs first. If you both do this, you will always win. Don’t forget to always always date your mate. –Diana

1. If you show and respect him, he will always cherish you.

2. Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy. –Pamela

No matter how hard it is to realize…sometimes he is right!!Ha! Ha!Been married 23 years as of this March, and we work together 24/7 in our own business and have raised two beautiful children.Best wishes!! –Nicole

Continue to date your husband, even after you have moved in together and/or gotten married. Every day I tell my husband what it is that I love about him- both to remind him and most importantly to remind ME why I married this man. Also, after we fight, even if I feel I’m “right” I still go to him after I have calmed down to apologize for being so hot headed. We usually are both “right” from our perspectives, but it is more important for us to be together than apart and still angry. And then I tell him from my heart why I got so angry, especially if it wasn’t his fault I am angry. Good luck! It’s a lot of work but it’s so wonderful that it doesn’t feel like work. –Teresa Flores

My Grandmother told me the secret to marriage: “There are very few things worth arguing about.” –Becky Lacey

Marriage is a 50/50 relationship, but no one on Earth can tell you what that really means. So if you both put in 60, you’ll be fine! –RenéHale

Seek out opportunities to laugh and be silly with each other. … and when he’s on your last nerve, it always gets better when you realize that you can never change your partner but you can change how you react to your partner. –Jessica

Marriage is awesome, but it’s also hard!It’s God’s best way of refining each of us to be more like Him! So my advice to you is:

1) Keep God first in everything.Rely on the Holy Spirit to be a giver more than a taker.

2) It’s okay to argue, it just depends on how you do it!When you start to argue, take the time to pray first.Pay attention to how God is looking to change you, and pray for God to take care of your spouse.

Many blessings on your marriage! –Friend

Forgive Easily –Holly & Jonathan Buchanan

Start each day with a snuggle and a prayer. No sweeter way to start the day! –Sabra Penley

Smile and laugh often! And they now sell pregnancy tests at your neighborhood Dollar Tree stores. 🙂 –Friend

Date night is not optional – especially when kids come! –Stephanie

My best advice is to keep Jesus as the center of marriage. All other problems fix themselves when He is your sole purpose for marriage. I would also say to not waste time fighting about the little things. If you aren’t going to remember what you were upset about in 3 days, it’s not worth wasting time arguing over. Life is way to short and sweet to waste time being at odds with the one we love. –Rachel

You are never too old shop at places like Victoria’s Secret. Just seeing the bag will help you with a little romance if you need it! –Star Bailey

If you push to get an answer more quickly, you’re likely to not get the answer you want.And if you force your spouse to give the answer you want, they may not mean it in their heart.From now on, be prepared to wait patiently and accept the truth from your spouse. It may not always feel good, but when you receive the truth graciously, you create an environment where your spouse never needs to lie to you. –Crystal

Even when your other half is grumpy, moody, or unlovable….show them love…shower them with love…and you will see a dynamic change in them…Love conquers all! –Michele McCartney

Always be a student of your spouse. Your spouse is dynamic, with preferences, dreams, and needs always changing. You’ll never have them entirely figured out. So humbly and eagerly learn in amazement and wonder as the gift of who your spouse is continually unwraps over the years. Congratulations! Enjoy the journey! –Sarah M

My husband and I are about to celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary. We have 2 beautiful children.My husband is starting his 21st year in law enforcement.Needless to say he has missed many holidays, birthdays, soccer games, and other special events.My best advice is to talk to each other. We always carve out time each day between shuttling children to practices, church actives, and homework. We are each others sounding boards.He tells me when he has had bad day at work.I tell himwhen I am worried about the kids or aging parents etc….My next piece of advice is date! After you have babies and there is not much money or time, make it a priority to have special time for just the two of you.One day the babies will grow up and fly the nest and it will be just the two of you again. It will happen faster than you think it will 🙂 You don’t want to be staring at a stranger when that day comes. -Jennifer Getts

Don’t ever loose your sense of humor. The more stressful things get the more you’ll need a good laugh. Share inside jokes that only the two of you will get and always have each other’s back. –Laurie

Always remember and think of each other as your best friend! –Robin Guadagnini

Every time you think something negative about your spouse, (ie..he never puts his dishes in the dishwasher) think of three things he does do to help out around the house. It puts things into perspective and will make you smile! –Friend

Never go to bed angry. Even if it means you have to stay up till 2am to resolve it. That said pray together everynight before bed and kiss and say I love you. –Melody

First of all, congrats! You two chose each other over 7.125 other billion people. That is an amazing thing! My advice is to remember that marriage is fun! There will be times where you will feel bogged down with responsibilities and stress. Taking the kids to practice, pressures at work, chores, errands, etc. Just because we’re adults and have more responsibilities, doesn’t mean that we can’t have fun while we’re at it. Lean on each other and remind one another that you’re on this wonderful, fun, and exciting journey TOGETHER! 🙂 –Joy

All marriages are unique and change over time. Always be ready and willing to change something that you thought would make “the perfect marriage” to something that give you the marriage you need and deserve. Being willing to sacrifice the short term wants for the long term beautiful marriage. –Brooke & Paul Iverson

Marriage isn’t always easy or happy but when it is happy it is so good!And if and when you start a family some day remember to always make time for each other and give each other “me”Congrats!Live, Laugh, Love! –Friend

Always treat your husband with the same love and respect that you would want your future daughter-in-law to treat your son. –Teresa & Joseph Ramires

The wedding is the easy part, the marriage takes work. Always listen to eachother, remember no matter what, God comes first, then your partner, then your kids. Have an amazing wedding, wonderful memories and people around you who love and support you! –Jackie Ludwig

Communicate. Communicate. Communicate. Never stop. –Nickole

Tomorrow, February 9th, I will be married 25 years. After thinking long and hard on this, the best advise I can honestly give is this: Choose your battles wisely. Always make sure that it is worth the turmoil and headache. Will it cause your marriage harm in the long run? Will you be able to forgive each other by sundown? Will you be able to look each other in the eyes and always say I Love You without doubting.Not all battles are worth fighting. Sometimes it is best to look the other way and pray about it first. 

Oh, and have separate tubes of tooth paste, always. –Cyndi

Don’t take life so seriously. My hubby and i just love being silly together, even acting like teenagers in love. Life is full of hard “grown up” stuff, so just be goof balls together. –Shannon

First of all congrats on your engagement!!!I hope you both will have a lifetime of love, peace and happiness together!Let’s see a couple of tips or advice I can give would be to never go to bed angry. Be a good listener, respect and try to see your spouses side of thingseven if you don’t see eye to eye on the same thing. Try to have a date night together at least 2x a month. Either at home or go out somewhere. Having a girls night/boys night is just as important. You’ll both need that alone time. Just have fun being in love and enjoying each other’s company! May God bless you both in your marriage! Congrats again:) –Breanne

I’ve been married to my love for 11 years. My two pieces of advice are… 1. Never ever talk bad about your spouse to others… even when with your girlfriends and they start complaining about their spouse. It is a slippery slope where if you start dwelling on a negative, it starts to grow in your heart. And 2. Always take interest and ask questions about your spouses passions. My husband has worked in radio, as an on-air personality part-time since he was 12. I must have heard all his stories hundreds of times, but I take the point and ask to hear about certain stories again. To see his eyes light up when he goes into his story, is so worth hearing a story that you can lip sync along with! 🙂 Best wishes on your nuptials! –Rebecca Kuchenbecker

Compromise!!!That is the key to a successful marriage.And too often we are more worried about having the last word.Sometimes you just have to say “your right dear” (even when you know YOU are!!!) Silly arguments often end up being huge disagreements, usually fueled by pride. –Samantha Nelson

Our priest told us to fight naked. 🙂 Have we? no, but it makes sense. If you’re arguing over something meaningless, by the time you’re naked, you realize that it wasn’t something to be arguing over in the first place. Bonus, you’re already naked 😉 However, communication is key to any long standing relationship. Don’t forget that.

Also, don’t forget to say I love you out of nowhere. It becomes so routine, that it’s nice to get a random I love you text in the middle of the day.

Lastly, never stop dating. We get so caught up in our everyday lives/routine that we forget why we got married in the first place. Whether it’s once a week or once a month, make time for a date night/day. Go be a tourist in your city/state, dinner and a movie, or cook dinner together and cozy up to a movie at home. Put away the computers and cell phones and enjoy each other! Don’t let life get in the way of love. –Ashley

Love isn’t always a feeling. Meaning, there will be times in your marriage when you don’t feel like being very loving or your husband isn’t being very lovable, but you act like a loving wife anyway. –Friend

If it won’t matter in 20 years, its not worth fighting over now.

For him: If you are in a situation in which you need to choose between your mother or your wife, always choose your wife! –Amy

Put God as the ultimate center and head of your marriage. Think of 1 nice thing about your spouse and give him/her at least 1 nice compliment everyday. –Joanne

Never, ever go to bed angry with each other.If it’s bothering you, speak up as soon as possible.Otherwise, it’s not worth your time.Life is way too short so speak up if it matters to you. –Laura

Always fall asleep touching! There’s something beautifully powerful to feeling the peace, safety and comfort of knowing each of you are only one small touch away. So, why not, no matter how tired, worn out, satisfied or hurt you may be when you lay down your head on the pillow at night, just make one small move towards connecting in such a simple way! –Rhiannon

Learn what God’s design is for marriage, what His role is for wives, and be obedient to that role and calling. The world’s ideas are so contrary to God’s plan, but following His plan and design, being obedient to that calling, will bring innumerable blessings beyond comprehension! –Melissa & Robert Pallone

Never go to bed angry at each other. Sometimes holding to the “never” isn’t possible, because life happens, but in those instances, make an action plan for when you are going to work through whatever is wrong and promise each other that you’ll individually work on forgiving yourselves and your spouse. This prevents grudges and unsolved issues. We always feel stronger and closer after this process so that we can rest a little easier that night. –Anna & Josh Goodman

I’ll give you the best advice I got at my wedding: Keep God first and never shower alone 😉 –Kaylin & Gregory Spurrier

Go to bed angry! In my marriage and relationship skills class they talked about when to HALT an argument and put it aside for later. H(hungry) A(angry) L(lonely) T(tired). Those important conversations can wait until you are rested, thinking clearly, and no longer emotionally charged. Sometimes you will find that sleep will solve the little problems that seemed big at the time all by itself. “Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved.” –Elizabeth

Every day you must catch each other doing something right and comment on it.There is nothing more discouraging than trying to please the other person and not getting it right.There are as many ways to do a job as there are people so give each other room to do a job differently than you would do it And express gratitude. –Shanna Wheeler

Keep the communication. I have been with my husband 36years, Times get hard but with love, you will get through things. Congrats! –Sue

Never be afraid to communicate, for it is the key to eternal happiness! –Kat

Make sure laughter is prominent in your marriage.It has saved my husband and I a lot of dirty fights because we were able to find humor and make the other laugh. –Michelle

Forgive as much as you can,we all make mistakes.Then go forward with your life. –Terri

1)Each day share with your spouse One thing about them you are grateful for…different thing each day! Yes you will discover more each passing day!

2)Whatever disagreement you have settle, seek forgiveness and make amends before you go to bed!

3) Read Gary Chapmans book on Five Love Languages together!!! Speak your love in the language your spouse will best recieve it!! Gods richest blessing on your “till death do we part” journey! –Margie Heard

Wash his dishes, cook his meals,

Raise a family, pray together,

Spend his money, share your thrills

Through clear and stormy weather

Help him with work then help him play,

Always do your part,

But most important along life’s way-

Always protect his heart. –Teresa Camp

Conversations can be the most important part of a relationship. Beauty may fade, but your partner’s ability to make you laugh or challenge your thoughts will last forever. –Leigh

Sorry but I have 3 things I’d like to share

1.On your wedding pic or engagement pic, each of you either write or have printed the things you truly love about each other.even write the small things he/she does.The key is to always focus on the those things, especially when you are angry with each other.The point is to read those things when you are mad each other so that the thing you are mad about doesn’t seem so bad!There will be times that you don’t like each other very much, but as long as you can focus on what you love about each other everyday then your love will only grow stronger.And never, and I mean never focus on the things you dislike, never speak about these things to your friends!This is the man/woman that you chose to love and stand by your side.