Writer Claire O'Reilly wishes her husband would lie or cheat. 4 I married Mr Perfect anyway, but his ridiculous moral compass has come to be a bone of contention. Simply put, I'm Bride used her dad's ashes in her wedding day nails This video is either unavailable or not supported in this browser.
MOST single women are searching for Mr Perfect, right? But maybe a little imperfection is better. Writer CLARE O’REILLY, 40, from Plymouth, married Jon, 46, 13 years ago and he has not put a foot wrong since.
Today, in a startlingly honest piece, Clare reveals why she is frustrated with being married to Mr Perfect . . .
"I should have got an inkling of my husband’s perfect moral fibre when we were dating back in 2002. I called in sick to work, planning to surprise him as he worked from home.
However, when I turned up with thoughts of a long, lazy, romantic lunch, he refused to ditch his responsibilities even though we were supposed to be in the first throes of love.
I married Mr Perfect anyway, but his ridiculous moral compass has come to be a bone of contention. Simply put, I’m bored of being married to a paragon of virtue.
He is so unlike me it’s disarming but it turns out I’m not alone. New research from the University of Amsterdam has found, while it is beneficial in Mother Nature for species to be similar, it is not as straightforward when it comes to humans.
The study looked at personality traits of 4,464 couples and found agreeableness — a trait associated with trust and empathy — in both partners is vital for a relationship to succeed. But researchers also found when one partner is conscientious, the coupling can actually work better if the other is less so.
Which may go some way to explaining why Jon and I have lasted so long. After a small prang in the car a few years ago, our insurance company informed us that we were entitled to sue the other driver for injuries amounting to around £6,000.
As neither of us was injured, Jon refused to take on the elderly driver despite the figures at play because it would be “dishonest”. It is not just big issues either.
I’m the queen of the last-minute cancellation, thinking nothing of scrapping dinner arrangements with friends just hours before we are due whereas Jon sticks to his commitments.
Don’t get me wrong, I love him and this year we celebrated 17 years together — 13 of them married — but I wish he’d lie, cheat, defame or slander just once, so that I could feel better about my own less-than-perfect character.
While the Amsterdam research didn’t define the term “moral incompatibility”, if it exists, we definitely have it. The research also found compatibility isn’t an “all or nothing” state.
Couples who are both early risers or both night owls tend to have longer relationships than those with opposing bedtime routines — so far, so obvious. But the study also found that we look for personality traits in a spouse or partner that we don’t possess, for example, being an extrovert.
While Jon is quiet and unassuming I’m the extrovert. He is definitely made up of all the traits I’m missing entirely. His moral compass will follow him into the grave, but no one will eulogise about my fair nature or loyal friendship.
I haven’t stayed friends with anyone from school while Jon’s tight-knit circle has been the same since he was ten. They are Godfathers to our kids Eddie, 15, Sammy, ten, and Annie, eight.
But it is not just his general decency that’s hard to stomach. He is a better spouse than I am. If I told him on Friday I was spending Saturday chilling at a spa, he’d probably drop me there so I didn’t have to drive, then take the kids to their clubs before making sure the house was tidy.
Just last week he went out with a friend for a long-planned pint and I was in a foul mood before he went because I had to put the washing away and make the kids packed lunches.
He is selfless to the same degree I’m selfish, which according to the research, can sometimes work. The worst part is that I’m constantly around a level of virtue that is completely unattainable in my own life.
By doing absolutely nothing other than being himself, Jon constantly makes me look at where I’m falling short and what I’m doing wrong without so much of an utterance. It is infuriating.
I know I’m fortunate to have such a decent, giving and kind chap but it is honestly exhausting being married to someone whose moral fibre is so perfect."
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Dwayne 'The Rock' Johnson serenaded a fan on her 100th birthday in a sweet video.
The movie star, 47, sweetly sung Happy Birthday to Marie Grover after finding out she has been a fan on his for over 25 years.
The Rock first heard about his fan through Jamie Klingler, after she tweeted that her best friend's grandmother is set turn 100 and that she wanted to surprise her with a happy birthday from the actor.
Very sweet: Dwayne 'The Rock' Johnson serenaded a fan on her 100th birthday in a sweet video
It all started on September 22 when Jamie took to Twitter to reveal to her followers that she might be able to reach Dwayne and ask him about saying happy birthday to her best friend's grandmother.
She wrote: 'Oh my god - my punt to get @TheRock to wish my best friend's gram a happy 100th birthday as she adores him might work. A friend of a friend is in touch. She will lose her mind. When we were in high school (25 years ago) she would wear a rock sweat shirt and tell us how handsome he is.'
Dwayne got wind of the tweet and tweeted back: 'What?? First I'm hearing of this! Who's turning 100? Beautiful age! What do you need, Jamie?'
Start: It all started on September 22 when Jamie took to Twitter to reveal to her followers that she might be able to reach Dwayne and ask him about saying happy birthday to her best friend's grandmother
On Tuesday, Jamie shared a tweet that said: 'Happy 100th birthday Grandmom Grover. I cannot begin to thank @TheRock enough for making this happen,' adding a video of watching the clip he sent.
Dwayne sang her happy birthday in the video to Marie and added that he's 'honored she's his fan.'
'I believe your in Philadelphia, I love Philadelphia I'm sending you so much love and a huge congratulations on 100 years. What an amazing life. I and I'm sure everyone around you right now are very happy you are born.'
Adding: 'And I'm so happy and honored to send you this message. Marie Grover, Happy Birthday and now wonderful. You can eat cake. You can get drunk, you can have the best time and party hard. I'm sending you so much love.'
Surprise! Dwayne sang her happy birthday in the video to Marie and added that he's 'honored she's his fan'
Sending love: 'I believe you're in Philadelphia, I love Philadelphia I'm sending you so much love and a huge congratulations on 100 years. What an amazing life. I and I'm sure everyone around you right now are very happy you are born'
Marie, who was holding the iPad, said 'love you right back, you Rock you!'
Dwayne saw the video that Jamie tweeted out of Marie's reaction, and wrote: 'Love seeing this. Happy 100th Grandma Grover! I'm honored you're a fan and grateful you were born! Much love, Rock.'
He added: '(Wish my grandma was still around, but like like this is always the best part of fame) #phillystrong,' adding a heart emoji.
Big heart: Dwayne saw the video that Jamie tweeted out of Marie's reaction
Throwback: Marie has been a fan of The Rock for over 25 years; pictured June 12, 2000
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