The Psalmist stated, “He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds. . When I was young, the health benefits of the Word of Wisdom, including.
By Renita Williams
We have all been there. No one is immune from a broken heart.
At some time in our lives someone hurts us, or we hurt them, and we feel like rolling into a little ball on the floor in a heap of tears.
The good news is the heart does heal. And we can find the courage to love again.
Are you suffering through an aching heart or know someone who is? These quotes will help you ease the pain and move on again.
"Giving up doesn't always mean you are weak; sometimes it means that you are strong enough to let go."
"Sadness flies away on the wings of time."
-Jean de La Fontaine
"I thought when love for you died, I should die.
It's dead. Alone, most strangely, I live on."
"Sadness flies on the wings of the morning and out of the heart of darkness comes the light. "
"When love is lost, do not bow your head in sadness; instead keep your head up high and gaze into heaven for that is where your broken heart has been sent to heal."
"A final comfort that is small, but not cold: The heart is the only broken instrument that works. "
"Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together."
"Don't worry about losing. If it is right, it happens - The Main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away."
"Count the garden by the flowers, never by the leaves that fall. Count your life with smiles and not the tears that roll."
"Yes, I will go. I would rather grieve over your absence than over you. "
"Let no one who loves be unhappy... even love unreturned has its rainbow. "
-James Matthew Barrie
“Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.”
- Mark Twain
"It is better to have loved and lost than never to have lost at all."
"Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go."
"Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of withering, of tarnishing."
- Anais Nin
Breaking up with someone you love is never easy. Letting go of the one you love — especially after weeks, months or even years of.
"The hardest thing you can do is smile when you are ill, in pain, or depressed. But this no-cost remedy is a necessary first half-step if you are to start on the road to recovery."
-- Allen Klein
"There is something beautiful about all scars of whatever nature. A scar means the hurt is over, the wound is closed and healed, done with."
-- Harry Crews
"When a child is hurt or sick what happens? It reaches out to you for comfort. It reaches out to you and wants to be held. It wants to feel your touch. It needs to feel your love. To breath your love. And how are you any different than the child when you are hurt and sick?"
-- Ian Paul Marshall
"When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us."
-- Alexander Graham Bell
"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong."
-- Mahatma Gandhi
“Sadness flies away on the wings of time.”
— Jean de La Fontaine
“Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.”
— Mark Twain
“My feet will want to walk to where you are sleeping
I shall go on living.”
— Pablo Neruda
“And then the day came,
when the risk
to remain tight
in a bud
was more painful
than the risk
— Anaïs Nin
“I don’t understand,
Why do I stress the man,
When there’s so many bigger things at hand?”
— Amy Winehouse
“As painful as this thing has been
I just can’t be with no one else.
See I know what we’ve got to do.
You let go, and I’ll let go too.
‘Cause no one’s hurt me more than you
And no one ever will.”
— Lauryn Hill
“The moment that you feel that, just possibly, you’re walking down the street naked, exposing too much of your heart and your mind and what exists on the inside, showing too much of yourself. That’s the moment you may be starting to get it right.”
— Neil Gaiman
“A doctor once told me I feel too much. I said, so does God. that’s why you can see the grand canyon from the moon.”
— Andrea Gibson
“Do not listen to people who think they have all the answers. Nobody is your savior, except you and perhaps a God you do or do not pray to. Read things that make you feel, that challenge what you think you know. Get fired up. Push yourself beyond those ten feet in front of you. Let yourself be pissed the fuck off. Maybe if you get angry enough, you’ll change your damn life. Maybe if you let yourself be consumed by envy or anger or frustration or disappointment, you will finally do what it takes to make yourself happy.”
— Jamie Varon
“We draw maps of each other’s pasts. Heartbreaks colored in black. Grief outlined in purple. The happiest times shaded yellow. This is how we learn each other. We are so scared and brave. We are so terrified and willing. We rewrite the definition of brave and it is this: love again. love again. love again.”
— Fortesa Latifi
“A wounded deer leaps highest.”
— Emily Dickinson
“I belong deeply to myself.”
— Warsan Shire
“I suffer, suffer from a habit, yes I’m an addict.
But someone else is out there, it’s just simple mathematics.
There’s over 7 billion mothafuckas on the planet and 4 billion of us are of legal age.”
“A soul mate is not the person who makes you the happiest, but the one who makes you feel the most.”
— Sierra DeMulder
“Love will come to you when it’s ready,
Not necessarily when you are.”
— Danielle Shorr
“Maybe that’s just how he looks at girls in cars. Looks like they need saving, doesn’t see she’s her own Superhero. Her kryptonite, not his hands. The Galaxy behind his glasses. The promises that fall silent when the sun rises and the sheets are made. She only falls when she forgets her power, that she is the moon and stars and everything he wishes upon. She thinks, maybe that’s just how he looks at girls in cars. Doesn’t even see she’s the one driving.”
— Ari Eastman
“I do my thing and you do your thing. You are you and I am I. And if the end we end up together, it’s beautiful.”
— Boy Meets World
“I am the kind of woman who will never, ever apologise for being herself.”
— Laura Jane Williams
“There is no remedy for love but to love more.”
— Henry David Thoreau
“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.”
— Robert Frost
“What happens when people open their hearts?
They get better.”
— Haruki Murakami
“Never forget, you have value. You are worth time, worth energy, worth worship. Your delicate enchantments are a holy wine. Silver aura of my moon. Song of my air. My afternoon shadows. My divine messenger. The literature of stars is in your very pores.”
— Benedict Smith
and the world didn’t crumble.
I owe the universe a dollar.”
— Rudy Francisco
“Before I die, I want to be somebody’s favorite hiding place, the place they can put everything they know they need to survive, every secret, every solitude, every nervous prayer, and be absolutely certain I will keep it safe. I will keep it safe.”
— Andrea Gibson
“It hurts like hell. And then one day, it doesn’t.”
— My mother
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The Wisdom of a Broken Heart: An Uncommon Guide to Healing, Insight, and Love Length: 241 pages, Word Wise: Enabled, Enhanced Typesetting: Enabled.
I wish to give assurance that there is a sure cure for heartache, disappointment, torment, anguish, and despair. The Psalmist stated, “He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.”1 The healing is a divine miracle; the wounds are the common lot of all mankind. Shakespeare has said, “He jests at scars that never felt a wound.”2 It seems that no one escapes the troubles, challenges, and disappointments of this world.
In today’s overloaded society, some of the healing agents that our parents enjoyed seem not to be at work in our lives. Fewer and fewer are able to relieve stress by working with their hands and by tilling the soil. The increasing demands, the diversity of voices, the entreating sales pitches, the piercing noises, the entanglement of many personal relationships can rob our souls of the peace they need to function and survive. Our hurry to meet the relentless demands of the clock tears away at our inner peace. The pressures to compete and survive are great. Our appetite for personal possessions seems enormous. The increasing forces that destroy the individual and family bring great sadness and heartbreak.
One reason for the spiritual sickness of our society is that so many do not know or care about what is morally right and wrong. So many things are justified on the basis of expediency and the acquiring of money and goods. In recent times, those few individuals and institutions that have been courageous enough to stand up and speak out against adultery, dishonesty, violence, and other forms of evil are often held up to ridicule. Many things are just plain and simply wrong, whether they are illegal or not. Those who persist in following after the evil things of the world cannot know “the peace of God, which passeth all understanding.”3
Somehow, some way, we must find the healing influence that brings solace to the soul. Where is this balm? Where is the compensating relief so desperately needed to help us survive the world’s pressures? The offsetting comfort in large measure can come through increased communion with the Spirit of God. This can bring spiritual healing.
Spiritual healing is illustrated in the story of Warren M. Johnson, pioneer ferryman at Lee’s Ferry, Arizona. As a young man, Warren Johnson came west seeking his fortune in gold in the summer of 1866. He became very ill, and his companions left him under a tree in the yard of a family in Bountiful, Utah. One of the daughters found him and reported there was a dead man out in the yard. Although he was a complete stranger, this kind family took him in and nursed him back to health. They taught him the gospel and he was baptized. He eventually ended up as the ferryman at Lee’s Ferry.
In 1891 the Warren Johnson family suffered a great tragedy. Within a period of a short time, they lost four children to diphtheria. All four were buried in a row next to each other. In a letter to President Wilford Woodruff, dated July 29, 1891, Warren told the story:
“In May 1891 a family residing in Tuba City, came here from Richfield Utah, where they had spent the winter visiting friends. At Panguitch they buried a child, and without disinfecting the wagon or themselves, not even stopping to wash the dead child’s clothes, they came to our house, and remained overnight, mingling with my little children. …
“We knew nothing of the nature of the disease, but had faith in God, as we were here on a very hard mission, and had tried as hard as we knew how to obey the Word of Wisdom, and attend to the other duties of our religion, such as paying tithing, family prayers etc. etc., that our children would be spared. But alas, in 4 1/2 days [the oldest boy] choked to death in my arms. Two more were taken down with the disease and we fasted and prayed as much as we thought it wisdom, as we had many duties to perform here. We fasted some 24 hours and once I fasted 40 hours, but all of no avail for both my little girls died also. About a week after their death my fifteen year old daughter Melinda was stricken down and we did all we could for her but she followed the others, and three of my dear girls and one boy [have] been taken from us, and the end is not yet. My oldest girl 19 years old is now prostrate with the disease, and we are fasting and praying in her behalf. … What have we done that the Lord has left us, and what can we do to gain his favor again[?]
“Yours in the gospel
“Warren M. Johnson”4
In a subsequent letter to his friend Warren Foote, Brother Johnson testified that he had found a spiritual peace:
“I can assure you however, that it is the hardest [trial] of my life, but I set out for salvation, and am determined through the help of my Heavenly Father to hold fast to the iron rod, no matter what trials may come upon me. I have not yet slackened in the performance of my duties, and hope and trust that I shall have the faith and prayers of my brethren that I may live so as to receive the blessings, you having authority, have placed on my head.”5
The seventh article of faith states that, among other spiritual gifts, we believe in the gift of healing. I believe this gift extends to healing of both the body and the spirit. The Spirit speaks peace to the soul. This spiritual solace comes by invoking spiritual gifts, which are claimed and manifested in many ways. They are rich, full, and abundant in the Church today. They flow from the humble and proper use of a testimony. They also come through administering to the sick following an anointing with consecrated oil. Christ is the Great Physician, who rose from the dead “with healing in his wings,”6 while the Comforter is the agent of healing.
The Lord has provided many avenues by which we receive this healing influence. I am grateful that He has restored temple work to the earth. It is an important part of the work of salvation for both the living and the dead. Our temples provide a sanctuary where we go to lay aside many of the anxieties of the world. Our temples are places of peace and tranquillity. In these hallowed sanctuaries God “healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.”
The reading and study of the scriptures can bring great comfort. President Marion G. Romney (1897–1988), First Counselor in the First Presidency, stated:
“I feel certain that if, in our homes, parents will read from the Book of Mormon prayerfully and regularly, both by themselves and with their children, the spirit of that great book will come to permeate our homes and all who dwell therein. The spirit of reverence will increase, mutual respect and consideration for each other will grow. The spirit of contention will depart. Parents will counsel their children in greater love and wisdom. Children will be more responsive and submissive to that counsel. Righteousness will increase. Faith, hope and charity—the pure love of Christ—will abound in our homes and lives, bringing in their wake peace, joy, and happiness.”7
When I was young, the health benefits of the Word of Wisdom, including abstinence from tobacco, alcoholic drinks, tea, and coffee, were not as well established as they are today. However, the spiritual benefits have long been validated. The Word of Wisdom promises that those who remember to keep this counsel and walk in obedience to the commandments “shall receive health in their navel and marrow to their bones.”8
Marrow has long been a symbol for vibrant, healthful living. But in a day of life-saving bone marrow transplants, the phrase “marrow to their bones” takes on an additional significance as a spiritual covenant. The promises for those who keep the Word of Wisdom continue. Those who observe this law “shall find wisdom and great treasures of knowledge, even hidden treasures;
“And shall run and not be weary, and shall walk and not faint.
“And I, the Lord, give unto them a promise, that the destroying angel shall pass by them, as the children of Israel, and not slay them.”9
If we are to be spared, we do indeed need to be fortified against the many destroying agents at work in the world today.
For many of us, however, spiritual healing takes place not in great arenas of the world but in our sacrament meetings. It is comforting to worship with, partake of the sacrament with, and be taught in a spirit of humility by neighbors and close friends who love the Lord and try to keep His commandments. Our good bishop assigns the speakers to treat a gospel subject or principle. Invariably they speak by the power of the Holy Ghost, opening their hearts so that the audience can behold the jewels therein. The messages are given in humble witness and sweet counsel. We of the audience understand that which is taught by the Spirit of Truth and verify the accompanying testimonies.
Our sacrament meetings should be worshipful and healing, restoring those who attend to spiritual soundness. Part of the healing process occurs as we worship through music and song. Singing our beautiful, worshipful hymns is food for our souls. We become of one heart and one mind when we sing praises to the Lord. Among other influences, worshiping in song has the effect of spiritually unifying the participants in an attitude of reverence.
Spiritual healing also comes from bearing and hearing humble testimonies. A witness given in a spirit of contrition, thankfulness for divine providence, and submission to divine guidance is a powerful remedy to help relieve the anguish and concerns of our hearts.
I doubt that sincere members of this Church can achieve complete spiritual healing without being in harmony with the foundation of the Church, which the Apostle Paul stated is “the apostles and prophets.”10 This may not be the popular thing to do based on the long history of rejection by the world of the prophets and their messages. Nevertheless they are the oracles of God on earth and those called to lead and direct the work in this day and time. It is also essential for us to be found sustaining our bishops, branch presidents, and stake and district presidents.
Recent information seems to confirm that the ultimate spiritual healing comes in the forgetting of self. A review of the accounts indicates that those who survived best in prison and hostage camps were those who were concerned for their fellow prisoners and were willing to give away their own food and substance to help sustain the others. Dr. Viktor Frankl stated: “We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”11 The Savior of the world said it very simply: “And whosoever shall lose his life shall preserve it.”12
Of all that we might do to find solace, prayer is perhaps the most comforting. We are instructed to pray to the Father, in the name of His Son, the Lord Jesus Christ, and by the power of the Holy Ghost. The very act of praying to God is satisfying to the soul, even though God, in His wisdom, may not give what we ask for. President Harold B. Lee (1899–1973) taught us that all of our prayers are answered, but sometimes the Lord says no.13 The Prophet Joseph taught that “the best way to obtain truth and wisdom is … to go to God in prayer.”14 Prayer is most helpful in the healing process.
Wounds inflicted by others are healed by the “art of healing.” President Joseph F. Smith (1838–1918) stated, “But the healing of a wound is an art not acquired by practice alone, but by the loving tenderness that comes from universal good will and a sympathetic interest in the welfare and happiness of others.”15
There is hope for all to be healed through repentance and obedience. The prophet Isaiah verified that “though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow.”16 The Prophet Joseph Smith stated, “There is never a time when the spirit is too old to approach God. All are within the reach of pardoning mercy.”17
After full repentance, the formula is wonderfully simple. Indeed, the Lord has given it to us in these words: “Will ye not now return unto me, and repent of your sins, and be converted, that I may heal you?”18 In so doing, we have His promise that “He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.”
We find solace in Christ through the agency of the Comforter, and the Savior extends this invitation to us: “Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”19 The Apostle Peter speaks of “casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.”20 As we do this, healing takes place, just as the Lord promised through the prophet Jeremiah when He said: “I will turn their mourning into joy, and will comfort them, and make them rejoice from their sorrow. … I have satiated the weary soul, and I have replenished every sorrowful soul.”21
And in the celestial glory, we are told that “God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain.”22 Then faith and hope will replace heartache, disappointment, torment, anguish, and despair, and the Lord will give us strength, as Mormon says, that we “should suffer no manner of afflictions, save it were swallowed up in the joy of Christ.”23
After prayerfully studying this message, share it using a method that encourages the participation of those you teach. A few examples follow:
Show what you use or invite family members to show what they use to treat minor wounds, such as soap, water, and bandages. Discuss the process of physical healing. According to President Faust, why do we need spiritual healing today? (See the article’s first four paragraphs.) Discuss several of President Faust’s “agents” for obtaining the gift of healing. Bear testimony of the healing power of Jesus Christ.
Read aloud or tell in your own words the story of Warren M. Johnson. What can we learn from this story about spiritual wounds and healing?
Read what President Faust says about sacrament meetings. Invite family members to share how attending sacrament meeting has helped them feel the Holy Spirit and be healed.
Point out that President Faust uses the word of God from key scriptures to help heal wounded souls (see Jacob 2:8). Identify and share those scriptures that impress you.
Romeo and Juliet, 2.2.1.
Quoted in P. T. Reilly, “Warren Marshall Johnson, Forgotten Saint,” Utah Historical Quarterly, winter 1971, 19; spelling modernized.
Warren Foote Autobiography, Archives of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (5 vols.), 2:260–61.
2 Ne. 25:13.
In Conference Report, Apr. 1960, 112–13.
Man’s Search for Meaning (1959), 86.
See The Teachings of Harold B. Lee, ed. Clyde J. Williams (1996), 127.
Teachings of the Prophet Joseph Smith, sel. Joseph Fielding Smith (1976), 191.
Gospel Doctrine, 5th ed. (1939), 264.
3 Ne. 9:13.
1 Pet. 5:7.
Jer. 31:13, 25.
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