Gratitude is present in the life of youth who live in different contexts () One might expect, however, some link between children's wishes and their gratitude.
Dr. Zan’s Thoughts:
For many years now my house has been the Thanksgiving gathering place for a large group of extended family. Because many must travel from a distance, the holiday is a giant family sleepover for several days, and part of the chaotic fun includes stepping over bodies camouflaged in sleeping bags, sometimes positioned in the most unexpected places. This is a practice that all hold dear, especially given our family’s attachment to the careful observance of time honored traditions. In truth, I am probably one of the less traditional of the bunch and can’t help but throw a curveball into the expected, much anticipated meal. With time, I have learned that a new veggie side dish is just the right amount of playful experimentation, without messing with the standards.
One of the traditions that has emerged that I absolutely love and hope to pass on to subsequent generations is the creation of a Thankful List. Once the meal is consumed, and the first round of dishes are loaded into the dishwasher, the Cousins (several of them now along with their significant others, spouses and new babies) excuse themselves to brainstorm and construct a written list of all that inspires gratitude for them. Somehow, for years we adults got away with sending the Cousins off to create their list, but we never created one of our own. We even tried to suggest that we would just talk about our gratitude. However, the Cousins weren’t having it! They convinced us, wisely, that we as the adult generation needed to have the experience of discussing and writing our Thankful List as well.
Not surprisingly, this is one of my highlights of every Thanksgiving. Not only do the Cousins as well as the Aunts and Uncles gather as individual groups to discuss and write down a very long list of gratitudes, there is also the opportunity to present these lists when the full group reconvenes. The Cousins make certain that every person has their part to share, without flourish or fanfare, but with much crowd participation. We respond with “Awe…” when they are sweet, with puzzlement when they are too hip and trendy to make sense to us, and often with bobbing heads of agreement. But mostly, we respond with laughter because the Cousins are and forever will be to us, adorable and hilarious. The Cousins have taught us to be grateful for the special moments, the silliest little things, to cherish group jokes that are told with much gusto and with great value on repetition. Their list, by the way, is always longer than that of the Aunts and Uncles, spanning multiple typed pages every year. Perhaps there is a little healthy competition there, but perhaps they really are brimming with gratitude and joy. I hope so. That is my wish for Dr. Na and for all of you as you approach and embrace the holiday.
And now, may the pie eating commence!
Dr. Nadine’s Reflections:
I love Thanksgiving. I think about it for weeks in advance, first anticipating that it means time off from work for a long weekend. Then I fantasize about all the traditional foods that show up on the Thanksgiving table that don’t make an appearance at any other time of year--calorie-laden “Party Potatoes”, stuffing, cranberry sauce, turkey, and gravy, which I’ve discovered is delicious with everything. And lastly, I anticipate my loved ones converging together all in one place, fully enjoying and annoying each other, as families do.
Over the years, my family, in contrast to Dr. Zan’s, has dwindled in numbers. Many of the Cousins have moved away, and are too far to reconvene at the homestead. Other Dear Ones have left this earth, leaving us with wonderful memories of their presences which graced the bountiful table. The chaos of the early years loaded with little kids running around has given way to quiet celebration and mindful appreciation of the present members of the family who remain.
I do find at this holiday that I’m prompted to be reflective in a different way than at the December and January holidays. This holiday in particular focuses on family, friends and food. I’m keenly aware at how many people I’ve recently encountered whose social connections are less than ideal, whose living situations are difficult, who are financially struggling, and who are generally having a hard time finding things for which to be grateful.
But rather than being restrained because of the adversity faced by those around us, I’m actually issuing a respectful directive to celebrate BOLDLY. Wayne Dyer once said that eschewing abundance that is ours does nothing to help anyone else (my paraphrase and apologies to Dr. Dyer for any mistaken paraphrases). Instead, embrace all the abundance that is yours, however big or small, in whatever form. There is always something to be thankful for, even if it’s only the ability to find that one tiny thing.
Let me then paint for you the picture of my Thanksgiving. The Thanksgiving guest list has grown again since the changes in our family circle. Now we include the “inner circle” of family, plus in-laws and out-laws (giggle) and a smattering of friends. We gather at my cousin’s, whose house is big enough to accommodate us all. There is chaos in the kitchen because, as you know, EVERYONE hangs around the middle island, getting in the way of the cooks who are trying to carve the turkey, make gravy at the hot stove, and pull the green bean casserole out of the oven without burning any of the guests. Then we gather in the large family room, before adjourning to the table. Here we take the time as a group to listen to a short reading or resource or commentary on the meaning of the holiday. We together offer thanks and express gratitude for the blessings that we have. We pray for those who have less, who are weary, and who need spiritual support to continue on. There is a recognition that to whom much is given, much is expected. And we commit to continuing to be of service to others. And then, without further ado, we fly to the table, laughing and jockeying for seats closest to the turkey!
Dr. Zan and I love that you are sharing this blog with us. We wish you joy, gratitude, contentment, and peace. We desire for you the abundance of all that is good, all that is noble, and all that is healthy, to use in service to yourself, to your Dear Ones and to our whole Community. Thanksgiving Blessings to you!!
Some gratitude journals come with some prompts. . A wise man is content with his lot, whatever it may be, without wishing for what he has not.
Thanksgiving Day is the perfect time to remind one another of the many reasons there are to be grateful. Whether you’re gathered around the table, crafting your Thanksgiving card, or just in need of a little reminder, these Happy Thanksgiving messages and well wishes will help you count your blessings this season.
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Although sending out holiday cards is most closely associated with Christmas, there is certainly something special about receiving a Thanksgiving message from those nearest and dearest to you. These heartfelt messages will serve as the perfect introduction to your holiday season.
Go beyond the norm and craft a Thanksgiving blessing that will not only make your recipients smile, but also help you get back to what really matters during this time of the year. Mix and match the messages below or customize them with your own wishes for a humble seasons’ greetings to share around the table, in a greeting card or in your Thanksgiving party invitations.
Express warm Thanksgiving blessings and elevate your sentiments with a few touching Thanksgiving wishes. Your thanksgiving wishes should be filled with gratitude and appreciation. These words will add charm to your message and give your recipient the important reminder and appreciation he or she needs, now and always. This Thanksgiving, send a message that will be cherished for a lifetime.
If you are unsure of what to say to your card recipient, these general Happy Thanksgiving wishes for everyone, can be used to complete your message.
Don’t forget to wish those you work with a bountiful holiday too. You’ll want to keep your Happy Thanksgiving messages for colleagues professional but still carry out your charm with the words you select.
Expressing words of thanks is not only good manners, but the right thing to do. It validates the actions of the person that helped you.
The world is a better place because there is always someone out there helping others. Someone is always trying to make this world a better place to live. Whether it’s through their actions or comments, these folks deserve our thanks. Saying thank you may not repay the good things someone did for you, it can certainly go a long way. Whenever someone does or says something positive for you, make sure to express your appreciation.
Here are some lovely choices that can be shared with people who helped you when you feel gratitude. Whether you want to thank someone for helping you in time of need, you can find the right words here.
I’m wearing the smile you gave me.
TYFBA! (Thank you for being Awesome!)
A BIG thank you with a lot of love!
Thanks a million!
I cannot thank you enough for your help! You are nothing less than a blessing from God!
Please accept my vehement protestations of gratitude.
Thankful and grateful to have you as a friend.
We’d love to express our gratitude for your generous gift.
You have no idea how much this has helped me.
Thanks for the great time…and the great memories.
I am so grateful for the things you did for me.
What a blessing you’ve been.
Bless your generosity!
A heartfelt thank you for all that you’ve done.
You made my day!
Our highest gratitude and appreciation – we are so grateful for your support.
Magnificent! You’re a life saver!
I’m humbled and appreciative for all you’ve done on our behalf.
The world is full of wonderful things like you!
Our highest appreciation for your kindness.
At this difficult time, it’s so nice to feel appreciated.
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The roots of all goodness lie in the soil of appreciation for goodness.
Being thankful not only shows good manners, but a simple expression of thankfulness can go a long way in relationships and communication with others. It not only enhances our own lives, but makes other people feel appreciated.
Appreciation is a wonderful thing. It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.
As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.
John F. Kennedy
I am all gratitude.
You were there for me during a very difficult time. Thanks!
It was so awesome of you.
I will forever be beholden to you.
You have my gratitude.
What would I do without you?
I will never forget what you have done.
I’m so grateful for your thoughtfulness.
Words are powerless to express my gratitude.
Accept my endless gratitude.
My sincere gratitude.
Your generosity overwhelms me.
I appreciate your time.
Consider yourself heartily thanked.
I truly appreciate you.
I cannot express my appreciation.
I’ll forever be grateful.
Perfect is the word that comes to mind when I try to describe your gift. I don’t think I myself even could have gifted anything better. Thanks for knowing me so well.
Only someone with great taste could get me such a cool gift. Your generosity is as great as your sense of style.
Thank you for the gift. You put a smile in our hearts.
I think you know me better than I know myself. Your gift was exactly what I wanted. Thanks!
You never fail to surprise me. Thank you for such a terrific gift.
Thank you for knowing me so well and for the perfect gift. One of the best presents I’ve ever gotten!
You made me feel so special when I opened your gift. I knew that you spent time, effort, and energy to make sure it was awesome. Thank you!
Thank you for adding to the joy of our wedding with your warm wishes and thoughtful gift.
It’s harder and harder these days to get the number of volunteers we need—but you made time in your busy schedule to step up. Thank you!
Thank you very much!
I am blessed to have a friend like you.
Thanks for not giving up on me.
Thank you for your help. Please accept this card as a symbol of my sincere gratitude for everything you’ve done.
Thank you for your help. You always know how to make life brighter for everyone you know.
It was a great party! You really know how to make good times happen. Thank you for letting me be part of it.
Thank you for the unforgettable meal. You’re incredible.
I couldn’t find a card that expressed my gratitude the way I wanted. I need a card that gives you a big hug.
If you could see my face right now, you’d see a look of gratitude. Thank you!
I’m very lucky to have a friend like you. My deepest gratitude for all your help! Thank you.
For all the little and big ways you’ve pitched in…thanks!
For my burden-bearing, laughter-sharing, forever-caring friend…a very happy, hug-filled, heartfelt thanks.
A big thank-you to you for letting me crash at your place (again) during the conference. You always make me feel just like family.
You made a difference because you are so caring and thoughtful.
There was nothing random about your acts of kindness. Thank you for all you have done.
Today I have realized that people who are kind are actually the richest, because they are giving away kindness – something that can never be taken or stolen. Thanks for being kind.
Thanks so much for all your help when I know you’re already so busy.
Words can’t express the gratitude I feel when I think about what you have done. I’ll just say thanks.
I wanted personally to let you know how gratifying it was to receive your kind note of support and encouragement.
I was captivated when I received your compliment note and was manifested pleasure reading your beautiful words. Thank you.
Looking at how obliged and indebted I am feeling towards you right now, I have realized that kindness is actually one of the greatest weapons any person can ever have. Thank you.
Thank you very much for telling me how much you have enjoyed reading my column. I’m so pleased to know that it brightens your day.
Your thoughtful note really made me happy that now you are wholly comfortable with me and my family. I would like to tell you that we already miss you a lot and really enjoyed being with you. You are always welcome to stay with us anytime in future.
Your incredible generosity and thoughtfulness shone through in your card. You didn’t have to do that, thank you!
Thoughtful and generous are two words I think of when I think of you. Thanks!
I would like you to know that I was pleased when I received your beautiful and kind note of encouragement and support. Thank you for supporting me all through the ups and downs.
I truly appreciate your nice note for my efforts. I really need your support for further endeavors. Thank you again!
Thank you for your kind words. If you could see my face, you’d see the smile you put on it.
Thank you so much for your encouragement. They mean a lot to me!
I would be grateful even if I didn’t write this thank you card, but I wanted to let you know that I think you are cool.
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Science tells us that grateful people are typically happier people. Being grateful makes us more optimistic and reduces negativity -- and that's a huge reason to make acts of gratitude a daily habit.
Try to think about what you’re thankful for at least once a day. If you begin to prioritize gratitude and recognize the things you appreciate most, eventually it will become second nature.
In light of small successes and simple acts of kindness, here are five ways to show gratitude every day:
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1. Write in an abundance journal. Purchase a small notebook and keep it in your briefcase, purse or on your bedside table. Take a few minutes each day to jot down one or two positive experiences, or, alternatively, write down what you’re grateful for at the end of each week.
Include small acts of kindness: a stranger who paid for your coffee, someone who held the door open for you or a phone call or note of appreciation from a friend, client or colleague.
If you don’t write down these small moments of happiness, they will be easily forgotten. When you keep a journal, you can look back and remember how much you have to be thankful for during the times when life doesn't seem to be going your way.
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2. Express your gratitude in person. When a friend, colleague or client goes above and beyond, be sure to verbalize your appreciation. Go to their office or treat them to lunch or a quick cup of coffee.
Many entrepreneurs find it difficult to leave the office, so make it a point to interact with others as much as possible. When you make time for those who are important to your business, the lasting impression that that leaves can be endlessly rewarding.
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3. Show respect for those around you. Treat others with the same level of courtesy you expect to receive: smile, show kindness, exhibit patience and listen.
For instance, the next time you make a coffee run in the morning, offer to bring back coffee for someone else in the office, too. Wash your coffee mug in the office kitchen rather than letting your dirty dishes sit in the sink. If you see someone running toward the elevator, hold the door.
You know how nice it feels when someone takes a few moments to show kindness. Be that person to someone else.
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4. Don't complain. When something terrible happens, it's natural to want to complain about it. You may become impatient with someone in line who takes too long to pay or moan to an employee about a difficult client. You may even complain to yourself when a driver cuts you off in traffic.
But every time you complain, you reinforce a negative state of mind without offering a solution to the problem at hand. Instead, next time you feel frustrated, take a few deep breaths and try focusing on something positive.
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5. Volunteer in your community.There’s a well-known secret among long-time volunteers: an act of kindness does more good for you than those you’re serving.
Once a month, for example, I take my therapy dog, Cooper, to the local library where the children read stories to him. After all, dogs are non-judgmental and they make great listeners.
If you’re short on time, choose a volunteer opportunity that requires only an hour or two each month. Volunteering gives you something positive to focus on and is a great way to give back to the community at large.
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