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We all have our ups and downs in life. If you currently face more downs than ups, this blog post could help you find the way to true happiness.

Emotions are fickle things. And sometimes, even when we feel an emotion strongly, we wonder to ourselves what the limits are, if it's possible to feel it even stronger. So even as you sit in enormous joy, there can be a nagging question burning in the back of your brain: Am I really happy, or am I fooling myself? Is there even more I could get out of this life?

We know that, despite the idea that things would be amazing if you just had millions of bucks, material wealth is a horrible indicator of happiness levels. Just ask people like Anthony Bourdain or Kate Spade. So looking at your stuff or the number for your bank account isn't going to tell you if you've reached your best.

The single best indicator that your life is on track and that you've reached real happiness is that you're doing what you would do even if nobody were looking.

We care a ridiculous amount about what others think of us, because we crave connection and inclusion. That's natural. It's just part of being human, of being a social creature. But happiness can be defined as the feeling you get when your desires match your actions. And day after day, most of us allow others to mess that up. We behave based on social norms and expectations more than we do based on our genuine wants, needs and opinions. We pretend, pretend, pretend, sending out the image we believe others want to see. And at the end of the day, we're tired.

It's pretty exhausting to hide who you are.

When you do what you would do even if no one were looking, though, you bring your desires and behaviors into agreement again. The internal conflict is gone. You don't have deep regrets or a paralyzing fear of trying or learning something new, because you're no longer listening to the judgmental, critical voices that tell you that you should have taken another path or that you can't. You know that you are accountable to yourself and that the consequences of your decisions are yours.   

But let's take this even a little deeper. Look one more time at the measure of happiness above. Now consider the definition of integrity, which is doing the right thing when nobody's looking. So in a sense, integrity is simply happiness with a moral compass. The more integrity you have in your life and business, the closer happiness is. That's incredibly important to remember, because people still try to promote the idea that, to be successful, you have to sacrifice some ethics. To be successful and joyful, you have to keep them.

But if the measure of happiness is doing what we'd do even if nobody were looking, what do we need to take that action? What's required for us to be that authentic with our behavior?

The most critical thing you need is emotional intelligence. This doesn't mean you have to be practically an empath or get every cue from others right. It just means that you try to pay attention to what you feel and why, and that you can express and control those feelings. It's basic self-awareness. Without that basic understanding of yourself, it's much easier to let others direct you and tell you what to do.

Part of emotional intelligence is awareness of others, too, though. You need that to do what you want with support instead of conflict, and to truly understand the influence your behaviors are going to have in the world. So don't make the mistake of thinking that happiness means you steamroll or don't consider others anymore. It simply means that your behaviors are internally motivated rather than totally externally directed.

Now, life isn't perfect. It's messy, and you'll have rough days. But just because you feel sad or frustrated for a while doesn't mean disaster has hit or that overall you don't have a happy life. See the big picture and know that every emotion serves a purpose for you. If you can do that and choose to spend your mental energy on the most positive things around you, you've nailed it.   

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We all have our ups and downs in life. If you currently face more downs than ups, this blog post could help you find the way to true happiness.

Finding True Happiness: Lessons, Reflections, and Tips on How to Be Truly Happy

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“When people are deeply happy they bring a sense of purpose with them wherever they go, whatever circumstances they’re in. So if they’re changing the oil in the car, they bring a sense of joyful purpose even to that.” -Marci Shimoff

What is it that creates real happiness? Can you recall a time when you experienced true happiness in your life?

In our society, most people associate happiness with achievement.

“ I will be happy when I… get a promotion, make more money, find my soul mate.”

Have you ever known anyone who was driven, goal oriented, and appeared to have achieved greatness in their life, but still didn’t seem to be happy? Unfortunately, this happens all too often.

Think about the biggest goal you ever set and achieved some time in the past. How long did you spend working to achieve that goal? How long did the celebration of its achievement last? Once you had achieved the goal, did it make you happy?

The Key to True Happiness and Living a Passionate Life

The key to true happiness is being able to discover it in every moment, not waiting for it to arrive with the achievement of some future goal. Living a passionate life is the fulfillment that comes from the process of creation. The happiness that comes from achieving a goal is fleeting at best.

Happiness is a fickle beast. It has a tendency to come and go as we feel expanded and contracted. In Marci Shimoff’s latest book, “Happy For No Reason”  she defines happiness as experiencing a state of deep inner fulfillment that comes from a profound connection with your own nature.

In one of the ancient Vedic texts from India there is this saying:

“You have control over action alone, never over its fruits.”

You have no way of insuring that you will achieve any goal in your life (the fruit of your action). The only thing you can determine is what you do, and what action you take to create the life you choose to live.

This is why it’s so important to enjoy the ride and love what you do to achieve true happiness. Most of your life is about the process of creating, not the outcomes or results of that process. Once you’ve realized a dream or a goal, you’ll celebrate it, enjoy it, and then you will be back in the process of creating your next dream.

Happiness arises spontaneously when you love the process. Passions are about how you live your life. Goals are about what you chose to create in your life.

Write Out Your Passion and Be Happy

Make a list of 10 things you love and then complete this sentence, “When my life is ideal I am _______________________________.”

Completing that sentence helps you define your process. It helps you define what elements you need in order to live a passionate life with purpose. It helps you define what you need to be happy in the process.

If you write, “living in a beautiful home overlooking the ocean,” your passion is the “living” part of that sentence. Living is a process. Your goal may be to acquire a beautiful home overlooking the ocean, but if you acquire it and never live in it, are you living your passion?

So how do you live this passion if you don’t yet have the home? Whenever you are faced with a choice, a decision, or an opportunity, you ask yourself, “will this bring me closer to living in my beautiful home, or will it take me farther away?” If the answer is that it will, then you go for it. If not, then you decline.

As you make these decisions, you will find yourself fueled by the remarkable process of the unfolding of your destiny. You can then begin to live a passionate life filled with true happiness. There will almost certainly be challenges, and within those challenges the greatest gifts are buried.

Are You Fulfilling Your Life’s Purpose?

Choosing to live in favor of your passions has the power to transform your life into one full of love, happiness and meaning. Discover how you can use your passion for inspiring and empowering others to become an entrepreneur who ACTUALLY makes a difference in the world around you!

With love

Janet Bray Attwood

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How to Find True Happiness

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We all want to feel happy, and each of us has different ways of getting there. Here are 10 steps you can take to increase your joie de vivre and bring more happiness into your life:

  1. Be with others who make you smile. Studies show that we are happiest when we are around those who are also happy. Stick with those who are joyful and let rub off on you.
  2. Hold on to your values. What you find true, what you know is fair, and what you believe in are all values. Over time, the more you honor them, the better you will feel about yourself and those you love.
  3. Accept the good. Look at your life and take stock of what’s working, and don’t push away something just because it isn’t perfect. When good things happen, even the very little ones, let them in.
  4. Imagine the best. Don’t be afraid to look at what you really want and see yourself getting it. Many people avoid this process because they don’t want to be disappointed if things don’t work out. The truth is that imagining getting what you want is a big part of achieving it.
  5. Do things you love. Maybe you can’t skydive every day or take vacations every season, but as long as you get to do the things you love every once in a while, you will find greater happiness.
  6. Find purpose. Those who believe they are contributing to the well-being of humanity tend to feel better about their lives. Most people want to be part of something greater than they are, simply because it’s fulfilling.
  7. Listen to your heart. You are the only one who knows what fills you up. Your family and friends may think you’d be great at something that really doesn’t float your boat. It can be complicated following your bliss. Just be smart, and keep your day job for the time being.
  8. Push yourself, not others. It’s easy to feel that someone else is responsible for your fulfillment, but the reality is that it is really your charge. Once you realize that, you have the power to get where you want to go. Stop blaming others or the world, and you’ll find your answers much sooner.
  9. Be open to change. Even if it doesn’t feel good, change is the one thing you can count on. Change will happen, so make contingency plans and emotionally shore yourself up for the experience.
  10. Bask in the simple pleasures. Those who love you, treasured memories, silly jokes, warm days, and starry nights—these are the ties that bind and the gifts that keep on giving.

Happiness and fulfillment are within your grasp, but sometimes just out of reach. Understanding what works best for you is the first step in finding them more often.

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Want True Happiness? Make It The Most Important Thing In Your Life

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The pursuit of happiness is real.

We all want to be happy, right?

After all, life’s better when we’re happy, healthy and successful.

So to help you on your journey to happiness, please enjoy these 138 feel-good quotes about happiness…

Quotes About Happiness

“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.” – Abraham Lincoln

“Our capacity to draw happiness from aesthetic objects or material goods in fact seems critically dependent on our first satisfying a more important range of emotional or psychological needs, among them the need for understanding, for love, expression and respect.” – Alain De Botton

“Be happy with what you have. Be excited about what you want.” – Alan Cohen

“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.” – Albert Camus

“Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.” – Albert Einstein

“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.” – Albert Schweitzer

“I have only two kinds of days: happy and hysterically happy.” – Allen J. Lefferdink

“People should find happiness in the little things, like family.” – Amanda Bynes

“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy, and inspires your hopes.” – Andrew Carnegie

“As people spin faster and faster in the pursuit of merely personal happiness, they become exhausted in the futile effort of chasing themselves.” – Andrew Delbanco

“Whoever is happy will make others happy.” – Anne Frank

“Happiness depends upon ourselves.” – Aristotle

“Happy girls are the prettiest.” – Audrey Hepburn

“Learn to value yourself, which means: fight for your happiness.” – Ayn Rand

“Family, friends, a good laugh and beautiful weather are the best cures.” – Bar Refaeli

“All happiness or unhappiness solely depends upon the quality of the object to which we are attached by love.” – Baruch Spinoza

“Happiness consists more in conveniences of pleasure that occur everyday than in great pieces of good fortune that happen but seldom.” – Benjamin Franklin

“A great obstacle to happiness is to expect too much happiness.” – Bernard de Fontenelle

“To be without some of the things you want is an indispensable part of happiness.” – Bertrand Russell

“To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one’s own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him.” – Buddha

“There is some kind of a sweet innocence in being human—in not having to be just happy or just sad—in the nature of being able to be both broken and whole, at the same time.” – C. JoyBell C.

“Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better to take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.” – Carl Jung

“The secret of happiness is freedom, the secret of freedom is courage.” – Carrie Jones

“Happiness is a way station between too little and too much.” – Channing Pollock, Mr. Moneypenny

“It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness.” – Charles Spurgeon

“There is no happiness like that of being loved by your fellow creatures, and feeling that your presence is an addition to their comfort.” – Charlotte Bronte

“If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help someone else.” – Chinese proverb

“The only way to find true happiness is to risk being completely cut open.” – Chuck Palahniuk

“Be happy. It’s one way of being wise.” – Colette

“Nobody really cares if you’re miserable, so you might as well be happy.” – Cynthia Nelms

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” – Dalai Lama

“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.” – Dale Carnegie

“People are unhappy when they get something too easily. You have to sweat – that’s the only moral they know.” – Dany Laferrière

“We can’t control the world. We can only (barely) control our own reactions to it. Happiness is largely a choice, not a right or entitlement.” – David C. Hill

“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.” – Denis Waitley

“I think the key to life is just being a happy person, and happiness will bring you success.” – Diego Val

“Happiness is being content with what you have, living in freedom and liberty, having a good family life and good friends.” – Divyanka Tripathi

“Happiness is the interval between periods of unhappiness.” – Don Marquis

“The world is full of people looking for spectacular happiness while they snub contentment.” – Doug Larson

“Happiness grows at our own firesides, and is not to be picked in strangers’ gardens.” – Douglas Jerrold

“Happiness is always the serendipitous result of looking for something else.” – Dr. Idel Dreimer

“Happiness is excitement that has found a settling down place. But there is always a little corner that keeps flapping around.” – E.L. Konigsburg

“Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.” – Earl Nightingale

“If only we’d stop trying to be happy we could have a pretty good time.” – Edith Wharton

“Happiness is not a goal; it is a by-product.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

“The essence of philosophy is that a man should so live that his happiness shall depend as little as possible on external things.” – Epictetus

“The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness.” – Eric Hoffer

“My family didn’t have a lot of money, and I’m grateful for that. Money is the longest route to happiness.” – Evangeline Lilly

“Happiness is a place between too much and too little.” – Finnish proverb

“Happiness lies in the joy of achievement and the thrill of creative effort.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt

“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.” – Frederick Keonig

“There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do.” – Freya Stark

“No medicine cures what happiness cannot.” – Gabriel García Márquez

“Give a man health and a course to steer, and he’ll never stop to trouble about whether he’s happy or not.” – George Bernard Shaw

“Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.” – George Burns

“There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.” – George Sand

“How simple it is to see that we can only be happy now, and there will never be a time when it is not now.” – Gerald Jampolsky

“Happiness is a by-product of an effort to make someone else happy.” – Gretta Brooker Palmer

“Now and then it’s good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy.” – Guillaume Apollinaire

“Cheerfulness is what greases the axles of the world. Don’t go through life creaking.” – H.W. Byles

“Happiness and sadness run parallel to each other. When one takes a rest, the other one tends to take up the slack.” – Hazelmarie Elliott

“True happiness is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.” – Helen Keller

“You can only have bliss if you don’t chase it.” – Henepola Gunaratana

“Happiness is a form of courage.” – Holbrook Jackson

“All happiness depends on courage and work.” – Honoré de Balzac

“Real happiness is cheap enough, yet how dearly we pay for its counterfeit.” – Hosea Ballou

“So we shall let the reader answer this question for himself: who is the happier man, he who has braved the storm of life and lived or he who has stayed securely on shore and merely existed?” – Hunter S. Thompson

“Happiness is not an ideal of reason, but of imagination.” – Immanuel Kant

“Happiness is a matter of one’s most ordinary and everyday mode of consciousness being busy and lively and unconcerned with self.” – Iris Murdoch

“Happiness is where we find it, but very rarely where we seek it.” – J. Petit Senn

“Happiness is distraction from the human tragedy.” – J.M. Reinoso

“Real happiness is not of temporary enjoyment, but is so interwoven with the future that it blesses for ever.” – James Lendall Basford

“The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet.” – James Oppenheim

“I must learn to be content with being happier than I deserve.” – Jane Austen

“Who is the happiest of men? He who values the merits of others, and in their pleasure takes joy, even as though it were his own.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

“Ask yourself whether you are happy and you cease to be so.” – John Stuart Mill

“Happiness is only real when shared.” – Jon Krakauer

“You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness.” – Jonathan Safran Foer

“Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.” – Joseph Addison

“The happiness which is lacking makes one think even the happiness one has unbearable.” – Joseph Roux

“It’s been my experience that you can nearly always enjoy things if you make up your mind firmly that you will.” – L.M. Montgomery

“There is no cosmetic for beauty like happiness.” – Lady Blessington

“If you look to others for fulfillment, you will never be fulfilled. If your happiness depends on money, you will never be happy with yourself. Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the world belongs to you.” – Lao Tzu

“You can’t be happy unless you’re unhappy sometimes.” – Lauren Oliver

“If you want to be happy, be.” – Leo Tolstoy

“In order to have great happiness you have to have great pain and unhappiness – otherwise how would you know when you’re happy?” – Leslie Caron

“There are two things to aim at in life: first, to get what you want; and after that, to enjoy it. Only the wisest of mankind achieve the second.” – Logan Pearsall Smith

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” – Mahatma Gandhi

“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” – Marcel Proust

“He who lives in harmony with himself lives in harmony with the universe.” – Marcus Aurelius

“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.” – Marcus Aurelius

“Happiness is not a state to arrive at, but a manner of traveling.” – Margaret Lee Runbeck

“Happiness is a constant work-in-progress, because solving problems is a constant work-in-progress – the solutions to today’s problems will lay the foundation for tomorrow’s problems, and so on. True happiness occurs only when you find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving.” – Mark Manson

“Sanity and happiness are an impossible combination.” – Mark Twain

“In my life I’ve learned that true happiness comes from giving. Helping others along the way makes you evaluate who you are. I think that love is what we’re all searching for. I haven’t come across anyone who didn’t become a better person through love.” – Marla Gibbs

“Happiness is a well-balanced combination of love, labour, and luck.” – Mary Wilson Little

“Happiness always looks small while you hold it in your hands, but let it go, and you learn at once how big and precious it is.” – Maxim Gorky

“Ups and downs. Victories and defeats. Sadness and happiness. That’s the best kind of life.” – Maxime Lagacé

“Many things can make you miserable for weeks; few can bring you a whole day of happiness.” – Mignon McLaughlin

“Happiness is a conscious choice, not an automatic response.” – Mildred Barthel

“Joy is a net of love by which you can catch souls.” – Mother Teresa

“Happiness in this world, when it comes, comes incidentally. Make it the object of pursuit, and it leads us a wild-goose chase, and is never attained.” – Nathaniel Hawthorne

“Happiness is the default state. It’s what’s there when you remove the sense that something is missing in life.” – Naval Ravikant

“Those who can laugh without cause have either found the true meaning of happiness or have gone stark raving mad.” – Norm Papernick

“Happiness is the resultant of the relative strengths of positive and negative feelings rather than an absolute amount of one or the other.” – Norman Bradburn

“Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life.” – Omar Khayyam

“Happiness is holding someone in your arms and knowing you hold the whole world.” – Orhan Pamuk

“Happiness is an accident of nature, a beautiful and flawless aberration.” – Pat Conroy

“Happiness is the natural flower of duty.” – Phillips Brooks

“It’s the moments that I stopped just to be, rather than do, that have given me true happiness.” – Richard Branson

“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” – Robert A. Heinlein

“Most people would rather be certain they’re miserable, than risk being happy.” – Robert Anthony

“To be happy, you must fancy that everything you have is a gift, and you the chosen, though you worked your tail off for every bit of it.” – Robert Brault

“Happiness makes up in height for what it lacks in length.” – Robert Frost

“Happiness is the experience of loving life. Being happy is being in love with that momentary experience. And love is looking at someone or even something and seeing the absolute best in him/her or it. Love is happiness with what you see. So love and happiness really are the same thing…just expressed differently.” – Robert McPhillips

“Most of us believe in trying to make other people happy only if they can be happy in ways which we approve.” – Robert S. Lynd

“Happiness is always a by-product. It is probably a matter of temperament, and for anything I know it may be glandular. But it is not something that can be demanded from life, and if you are not happy you had better stop worrying about it and see what treasures you can pluck from your own brand of unhappiness.” – Robertson Davies

“Don’t waste your time in anger, regrets, worries, and grudges. Life is too short to be unhappy.” – Roy T. Bennett

“Pleasure is very seldom found where it is sought. Our brightest blazes are commonly kindled by unexpected sparks.” – Samuel Johnson

“The happiness of life is made up of the little charities of a kiss or smile, a kind look, a heartfelt compliment.” – Samuel Taylor Coleridge

“Judge nothing, you will be happy. Forgive everything, you will be happier. Love everything, you will be happiest.” – Sri Chinmoy

“Sometimes life knocks you on your ass… get up, get up, get up!!! Happiness is not the absence of problems, it’s the ability to deal with them.” – Steve Maraboli

“Happiness is a direction, not a place.” – Sydney J. Harris

“If you are not happy here and now, you never will be.” – Taisen Deshimaru

“There is no way to happiness — happiness is the way.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

“Happiness is not being pained in body or troubled in mind.” – Thomas Jefferson

“We cannot be happy if we expect to live all the time at the highest peak of intensity. Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance and order and rhythm and harmony.” – Thomas Merton

“The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you’re in control of your life. If you don’t, life controls you.” – Tony Robbins

“The secret of happiness is to find a congenial monotony.” – V.S. Pritchett

“The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves.” – Victor Hugo

“If you observe a really happy man you will find him building a boat, writing a symphony, educating his son, growing double dahlias in his garden, or looking for dinosaur eggs in the Gobi desert. He will not be searching for happiness as if it were a collar button that has rolled under the radiator. He will not be striving for it as a goal in itself. He will have become aware that he is happy in the course of living life twenty-four crowded hours of the day.” – W. Beran Wolfe

“We are no longer happy so soon as we wish to be happier.” – Walter Savage Landor

“Happiness is a function of accepting what is.” – Werner Erhard

“Happiness is an inside job.” – William Arthur Ward

“Plenty of people miss their share of happiness, not because they never found it, but because they didn’t stop to enjoy it.” – William Feather

“The true secret of happiness lies in the taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.” – William Morris

“On the whole, the happiest people seem to be those who have no particular cause for being happy except that they are so.” – William R. Inge

“The greatest happiness you can have is knowing that you do not necessarily require happiness.” – William Saroyan

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