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We've been there: You shop long and hard to find the perfect wedding card for the soon-to-be married couple and then you get home and have a pretty rough time figuring out what to write in it. The good news is, there are no hard-and-fast rules about what to write in a wedding card. As long as your wedding congratulations message is heartfelt and offers the couple a positive wish for their marriage, you're good to go.
It should almost go without saying that wedding cards are customary for anyone who wants to send wedding wishes to an engaged or newly married couple. If you're following traditional wedding guest etiquette, you'll either want to bring the card to the wedding reception or mail it directly to the couple (usually between the time you receive the wedding invitation and a few weeks after the wedding). Honestly though, you can send it whenever you want. You could even send a nice card if the wedding is small and you're not invited. Simply put: Wedding congratulations are welcome anytime by anyone!
As for the card itself, wedding cards come in lots of different formats—from standard greeting cards you find at a cute stationery shop to homemade cards, small tags attached to gifts and even simple, digitally created wedding messages that are printed and shipped to the couple with their gift. All of the above pass as a wedding card and are considered okay, so don't feel the need to have more than one. (Then again, if you bought a gift off the couple's registry and want them to also have a pretty card from you, take one to the reception and drop it in a wedding card box or on a gift table!)
In short, yes. That said, it used to be saying or writing "congratulations" to a newly married woman was once considered a faux pas because it was thought of as congratulating her on actually landing a man! (Yep, you read that right.) Today though, that's considered an outdated rule and school of thought. Still, if the couple happens to be very traditional or come from a very traditional family, you might want to avoid the term altogether and just say "best wishes."
The perfect wedding wish is sentimental, sweet and totally tailored to the couple. Is it for your favorite cousin and his new wife? Or your hilarious college roommate who finally settled down? Below are dozens of examples of wedding wishes quotes for inspiration. Use the quick links below to craft an amazing (genius!) wedding message:
Just because it's a formal wedding with floor-length dresses and tuxes doesn't mean you have to send a formal card with stuffy wording. (The card doesn't have to perfectly match the event.) Still, if you want to write a nice message that's timeless and romantic, a formal note is the way to go.
If you don't feel comfortable with formal wedding sayings, then don't do it. Be yourself. It's completely fine to write a more casual wedding message in the card, no matter the recipient. Put it this way: Short and sweet is always fine, as long as you're saying something nice or including a wish for the couple's future.
Go ahead and write something funny in the card that you think will make them laugh. Just be careful with your marriage wishes. What might easily come across as a joke in conversation could be taken the wrong way on paper. As a rule of thumb, avoid jokes that are sarcastic or snarky. Also off-limits? Steer clear of anything that could be considered insulting, imply that one of them is the "better half" or mention anything about it having taken way too long (or way too little time) to get married. Oh, and no divorce jokes!
If the couple is religious, then this might be the best option. Religious wedding card messages can mention God, tell them of your prayers or quote scripture. Before writing a religious message in a wedding card, consider the couple's beliefs and practices, and customize the message to them. If they aren't too religious or don't worship regularly, something very religious could make them uncomfortable, so it's be best to tone down religious elements or avoid them altogether. And if you're unsure of what religious message to write, opt for more general wedding words instead.
When writing a wedding card for family, you can go very general or very personal—it's completely up to you and the type of message you want to convey.
So you're writing a message on your brother's or sister's wedding card? The key here is personality. In some cases, sibling relationships are strained, in which case you might want to go general. But more often, your brother or sister is the person whom you know best, to whom you can make inside jokes or recall some of your favorite moments together. Just remember to mention the new spouse in your note!
It's a big deal when your son or daughter marries. And when you're the mother or father of the bride or groom, you'll most likely feel a flurry of emotions that are extra tricky to get down on paper. What's most important is that you wish the couple well. From there, add in some personal touches to the otherwise standard wedding wishes quote to give your wedding card message meaning. If you're happily married, you could even add some of your own marriage advice.
It's just as good of a choice to go classic with wedding wording on a friend's wedding card as it is to get specific and personal. Before you write, consider your relationship and how funny, serious, personal or sentimental you want to get with your wedding wishes. Then go from there.
When writing a card to your coworker who's getting married, you're probably not going to want to wish them "lots of love." Instead, it's best to go with general wording. Use one of the formal or casual examples above, or see below for a few appropriate, work-inspired quotes. All that said, it's more than possible that your coworker is a good friend. If that's the case, scroll up to "Wedding Card Wishes for a Friend."
Whether you're thrilled or lukewarm about the union, if your mom or dad is getting married (or remarried), it's completely normal to agonize a little over the right wedding card wording. Our best piece of advice? Be honest and tell the truth. Don't say you're crazy about the new husband or wife if you're not, but instead wish them both a happy future together. After all, isn't that what you want for your parent?
Three Stores in Tunbridge, Chelsea Temporarily Closed for Tax . “I do wish Eric the very best, and I hope they will be up and running again.
Planning your wedding playlist? If you're a bride with your heart set on country wedding songs, you're in luck—we've got 68 of the best songs to capture the love and magic you feel on your wedding day, complete with the sentimental country twang you love. Whether you're looking for the perfect country song for the first dance, the father-daughter dance or songs for your reception, this is the ultimate guide. Plus, after our mammoth list of country songs, hear from real couples on the songs they chose and why.
"When the bones are good, the rest don't matter. Yeah, the paint could peel, the glass could shatter. Let it rain 'cause you and I remain the same. When there ain't a crack in the foundation, baby, I know any storm we're facing will blow right over while we stay put. The house don't fall when the bones are good."
"'Cause when I wake up in the middle of the night, you're holding me so tight. Take whole of me, my oh my, sure feels good to love someone. When you laugh at the way I dance. When you smile when you hold my hand. I look at you and I understand sure feels good to love someone."
"Doesn't matter if it's diamonds or twine. I'll be wrapped around your finger. Girl, you got me 'til we run out of time. Rich or poor, rain or shine. The wind's gonna blow wherever it goes and the road is gonna wind. Doesn't matter if it's diamonds or twine. Forevermore, I'll be yours and you'll be mine."
"Give me that 'Let's get out of here go jump in the river.' Girl, show me what that rockin' body looks like in the firelight. Wrap me up with all that love that you been holding back your whole life. Girl I wish you would just hit me with that pretty little get me through tomorrow smile. Bring on all the good with all the bad I'm all about it. Anything and everything, baby you could never bring enough of it. I want all of it."
"There's a diamond sky that's waiting for us just outside of town. With the moon hanging for me and you, baby. We can cut the headlights out when there ain't no one else around. Kill the space in between, slide across that leather seat. Heart to heart, face to face, you know all I wanna do is get closer, closer, closer to you. Closer to you."
6. "Yours" by Russell Dickerson
"I came to life when I first kissed you. The best me has his arms around you. You make me better than I was before. Thank God I'm yours."
"Yeah, birds need bees and ice needs whiskey. Boys like me need girls like you to kiss me. 'Fishin' in the Dark,' needs Nitty Gritty. Under that pale moon sweet tea needs that sugar stirrin'. Small town nights need both ends burnin'. Shades need drawin', hearts need fallin'. Boots need knockin', knockin' boots. Knockin' boots, me and you."
"Those were the nights that had no tomorrow. Yeah they went on and on and on just like a tires on a '95 Bronco. Nobody to slow us down. Baby we were falling too fast. They were calling us crazy. Lord knows, those were the good days. And I was the guy, yeah I was the girl. And everyone else was just living in our world."
"God gave me you for the ups and downs. God gave me you for the days of doubt and for when I think I've lost my way there are no words here left to say, it's true. God gave me you, gave me you. There's more here than what were seeing: A divine conspiracy, that you, an angel lovely, could somehow fall for me. You'll always be love's great martyr and I'll be the flattered fool and I need you."
"I think about the years I spent just passing through—I'd like to have the time I lost and give it back to you. But you just smile and take my hand, you've been there, you understand—it's all part of a grander plan that is coming true."
"I'm gonna be here for you from now on, this you know somehow. You've been stretched to the limits but it's alright now. And I'm gonna make you a promise—if there's life after this I'm gonna be there to meet you with a warm, wet kiss."
"Cinderella said to Snow White ‘How does love get so off course?’ All I wanted was a white knight with a good heart, soft touch, fast horse. Ride me off into the sunset, baby, I'm forever yours—it's the way you love me, it's a feeling like this. It's centrifugal motion, it's perpetual bliss — it's that pivotal moment, it's unthinkable: this kiss."
"I don't want "good" and I don't want "good enough." I want "can't sleep, can't breathe without your love. Front porch and one more kiss, it doesn't make sense to anybody else — who cares if you're all I think about, I've searched the world and I know now: It ain't right if you ain't lost your mind. Yeah, I don't want easy, I want crazy. Are you with me baby? Let's be crazy."
"When the rain is blowing in your face and the whole world is on your case, I could offer you a warm embrace to make you feel my love. When the evening shadows evening shadows and the stars appear and there is no one there to dry your tears I could hold you for a million years to make you feel my love."
"My love is deeper than the holler, stronger than the rivers, higher than the pine trees growin' tall upon the hill. My love is purer than the snowflakes that fall in late December and honest as a robin on a springtime window sill and longer than the song of the whippoorwill."
16. "Amazed" by Lonestar
"Every time our eyes meet this feeling inside me is almost more than I can take. Baby, when you touch me I can feel how much you love me and it just blows me away. I've never been this close to anyone or anything, I can hear your thoughts, I can see your dreams. I don't know how you do what you do. I'm so in love with you. It just keeps getting better. I want to spend the rest of my life with you by my side, forever and ever — every little thing that you do, baby, I'm amazed by you."
"Better than I was, more than I am, and all of this happened by taking your hand. And who I am now is who I wanted to be and now that we're together I'm stronger than ever, I'm happy and free. Oh, it's a beautiful thing, don't think I can keep it all in. And if you ask me why I've changed all I gotta do is say your sweet name. It's your love, it just does something to me—it sends a shock right through me. I can't get enough and if you wonder about the spell I'm under, oh it's your love."
"From this moment life has begun, from this moment you are the one. Right beside you is where I belong from this moment on. From this moment, I have been blessed. I live only, for your happiness and for your love, I give my last breath."
"Like a perfect scene from a movie screen where every dream comes true, suited perfectly for eternity: Me and you. Every day, I need you even more, at the nighttime too. There's no way I could ever let you go, even if I wanted to."
"All the crazy in my dreams, both my broken wings, every single piece of everything I am, she knows the man I ain't, she forgives me when I can't. The devil, man, he don't stand a chance, 'cause she loves me like Jesus does."
"We ride side by side: A cloud of dust, a ray of light. My touch is her temptation, her kiss is my salvation. She's sweet, I'm wild, we're dangerous — cowboys and angels. I'm not sure why her path crossed mine, accident or grand design. Maybe God just kinda likes cowboys and angels."
22. "I Swear" by John Michael Montgomery
"I swear by the moon and stars in the sky I'll be there, I swear. Like the shadow that's by your side I'll be there for better or worse 'til death do us part I'll love you with every beat of my heart, I swear."
"Hey pretty girl, can I have this dance? And the next one after that. Gonna make your mind there's a real good chance — hey pretty girl, can I have this dance?."
"I heard music bring a heart of stone to tears. I heard peace ring like an anthem through the years, and I heard hatred fall from grace when I heard you whisper my name."
"I said, cowboy take me away, fly this girl as high as you can into the wild blue. Set me free, oh, I pray, closer to heaven above and closer to you — closer to you."
"We can roll with the punches. We can stroll hand in hand, and when I say it's forever you understand that you're always in my heart, you're always on my mind. But when it all becomes too much, you're never far behind and there's no one that comes close to you, could ever take your place 'cause only you can love me this way."
"I let go of all my lonely yesterdays, I've forgiven myself for the mistakes I've made. Now there's just one thing the only thing I want to do: I want to love somebody, love somebody like you. Yeah I want to feel the sunshine shining down on me and you. When you put your arms around me you let me know there's nothing in this world I can't do."
"I must be doin' something right, I just heard you sigh. You leaned into my kiss and closed those deep blue, need-you eyes. Don't know what I did to earn a love like this, but baby I must be doin' something right."
"'Cause I wanna wrap you up, wanna kiss your lips. I wanna make you feel wanted and I wanna call you mine, wanna hold your hand forever and never let you forget it—yeah, I, I wanna make you feel wanted."
"The way you look, the way you laugh, the way you love with all you have — there ain't nothing 'bout you that don't do something for me. The way you kiss, the way you cry, the way you move when you walk by — there ain't nothing 'bout you that don't do something for me."
"Lost in this moment with you, I am completely consumed. My feeling's so absolute there's no doubt. Sealing our love with a kiss, waited my whole life for this, watching all my dreams come true, lost in this moment with you."
32."Smile" by Uncle Kracker
"You make me smile like the sun, fall out of bed, sing like a bird, dizzy in my head, spin like a record crazy on a Sunday night. You make me dance like a fool, forget how to breathe, shine like gold, buzz like a bee — just the thought of you can drive me wild. Oh, you make me smile."
"I want a Sunday kind of love — a love to last past Saturday night and I'd like to know it's more than love at first sight and I want a Sunday kind of love."
"I need you like water, like breath, like rain. I need you like mercy from heaven's gate. There's a freedom in your arms That carries me through. I need you. You're the hope that moves me to courage again, oh yeah. You're the love that rescues me when the cold winds, rage and it's so amazing 'cause that's just how you are and I can't turn back now 'cause you've brought me too far."
"Our love is unconditional. We knew it from the start. I can see it in your eyes, you can feel it from my heart: From here on after let's stay the way we are right now and share all the love and laughter that a lifetime will allow. I cross my heart and promise to give all I've got to give to make all your dreams come true. In all the world you'll never find a love as true as mine."
"Oh, baby, I'm gonna love you forever, forever and ever, amen. As long as old men sit and talk about the weather, as long as old women sit and talk about old men. If you wonder how long I'll be faithful I'll be happy to tell you again—I'm gonna love you forever and ever, forever and ever, amen."
"Yeah I'm a fan of Faulkner books and anything my mama cooks, small mouth bass have got me hooked. On Sunday afternoon, yes I love good cold beer and mustard on my fries. I love a good loud honky tonk that rocks on Friday night and hell yes I love my truck but I want you to know honey I love your love the most."
"When I said I do, I meant that I will 'til the end of all time. Be faithful and true, devoted to you. That's what I had in mind when I said I do. Truer than true, you know that I'll always be there for you. That's what I had in mind, that's what I had in mind when I said I do.
"Looks like we made it, look how far we've come my baby. We mighta took the long way, we knew we'd get there someday. They said 'I bet they'll never make it,' but just look at us holding on. We're still together still going strong. You're still the one I run to the on that I belong to. You're still the one I want for life, you're still the one I love, the only one I dream of. You're still the one I kiss good night."
"There you go making my heart beat again, heart beat again, heart beat again. There you go making me feel like a kid—won't you do it and do it one time, there you go pulling me right back in, right back in, right back in, and I know I'm never letting this go."
"She was in the backyard, say it was a little past nine, when her prince pulled up—a white pick-up truck. Plenty old enough and you can't stop love and no you can't fence time and you can't stop love."
"Life may not always go your way and every once in awhile you might have a bad day, but I promise you now you won't ever be lonely. The sky turns dark and everything goes wrong run to me and I'll leave the light on and I promise you now you won't ever be lonely. For as long as I live there will always be a place you belong: Here beside me, heart and soul baby — you only and I promise you now you won't ever be lonely."
"I never had no one that I could count on. I've been let down so many times. I was tired of hurtin' so tired of searchin' 'til you walked into my life. It was a feelin' I'd never known and for the first time I didn't feel alone. You're more than a lover, there could never be another to make me feel the way you do. Oh we just get closer, I fall in love all over every time I look at you. I don't know where I'd be without you here with me. Life with you makes perfect sense. You're my best friend."
"From here on after let's stay the way we are right now and share all the love and laughter that a lifetime will allow. I cross my heart and promise to give all I've got to give to make all your dreams come true. In all the world you'll never find a love as true as mine. You will always be the miracle that makes my life complete and as long as there's a breath in me I'll make yours just as sweet."
"I'd gladly walk across the desert with no shoes upon my feet to share with you the last bite of bread I had to eat. I would swim out to save you in your sea of broken dreams when all your hopes are sinkin' let me show you what love means. Love can build a bridge between your heart and mine."
"Well I lost my heart on the day we met, but I gained a lot that I don't regret, then I hung around when you said 'I do' — I knew I wouldn't have nothing if I didn't have you. Well it changed my thinking when you changed your name, and neither one of us will ever be the same, and I swear I'm never gonna be untrue, 'cause I wouldn't have nothing if I didn't have you."
47. "I Do” by Jessie James Decker
"I can see us growing old and grey standing beside you when we walk through Heaven's gates 'cause soulmates live together from one life to the next. We'll always be together, I promise you this. You found me in the darkest night. You're my angel, you saved my life. I can't believe we're standing here. What's mine is yours, and yours is mine. I love you till the end of time. I wanna spend forever with you. I do."
"He passed by, she smiled at him, he just said 'hi.' He was thinking to him self as he walked away, 'Man I'd like to find a girl like her someday.' Young love, strong love, true love, It's a new love. Their gonna make it through the hard times, walk those lines, yeah these ties will bind young love."
"Well, you had me from 'hello.' I felt love start to grow the moment I looked into your eyes. You won me, it was over from the start. You completely stole my heart, and now you won't let go. I never even had a chance you know? You had me from 'hello.'"
50. “Valentine” by Jim Brickman and Martina McBride
"If there were no words, no way to speak, I would still hear you. If there were no tears, no way to feel inside, I'd still feel for you. And even if the sun refused to shine, even if romance ran out of rhyme, you would still have my heart until the end of time. You're all I need, my love, my valentine. All of my life I have been waiting for all you give to me. You've opened my eyes and showed me how to love unselfishly."
"This world keeps spinning faster into a new disaster so I run to you. I run to you baby and when it all starts coming undone, baby you're the only one I run to. I run to you."
"All my thoughts just seem to settle on the breeze when I'm lying wrapped up in your arms. The whole world just fades away. The only thing I hear is the beating of your heart. 'Cause I can feel you breathe, it's washing over me and suddenly I'm melting into you. There's nothing left to prove. Baby, all we need is just to be caught up in the touch, slow and steady rush. Baby, isn't that the way that love's suppose to be. I can feel you breathe, just breathe."
"My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to — your dreams stay big, your worries stay small, you never need to carry more than you can hold. And while you're out there getting where you're getting to, I hope you know somebody loves you, and wants the same things too. Yeah, this, is my wish."
"But now he's wrapped around her finger, she's the center of his whole world and his heart belongs to that sweet little beautiful, wonderful, perfect all-American girl."
"It's amazing how you can speak right to my heart. Without saying a word, you can light up the dark. Try as I may I could never explain what I hear when you don't say a thing. The smile on your face let's me know that you need me. There's a truth in your eyes saying you'll never leave me. The touch of your hand says you'll catch me if wherever I fall. You say it best when you say nothing at all."
"She's in love with the boy and even if they have to run away she's gonna marry that boy someday."
"I love the way you, love the way, you love me. There's nowhere else I'd rather be. It drives me wild. Ooh, to feel the way I feel with your arms around me—I only wish that you could see the way you love me ... You're the million reasons why there's love reflecting in my eyes."
"I'm shameless when it comes to loving you. I'll do anything you want me to — I'll do anything at all. And I'm standing here for all the world to see, oh baby that's what's left of me ... Oh honey I don't have a prayer every time I see you standin' there, I go down upon my knees. And I'm changin' swore I'd never compromise — oh but you convinced me otherwise. I'll do anything you please. You see in all my life I've never found what I couldn't resist, what I couldn't turn down. I could walk away from anyone I ever knew but I can't walk away from you."
What about the country wedding music for the other man in your life? Here are our top ten picks for dancing with dad, country-style.
"And I knew the first time I saw you with her it was only a matter of time. I loved her first, I held her first and a place in my heart will always be hers. From the first breath she breathed, when she first smiled at me, I knew the love of a father runs deep and I prayed that she'd find you someday, But it's still hard to give her away. I loved her first."
"I came to see her daddy for sit down man to man. It wasn't any secret I'd be asking for her hand. I guess that's why he left me waiting in the living room by myself with at least a dozen pictures of her sitting on a shelf. She was playing Cinderella. She was riding her first bike, bouncing on the bed and looking for a pillow fight. Running through the sprinkler with a big Popsicle grin, dancing with her dad, looking up at him. In her eyes I'm Prince Charming but to him I'm just some fella riding in and stealing Cinderella."
"You're beautiful baby, from the outside in. Chase your dreams but always know the road that will lead you home again. Go on, take on this old world but to me you know you'll always be my little girl. Someday some boy will come and ask me for your hand but I won't say yes to him unless I know he's the half that makes you whole, he has a poet's soul and the heart of a man's man."
"She's at the starting line of the rest of her life as ready as she's ever been. Got the hunger and the stars in her eyes, the prize is hers to win. She's waiting on my blessings before she hits that open road. Baby get ready, get set, don't go."
"Greatest gift in the world is a new baby girl — feels like I took a chance placing her, here in my hands. Gonna dance with my daughter, spin her around under the lights ‘cause I'm just a father making the most of this moment in time before she lets me go I'll hold her close caught in this race against time. Right now all I want is to dance with my daughter tonight."
"She'll change her name today. She'll make a promise, and I'll give her away. Standing in the bride room just staring at her, she asked me what I'm thinking and I said 'I'm not sure, I just feel like I'm losing my baby girl.' Then she leaned over and gave me butterfly kisses, with her mama there. Sticking little white flowers all up in her hair. 'Walk me down the aisle daddy, it's just about time. Does my wedding gown look pretty Daddy? Daddy don't cry.' Oh with all that I've done wrong, I must have done something right to deserve her love every morning and butterfly kisses. I couldn't ask God for more, man, this is what love is. I know I've gotta let her go, but I'll always remember every hug in the morning, and butterfly kisses."
65. "Daddy" by Abby Anderson
"Yeah you're wondering how I know he's it. Well my whole life I had a dad who showed me what a real man is, 'cause Daddy he loves me just like you do. He treats me like a queen just like you, just like you do. He's my shoulder to cry on, he's my best friend Oh and Daddy, he loves me just like you."
"I know what you see when you look at me as we walk down the aisle: Little pink tutu, bows and tennis shoes and the wide eyes of your child. Those are all the memories you will cherish and you'll carry no matter how much time has come and gone. Daddy dance with me. I want you to see the woman I've become. Daddy don't let go. I want you to know I'll always need your love. Today I became his wife but I'll be your baby girl for life."
"I'm giving you away but I'm not letting go. The memories, they flood my mind of the little girl I know. Once upon a time you held my hand so tight. You'd close your eyes and say a prayer, then I'd kiss your head goodnight. As we dance I keep our love deep within my heart and thank God for giving me this angel in my arms... You're my little angel so baby don't you cry. It's time to spread your wings and fly. If there's one thing this father knows the hardest part is letting go but you will still always be ... Daddy's little angel."
"The wait turned into hours before you came my way. The smile that filled a daddy's heart on the special day. The moment left me speechless. I didn't know what to say. Then you took your first breath that took mine away. Days go by so quickly. Summer turns to fall, seems like only yesterday that you began to crawl. So don't be afraid to take that step. I'll catch you when you fall. I don't mind if you leave behind a few handprints on the wall."
Want to hear what country wedding music real brides used for their big day? Here’s how these couples chose their first-dance songs. (Grab a tissue).
For this couple, it was the groom who had his heart set on a particular song. George Strait's "The Best Day" meant a lot for Brandon, who had gone through a serious illness before he meant Amber. He remembered leaving the hospital and hearing "The Best Day" on the radio. When he heard it, it helped him look ahead to brighter days, and when he got better and then eventually met Amber, those brighter days became a reality. "I had always thought it would be a great first dance song, because not every day is your best day, but sometimes the thoughts and hopes of better days can be an encouragement. I always thought it would be a wonderful emotional dance to think about all the struggles that God brought me through to have a best day and embrace my best friend in a new way for the first time, and to be think back about those trying times and be thankful for the good times."
For Tahlia, the choice was easy. “We danced to Easton Corbin's ‘Lovin' You Is Fun’ because it's all about a healthy drama-free relationship, which fit us perfectly. My favorite part is the chorus: ‘Love don't have to be a bunch of drama, a bunch of knock-down, drag-outs, cryin' in the rain...and we're having such a good time together, and it's only just begun. My heart's never smiled so hard. Baby, loving you is fun.’”
Chelsea — The Route 110 corridor between Tunbridge and Chelsea abruptly lost three businesses, at least temporarily, early this week after the state of Vermont shuttered the shops.
Flanders Market, Chelsea’s Pizza House and the North Tunbridge General Store were closed after the businesses’ owners failed to take out a bond to ensure they meet their financial obligations, such as taxes, penalties and interest payments to the state.
Department of Taxes Deputy Commissioner Gregg Mousley said he couldn’t comment on specifics regarding the closing of Eric and Stacey Flanders’ businesses, but said owners generally are asked to take out a bond only when they owe the state tax money.
“Our goal is to collect the tax money and not to shut down a business,” Mousley said in a telephone interview on Friday.
The businesses were ordered closed on Monday and large yellow signs were affixed to each one’s storefront reading, “Please take notice that (this business) failed to post the bond required by the Vermont commissioner of taxes.” In bold red lettering, the signs say that the owners “may not conduct business” until further notice.
Stacey Flanders deferred comment, saying she was busy trying to remedy the situation.
“We are working diligently on trying to reopen,” she wrote in a social media message on Friday. “We are hopeful. We are experiencing a hardship. ... We are sincerely apologetic to the town for the inconvenience.”
The Flanderses have owned the North Tunbridge General Store since 2002, Flanders Market since 2006 and Chelsea’s Pizza House since 2009, according to the Vermont Secretary of State’s Office.
Mousley, the deputy tax commissioner, said a bond is akin to a loan that some business owners must take out to help pay their tax debt. The owners would then owe the money to the bond issuer instead of to the state, he said.
The bond could cover an array of things; the department collects roughly 30 different taxes, including income tax, sales tax and rooms and meals tax.
In some situations, he said, businesses fail to collect the tax in the first place, or they collect the tax and neglect to send the money to the state.
Mousley said he couldn’t comment on how long Flanders Market, Chelsea’s Pizza House and the North Tunbridge General Store would be closed, or if they would reopen.
If tax issues are rectified, businesses are allowed to reopen, he said.
Meanwhile, Chelsea residents are coping with the loss of an eatery and a market with gas pumps, and North Tunbridge residents are trying to get by without a country store for miles.
Chelsea’s Flanders Market was a staple for meats, cold cuts and household items, while Chelsea’s Pizza House offered a place to grab a quick bite.
Only two food-related establishments remain open in Chelsea during the daytime: Dixie’s 2 and Will’s Store.
Neither has gasoline, though. That has put a strain on the community, several residents said on Friday.
Flanders and the North Tunbridge store had offered fuel at times throughout the past year, but customers said they recently hadn’t been able to rely on either store for gas. When they went, sometimes there would be bags over the pumps.
“It got to the point where you’d say to hell with it,” said Bob Beauchesne, who has lived in Chelsea for 25 years.
Peter Ballou, who lives two houses down from the North Tunbridge store, felt Beauchesne’s pain. He said he now has to travel out of town.
In addition, the North Tunbridge store’s closing has taken away the convenience of having a nearby store in the rural town.
“Before it was a two-minute walk to the store to get what you needed and then you were done,” Ballou said. “It’s not like that anymore.”
On Friday, no one could be found inside or around the grounds of Flanders Market, Chelsea’s House of Pizza or the North Tunbridge General Store. Flanders Market had partially bare shelves, while Chelsea’s Pizza appeared fully stocked.
Will Gilman, the owner of Will’s Store, said “naturally” he has seen a recent uptick in business because of the closings.
He said he wishes the Flanderses the best with the ongoing situation, which he knew little about.
His cashier, Liz Connor, said many people have come into the store and asked about the situation with the Flanderses’ businesses, but other than the placard on the door, nobody has any information.
Although Will’s has seen an increase in business, as has Dixie’s, Connor said she hopes the Flanderses can get back on their feet soon.
“We wouldn’t want to benefit from someone else’s misfortune,” Connor said.
Dixie’s owner Brigetta Johnson agreed.
“I do wish Eric the very best, and I hope they will be up and running again soon,” Johnson said.Jordan Cuddemi can be reached at [email protected] or 603-727-3248.
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The debut issue of The New York Times on Sept. 18, 1851, known then as The New-York Daily Times, contained one wedding announcement, and one wedding announcement only, for the newlyweds Sarah Mullett and John Grant. He was 26 and she was 23. The ceremony took place at the Trinity Episcopal Church in Fredonia, the town in western New York where the bride had grown up. The bridegroom was from Jamestown. They were married Sept. 10 (though from the smudgy looks of the article, the Times reporter got it wrong and reported Sept. 15), by the Rev. T. P. Tyler. The announcement was a mere sentence, a bare-bones beginning for a Times institution.
So why were John and Sarah the chosen ones?
Based on old newspaper clippings and census reports, it appears that the Mulletts were a prominent family in Fredonia. The bride’s father, James, epitomized upward mobility. He grew up on a farm in Vermont, the oldest of 13 children, and made his way to Fredonia, where he became a self-taught lawyer (such a thing was possible in those days). He eventually became a State Supreme Court justice.
The bridegroom was a cousin of Ulysses S. Grant, then an Army lieutenant, who would go on to become a general and president.
Today, oil portraits of John and Sarah hang side by side in the New Haven family room of Wendy Grant Haskell, 63, who is a psychotherapist and the Grants’ great-great-granddaughter. Each is wearing black, and a similarly dour and humorless expression, as if they had whispered to each other beforehand, “Don’t smile!”
“I think they are trying to project importance, status and prestige,” Ms. Haskell said, adding that the portraits were probably painted soon after the wedding.
(When I first called Ms. Haskell to inquire about John and Sarah Grant, she was flummoxed; I think she thought I was trying to sell her a Times subscription. When I explained my reason for calling, she said she had no idea the Grants had appeared in the newspaper’s first wedding announcement. “What a hoot!”)
See the announcement in the first issue of The New-York Daily Times.
Her brother David Marshall Grant, an actor you might recognize from “The Devil Wears Prada" or his Tony-nominated performance as Joe Pitt in “Angels in America,” said: “I would guess, looking at those portraits, that it was a less joyful time. I’m sure there were struggles just to get by. I can’t imagine what it was like just to make breakfast. I’m angry when there’s a line at Starbucks.”
John and Sarah Grant’s lives probably did not turn out exactly as they envisioned. After the wedding, they settled in Jamestown, where John was co-owner of a grocery store dealing in tea, fruit, molasses and salt, among other products. Sarah kept house, according to the census, and had a live-in Irish servant. The couple had one son, James Mullett Grant, who married and also had one son, Havens Grant. Then, sometime before the turn of the century, James Mullett Grant traveled alone to Havana and never returned.
“John and Sarah Grant were all about the promise of being a really significant couple starting a whole line of prosperity, but then look at what happened,” Ms. Haskell said. “Their son fell off the edge of the earth.”
On June 2, 1883, John Grant’s obituary appeared in The Evening Observer, a local newspaper. As brief and terse as his wedding announcement, the notice merely reported that he had “dropped dead” in his home at age 60. Sarah Grant died 29 years later.
Then things got even more interesting.
The couple’s grandson, Havens Grant, went to Yale, became a lawyer in New York City, married a free-spirited poet and ran a moonshine business on the side during Prohibition.
Today, the Grant descendants gather every Christmas at Ms. Haskell’s home in Connecticut and take a family photo with John and Sarah’s portraits in the background. In a recent photograph, everyone is wearing colorful tie-dyed scarves or shirts. David Marshall Grant appears with his husband, KC Reischerl, and their daughter, Evelyn May Reischerl Grant, who is 6 and the youngest descendant. She is also the only female family member in the photo. Ms. Haskell’s three sons are gay and appear with their partners.
Ms. Haskell’s son David Haskell is an editor at New York magazine and is carrying on the family moonshine tradition. He is a co-owner of Kings County Distillery, which is based in Brooklyn Navy Yard and makes craft whiskeys.
What would John and Sarah Grant think? If they were to see the lineup of gay couples in tie-dye, David Marshall Grant said, “I think they would think they had gone to Mars; it’s an astonishing example of what happens in time.”
Lois Smith Brady wrote the Vows column from its inception in 1992 to 2001, when she moved to Aspen, Colo. She still occasionally writes Vows columns.
Editor’s note: There is some debate about the date of the portraits pictured above. Are they from 1851 or 1830-something? Do they depict John and Sarah Grant or earlier ancestors? Read more here.
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