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Congratulations on your recent wedding. It may have been last week or a few years ago, but if you consider yourself a newlywed and are looking for Christian advice, I hope this will be a help and encouragement to you. Even if you are not a newlywed, you may find help in these simple reminders.
You don’t have to sever ties with other friends when you get married; however, you should build a relationship with your spouse that will endure through your life. Friends will come and go. Relationships will change. People move and distance strains old friendships. But your spouse will be with you the rest of your life. Keep that in mind as you begin to build a relationship with one another.
Obviously you already have a special bond or you would not be married. Congratulations. Don’t stop building your love for one another just because the preacher presented you to the crowed as Mr. and Mrs. Newlywed. Your lifelong journey together is just beginning. Work on your relationship by building more and more trust in your spouse. Create experiences that you two can fondly look back upon and remember with joy. This does not have to be expensive trips and gifts. Living your life with shared experiences will bring you closer together.
After returning home from our first four-year term on the mission field I struggled to understand that my friends had experienced four years without my wife and me. They built memories and shared a life with someone else in our place. We are still best of friends with them, but they will never know what we went through on the field and we can’t understand their lives either. But you know who was with me? My wife. There is no one on this earth who can say they fought the same battles or enjoyed the same experiences as I did except her. Our relationship is stronger today because we have grown together as friends.
To build a strong Christian home and family you must honor God and His Word. When you begin ignoring the principles of the Bible then you cannot expect to have a good relationship. Go to church. Read God’s Word. Ask God for guidance in your marriage.
When you were dating there was a mutual respect—otherwise you probably would not have gotten married. Don’t lose that.
When you were dating there was a mutual respect—otherwise you probably would not have gotten married. Don’t lose that.
In general, men like to be respected for their intelligence and physical strength. Wives, feed that ego. It may sound silly to you, but when you respect this strength and ego you will build a stronger husband who wants to do more and more to cultivate a relationship with you.
Ladies want to be respected for their creativity and resourcefulness. Men, respect that in her. She wants to be an asset to your life and help build your marriage in a God-honoring way. She is successful when she knows she helps you be successful. Praise her for that. Let her, and others, know that you could not be as productive without her.
When you stop respecting each other you begin to tear down the strength of your relationship.
Besides private respect you should publicly honor your spouse. Honoring them means to defend them before others. Speak positively and respectfully about your spouse to their friends and family.
We have all been in too many situations where spouses speak negatively about one another. Even at church functions when men get together with men, or women with women, conversations can quickly devolve to complaining about how husbands and wives do this or that. Don’t malign your spouse before others. Build them up with honor and respect.
Along with honoring one another you should keep your private life private. When you have problems in your relationship you seek help from someone qualified to give the help you need. Don’t blab your problems to anyone who will listen. Your pastor can help you. Or you may have an older couple in your church who you can go to for advice. Don’t let your spouse find you you have been telling your private issues to the church gossip. That will destroy the respect and honor you have tried to build in your marriage.
There is a huge problem in our country concerning debt. It is not just that there is so much of it, but that it is considered normal and expected for people to be in debt. The Bible warns in many places against getting into debt. As a young couple let me implore you to obey God and avoid debt.
Proverbs 22:7 says that the one who borrows from another becomes the servant to the lender. Don’t take this lightly. If you are in debt then work as quickly as you can to get out. How can you be a servant to God if you are a servant to the bank, the car dealership, the credit card company and the rental store? If God asked you to serve Him as a missionary how many months or years would you have to work for your credit masters so that you could serve your Heavenly Master? You cannot completely serve God if you are a slave to the bank.
A contract is written to say, “if you will do this, I will do that.” Or, “if you don’t do this, then the consequences are …” In a contract what you do is dependent on the other person. However, a covenant is a promise: a one-sided promise that says you will do (or refrain from doing) certain things because you choose to do so. In marriage the covenant is made because of love. It is a promise from you to your spouse regardless of what they do or how they act.
Your marriage is a covenant with them. It completely depends on your decisions. Marriage is not a contract that is dependent on the actions of the other person.
Along the lines of your marriage not being a contract you should not see your responsibility as 50% of the responsibility. Or, another way to put it is saying that he is responsible for 50% of the marriage and she the other 50%. Doing so causes you to base your response on the actions of another—just like a contract. Each of you should feel like 100% of the success of the marriage rests on your own shoulders.
Years ago I was in a class with an older teacher. Most of the students were younger than I—in their 20s. We got on the subject of marriage one day and the teacher commented that she always thought the success of a marriage was 100% the responsibility of the wife. If the marriage failed, according to this teacher, it was the wife’s fault. I followed her comments with my own opinion. I have always felt that if a marriage failed it was solely the fault of the husband. I really believe that if my marriage has problems it will always be my fault. I have the power to rectify any problem with my wife. If problems arise it is always because I did not do right by my wife.
The younger students categorically disagreed with the teacher and me. This was not a Christian group of students. Every one of them said that a marriage was a 50-50 relationship. They believe that a marriage fails because one doesn’t do right, but has no power to control the other person’s actions.
Guess who had been married and divorced in the class? Some of them more than once. Most of them admitted to having had multiple bad relationships. The teacher had been happily married for over 40 years. I am quickly approaching 20 years of marriage and couldn’t be happier in my relationship with my wife.
Take 100% of the responsibility in your marriage and you will have a stronger foundation for problem solving and relationship building.
More important than the mail you get in a little box in front of your house is the mail God sent to each of you in Ephesians 5. Basically it says, “Husbands, love your wife.” To the wife, “Wife, submit to your husband.” These are messages sent to specific people. You should not read the mail that has not been addressed to you.
To the wife reading the mail God sent to her in Ephesians 5 you simply need to submit. God has given authority in the family to the husband. God will hold him responsible for the way he leads; therefore, wife, you need to submit to his authority.
Men, God’s letter to you is to love your wife and be aware that you are held accountable for the leadership in your home. Whether she submits or not is not your responsibility. Yours is to love.
Don’t read each others mail. If God told you to love then it is to be done regardless of her actions. If God told you to submit then He wants you to do so even if your husband does not love. Read your own mail and keep your nose out of your spouse’s.
I am not saying that men need to learn to cross stitch (however, you may find you enjoy it), but you need to at least be interested enough in your wife’s hobbies and passions to support her. Your relationship will not get stronger if you roll your eyes every time your wife talks about a new dress pattern she found on sale. Ladies, you may be surprised as to how genuine interest in woodworking or fishing can open up conversation opportunities that you thought you would never have. You don’t need to learn to field dress a deer, but don’t huff and sigh every time he brings up the topic with his friends.
You can honor, respect and strengthen your marriage by being supportive of one anothers interests.
Are you just starting out? Or, are you an old pro at marriage? Share your thoughts and concerns. Maybe you have seen a certain way God has taught you one of the above principles, I would love for you to write about it in the comments below.
Resources:
King James Version Bible, (KJV)
www.youtube.com “When God Made You” by Newsong
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Whether you’re planning your wedding vows, writing a toast, or just daydreaming about someone special, these 100 quotes on love and marriage from poets, artists, and philosophers are sure to inspire.
1. “Where there is love there is life.”
– Mahatma Gandhi
2. “To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow–this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.”
– Elizabeth Gilbert, Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage
3. “If I get married, I want to be very married.”
– Audrey Hepburn
4. “I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate then when I fall asleep your eyes close.”
– Pablo Neruda, 100 Love Sonnets
5. “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
– Dr. Seuss
6. “Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.”
– Maya Angelou
7. “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”
– Mignon McLaughlin
8. “I am nothing special, of this I am sure. I am a common man with common thoughts and I’ve led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten, but I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul, and to me, this has always been enough.”
– Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook
9. “If I had a flower for every time thought of you… I could walk through my garden forever.”
– Alfred Tennyson
10. “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
– Lao Tzu
11. “We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness–and call it love–true love.”
– Robert Fulghum, True Love
12. “Love is like a beautiful flower which I may not touch, but whose fragrance makes the garden a place of delight just the same.”
– Helen Keller
13. “What greater thing is there for two human souls, than to feel that they are joined for life–to strength each other in all labor, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in silent unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting?”
– George Eliot
14. “We loved with a love that was more than love.”
– Edgar Allan Poe
15. “Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. Those who wish to sing always find a song. At the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet.”
– Plato
16. “When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”
– When Harry Met Sally
17. “I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”
– Marilyn Monroe
18. “Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new.”
– Ursula K. Le Guin, The Lathe of Heaven
19. “Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it be rather a moving sea between the shores of your souls.”
– Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet
20. “What is Love? I have met in the streets a very poor young man who was in love. His hat was old, his coat worn, the water passed through his shoes and the stars through his soul.”
– Victor Hugo
21. “When I saw you I fell in love, and you smiled because you knew.” – Arrigo Boito
22. “Who, being loved, is poor?”
– Oscar Wilde
23. “A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”
– Dave Meurer
24. “There is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage.”
– Martin Luther
25. “There is no remedy for love but to love more.”
– Henry David Thoreau
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26. “Love at first sight is easy to understand; it’s when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle.”
– Sam Levenson
27. “When marrying, ask yourself this question: Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this person into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory.”
– Friedrich Nietzsche
28. “A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short.”
– Andre Marois
29. “One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love.”
– Sophocles
30. “The heart has its reasons which reason knows not.”
– Blaise Pascal
31. “Nothing takes the taste out of peanut butter quite like unrequited love.”
– Charles M. Schulz
32. “Trust your heart if the seas catch fire, live by love though the stars walk backward.”
– E.E. Cummings
33. “This is what we call love. When you are loved, you can do anything in creation. When you are loved, there’s no need at all to understand what’s happening, because everything happens within you.”
– Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
34. “People are weird. When we find someone with weirdness that is compatible with ours, we team up and call it love.”
– Dr. Seuss
35. “The secret of a happy marriage is finding the right person. You know they’re right if you love to be with them all the time.”
– Julia Child
36. “The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds.” – Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook
37. “When you trip over love, it is easy to get up. But when you fall in love, it is impossible to stand again.”
– Albert Einstein
38. “Romance is the glamor which turns the dust of everyday life into a golden haze.”
– Elinor Glyn
39. “Once upon a time there was a boy who loved a girl, and her laughter was a question he wanted to spend his whole life answering.”
– Nicole Krauss, The History of Love
40. “Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get–only with what you are expecting to give–which is everything.”
– Katharine Hepburn, Me: Stories of My Life
41. “When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance.”
– John Lennon
42. “I don’t want the heavens or the shooting stars. I don’t want gemstones or gold. I have those things already. I want… a steady hand. A kind soul.”
– Shana Abe
43. “Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.”
– Oscar Wilde
44. “Doubt thou the stars are fire; Doubt that the sun doth move; Doubt truth to be a liar; But never doubt I love.”
– William Shakespeare
45. “They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world: someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for.”
– Tom Bodett
46. “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about.”
– Rumi
47. “Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.”
– Antoine de Saint-Exupery, Airman’s Odyssey
48. “The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It’s a choice you make–not just on your wedding day, but over and over again–and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife.”
– Barbara de Angelis
49. “To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides.”
– David Viscott
50. “We can do no great things; only small things with great love.”
– Mother Teresa
51. “Love doesn’t make the world go round; love is what makes the ride worthwhile.”
– Elizabeth Browning
52. “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”
– Robert Heinlein
53. “Love those who love you.”
– Voltaire
54. “In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities.”
– Janos Arnay
55. “The bride and groom–May their joys be as bright as the morning, and their sorrows but shadows that fade in the sunlight of love.”
– Minna Thomas Antrim, A Book of Toasts
56. “I love thee to the depth and breadth and height my soul can reach.”
– Elizabeth Browning
57. “Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind.”
– William Shakespeare
58. “The highest happiness on earth is marriage.”
– William Lyon Phelps
59. “Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.”
– Emily Bronte
60. “Come, let’s be a comfortable couple and take care of each other! How glad we shall be, that we have somebody we are fond of always, to talk to and sit with.”
– Charles Dickens
61. “We need a witness to our lives. There’s a billion people on the planet… I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things… all of it, all of the time, every day. You’re saying, ‘Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go unwitnessed because I will be your witness.'”
– Shall We Dance?
62. “Grow old with me! The best is yet to be.”
– Robert Browning
63. “Think not because you are now wed, that all your courtship’s at an end.”
– Antonio Hurtado de Mendoza
64. “Happiness is anyone and anything at all, that’s loved by you.”
– You’re a Good Man, Charlie Brown
65. “I love being married. It’s so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.”
– Rita Rudner
66. “The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.”
– Rumi
67. “All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love.” – Leo Tolstoy, War and Peace
68. “What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.”
– Helen Keller
69. “And think not that you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.”
– Khalil Gibran, The Prophet
70. “Tell me who admires you and loves you, and I will tell you who you are.”
– Charles Augustin Sainte-Beuve
71. “Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame.”
– Henry David Thoreau
72. “I would rather share one lifetime with you than face all the ages of this world alone.”
– Arwen, The Fellowship of the Ring
73. “In all the world, there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world, there is no love for you like mine.”
– Maya Angelou
74. “I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me.”
– Roy Croft
75. “Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.”
– Bruce Lee
76. “You are the finest, loveliest, tenderest, and most beautiful person I have ever known and even that is an understatement.”
– F. Scott Fitzgerald
77. “To get the full value of joy you must have someone to divide it with.”
– Mark Twain
78. “Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.”
– Ann Landers
79. “You don’t love someone for their looks, or their clothes or for their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear.”
– Oscar Wilde
80. “In vain I have struggled. It will not do. My feelings will not be repressed. You must allow me to tell you how ardently I admire and love you.”
– Fitzwilliam Darcy, Pride and Prejudice
81. “Love me when I least deserve it, because that’s when I really need it.”
– Swedish proverb
82. “Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have a to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.”
– Louis de Bernieres, Captain Corelli’s Mandolin
83. “Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.”
– Albert Einstein
84. “My most brilliant achievement was my ability to be able to persuade my wife to marry me.”
– Winston Churchill
85. “There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment.”
– Sarah Dessen, The Truth About Forever
86. “If all else perished and he remained, I should still continue to be; and if all else remained, and he were annihilated, the universe would turn to a mighty stranger.”
– Emily Bronte, Wuthering Heights
87. “Love is a smoke made with the fume of sighs.”
– William Shakespeare
88. “You don’t love someone because they’re perfect; you love them in spite of the fact that they’re not.”
– Jodi Picoult
89. “Love insists the loved loves back.”
– Dante Alighieri
90. “Love is a joint experience between two persons–but the fact that it is a joint experience does not mean that it is a similar experience to the two people involved.”
– Carson McCullers, Ballad of the Sad Cafe and Other Stories
91. “If you love a flower, don’t pick it up. Because if you pick it up, it dies and it ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. It is about appreciation.”
– Osho
92. “Ah me! love cannot be cured by herbs.”
– Ovid
93. “One is very crazy when in love.”
– Sigmund Freud
94. “Love is a friendship set to music.”
– Joseph Campbell
95. “You know you are in love when the two of you can go grocery shopping together.”
– Woody Harrelson
96. “Love is of all passions the strongest, for it attacks simultaneously the head, the heart and the senses.”
– Lao Tzu
97. “Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”
– Oprah Winfrey
98. “Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit.”
– Khalil Gibran
99. “Absence diminishes small loves and increases great ones, as the wind blows out the candle and fans the bonfire.”
– Francois de La Rochefoucauld
100. “A marriage doesn’t have to be perfect, but you can be perfect for each other.”
– Jessica Simpson
It is that (excellent?) time of the year again when millions of couples around the world are getting ready to tie the knot. With many details to sort out like the number of guests, seating arrangements, the variety of menu, venue, flower arrangements, and much more it is necessary to keep in mind these funny words of wisdom for newlyweds to get a reprieve from all the tension and stress.
These funny words of wisdom for newlyweds will help will help the grooms keep their wives happy
The essential rule of marital bliss is to understand that there are two people in a marriage; one who is always right and the other is the husband. If you want to keep your wife happy, then it’s better to remember that whenever there is a disagreement, she is always right.
One thing that’ll help make a strong foundation for a long and happy marriage is that don’t try to change your spouse. She will always fuss over her nail color or the fitting of her dress, and you will have to live with that while all those brides out there if you think that you can turn him into a better man you are sadly mistaken. Enjoy each other as you are!
These hilarious words of advice for newlyweds obviously concern the bride. Now that you are (finally) married it’s time to pack up your romance novels and enter the real world of smelly socks, different degrees of gross behavior and untidiness.
Now that you are married, other girls cease to exist for you. You should have eyes only for your wife. If you are not able to control your roving eye be discreet about it so your wife doesn’t catch you!
These funny words of wisdom for newlyweds concern both the husband and the wife. Husbands, if you don’t want to start the next world war, it’s always advisable to leave the seat down after you have used the toilet and it’s essential for the wives to use the bathroom at least twenty minutes after your husband has done so to save your nose.
If your husband says he’ll be home in an hour when you call him to find out for how long he will stay out with his friends, don’t be alarmed if he isn’t home even after three hours. Newlywed husbands should always keep a safety margin of one hour when your wife asks the time when you have to leave for a party or a dinner reservation. This rule doesn’t apply when you are visiting the in-laws as there is a hundred percent chance that she will be ready before you are!
The next words of wisdom for a newly married couple concern the husband. If you think your girlfriend won’t change after marriage, then you are in for a big surprise. It’s a fact that as soon as she has your ring on her finger, she will turn into a totally different person. She may become broody or temperamental, but you will have to live with it as you can do nothing about it.
The following funny words of wisdom for newlyweds will help the brides keep their husbands on their toes:
The above-mentioned funny words for wisdom for newlyweds should’ve taught you something, the secret to a happy marriage isn’t in material things. Couples who have the best of everything are not the most successful couples. Instead, it’s the couples who try to make the best of everything and work to be content with what they have, with having each other being the most important thing!
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Recently, our readers were incredibly generous in helping me create the MOST AMAZING “marriage advice bridal shower” for my sweet friend, Natalie this past weekend! The response was nothing short of AH-mazing… I actually received hundreds of insightful and wonderful bits of marriage advice from our fabulous readers!
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I truly could hug you ALL for being so amazing and reaching out the way you did! My heart is so full of gratitude and love for each of you!!!! So, I wanted to share with everyone these OVER 600 incredible snippets of marriage advice! Your wisdom and your generosity can now serve SO many other couples, too!
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Remember if one of you wins the argument, both of you and your marriage loses. (Not talking about the sports trivia question kind of argument) –Lisa & Drew Stillman
One of the best things we’ve done for our marriage is have a weekly meeting (ours is Sunday after kids are in bed) where we plan the week and ask each other how we can make their life better that week. It keeps anything from building and gives us a chance to talk about anything that is going wrong. We only get to make one request for the week so it’s pretty easy to remember. Our relationship has grown and strengthened so much since we started! –Hillary
I am no expert on marriage but what my main advice would be is to always work on your marriage.It is the most important thing!A good marriage is the foundation to bring kids in a home that has so much love already.Use the Dating Divas!Go on dates and have fun!Don’t sweat the small stuff and just enjoy life!Be happy and in love!Married life is the absolute best!!! –Kassie Peterson
This has probably been covered before, but set realistic expectations.That was the most challenging thing I faced, but having realistic expectations and choosing to NOT expect perfection really helped my marriage. –Fawn & Nathan Bohlken
Be kind to each other. Treat your spouse as you would your best friend, better than your best friend. If he/she is having a tough day, give them a soft place to land. If he/she is angry/grumpy/frustrated take a step back, don’t take it personally, treat them with an increased measure of love and respect. –Mrs. Jongejan
Marriage isn’t easy.It’s a lot of hard work but that work should be a labor of love.It is work that you should enjoy doing. P.S.Same rules apply to childbirth. –Kelly & Daryl Patterson
Don’t go to bed mad! –Mrs.Pruitt
Take the time to put down the phones and talk. It is so easy to let the electronics get in the way. You need meaningful conversation every day, even if it’s just for 5 minutes. –Sharylann Smith
One thing I always try to do is randomly call or message my husband throughout the day just to ask him how his day is going and not complain about my day. I like to just listen and hear him out, he tells me that he looks forward to my call and being able to talk. –Nina Verkaik
Starting on your first anniversary, buy your spouse a gift following the traditional or modern gift ideas. Ex. Year 1 is paper, Year 2 is cotton, etc.After you’ve been married a few years, you don’t really need anything and it’s always fun to be creative with the themes.For example, for our first anniversary I bought and framed 1 piece of Disney stock. (We went to Disney World on our honeymoon.) –Nina & John Oliver
Sometimes going to bed upset or mad is ok… you wake up to realize what you were arguing over was silly and you both were just tired! –Joyce
Never tell your parent(s) about a fight that you had with your spouse. You will forgive and forget, but your parents won’t. I was given this advice and didn’t listen to it. The result…my mom hated my husband! Best of luck to you! –Julie
A great quote to be reminded of! “None of us marry perfection, we marry potential.”-Robert D Hales –Friend
My favorite advice comes from a quote in the movie “Parental Guidance.”The daughter is arguing with her mom and yells “You’re always taking his side!” in reference to her father.Her mom responds, “With good reason, because after your kids leave, he’s the one who stays.”Remembering this quote helps me to keep my marriage as my top priority. –Jessica
Just because your hubby does things differently than you, doesn’t mean he’s doing it wrong. –Becca
Not so much marriage advice but great advice nonetheless – brother in law told my husband, “the best thing you can do for your children is to love their mother.” Showing them the love and friendship will foster a like minded love and friendship. Something for them to emulate. –Heather
Do things together and have fun…. It’s ALL about the memories 😉 –Samantha
Women need to feel loved. Men need to feel respected. And learn each other’s love languages. It will save you a lot of hurt and misunderstanding down the line. –Marcie Kent
Always put your love of each other first! It’s all too easy for “life” to take over. Whether it be work, friends, a new baby, house projects, etc. So it’s important to prioritize your love by taking time and effort to nurture it on a consistent basis. Congratulations and Blessings to you both! –Noel
The best piece of advice I got when I was married, 6 years ago, was from my Grandma. She told me that no matter what happens in life to still get dressed up for dates. “Life gets crazy, I know. BUT it is important to still try and impress your husband even after 53 years of marriage.” –Mandy
Most people say: To live learn and grow in a marriage you must communicate. I wholeheartedly believe this but, I believe that you must also laugh!Mike and I have been together for almost 15 years and we do our fair share of communicating. Some of the time it just happens to be yelling and screaming at each other but, he makes me laugh every day and this I love.Joanne Woodward who was an actress in the 50’s and married to Paul Newman for 40+ years said “Sexiness wears thin after a while, and beauty fades. But to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, now that’s a real treat.” Laugh with each other and at each other every day.If you’re relieved to be done with the wedding planning, it’s easy to forget that the real work hasn’t even started yet. Marriage is always a work in progress. The feelings and attractions that brought you together early on in your relationship are unlikely to hold you together as you mature and your lifestyle changes. Promise each other that you’ll build a future together and that you’ll always honor his or her needs and point of view. You can only go as far as you want to go!! A successful marriage requires falling in love over and over again, always with the same person. As you both learn and grow in your lives you will also learn and grow within your marriage! We can’t wait to see the wonderful couple you become! –Shelley and Mike Jag
Shower together! It helps save water 😉 –Roxanne Dent
Put each other first.If you take care of his needs,and he takes care of your needs, then everyone is taken care of. –Jennifer and Gregory Babbitt
This advice was given to me by my step mom… You may not always like each other but you will always love each other. There will be times when your mad or upset with your spouse and won’t “like them” but always remember the reasons you love them. Marriage has a lot of ups but there are also downs, so don’t be afraid to ask for help when things get hard… –Beth
Choose to love each other every day. Many people believe love is a feeling, but we believe it is a choice as well. We choose to love each other even in the hard times and it has kept us strong for 17 years. –Jennifer
Pray to love your spouse more every single day, to be their support through good times and bad, enjoy their company and makes loooots of love! –Friend
If you ever find yourself in a argument I suggest taking your clothes off because it will end so fast. I know this, I have been married now for 17yrs. And it works every time. Well as least at home. Good luck and congrats. –Stephanie & Paul Trujillo
Refuse to take offense, because offense is rarely intended. –Tiffany & Kyle McGarry
The couple that LAUGHS together stays together! 🙂 –Kelly DeBardelaben
Congratulations!!!Communicate, communicate, communicate & you’ll have a wonderful future!!Communicate verbally, emotionally, and physically…nobody is a mind reader!!Have fun!! –Teresa & Russell Higgins
I’ve been with my hubby for 13 amazing years.Here are a few simple (but important) things we follow. Never let the little things fade, consider each other a team and keep an open communication (good and bad). I wish you both a lifetime of happiness. –Kaylene
Remember that you came from different backgrounds so you may see things differently. Have an open mind and communicate because you will not always see eye to eye on some topics. There is not one right answer so come up with it together so it can be your right answer and what’s best for both of you. –Kennedy & Andrew Brown
The best way to get the last word in following an argument is to say, “I’m sorry.” –Robyn Madsen
Continue dating. Nurture your relationship. –Dana & Sal Crano
My husband and I have been married for 20 years. I’m still very much in love with him and I still get excited when he comes home from work. Now don’t get me wrong, marriage is hard work so here’s Some of the best advice I can give you…
1-Always take the time to have alone time together once a week. We have 4 boys and know how busy life can get. But it’s always important to take time to reconnect and make each other feel special with alone time.
2-This is VERY important. Do not hang out alone with the opposite sex no matter how long you have been friends. It causes doubt in your spouse that they may or may not admit to. We have had friends that made fun of us for this but then later agreed it was a good idea when they ended up divorced over an affair that occurred from this kind of friendship.
3- Never stop trying to make your spouse feel special. Do occasional surprises like hidden notes or random texts messages. Grab them when they come home from work and sneak off for a quick make out session.
The bottom line is, your spouse is a gift. You never know how long you get to have them for, tragedies may happen and God might call them home. Make every day count. Yes you will fight and disagree with things but honestly, those things make your marriage stronger when you respond to them in a positive way. Treat your spouse with the love that you want to be returned to you. –Shannon
The best advice is to always be best friends first! –Heather Barrios
I know that a lot of people say “Never go to bed angry” when you and your spouse are in a disagreement.While that’s nice in theory…lets be honest.You can’t exactly turn your feelings on and off like a light switch, and that’s OK!Sometimes, you just need to have your “me” time to reflect and sort out your feelings, and often that requires a good nights sleep.That being said, while you might go to bed still fuming/upset about a particular instance…always tell the other person that you love them and goodnight.Even though you might not be the happiest with them at that moment…you BOTH will feel worse if those 3 little words aren’t said. 🙂 –Christina Helms
Use kind words to each other like please and thank you regularly. Just because your spouse knows you best doesn’t lessen the need to extend this simple courtesy. –Friend
Before you even get married promise each other you will NEVER, EVER say the “D” word! My husband and I promised each other we would never use the word divorce. That was 18 years ago and I’m happy to report we have never let that word come out of our mouths. –Renee
Let God be the center of your marriage. Pray together!!! –Karla
Communicate effectively and never go to bed angry at each other. –LaKia
The best advice I ever received reminded me that open communication is key to a successful marriage. What you need to say may hurt each other’s feelings, but if you can trust that it comes from love (and not make it personal) you can get past the hurt and grow even more close together. This will help you soar above and beyond all challenges that come your way. –Friend
Each of you work individually to be inspired to make great changes in your life.Inspire each other to be better by becoming better yourself.When both of you work at it, and no one is expecting the other to change for them, great things happen!Never expect changes in your loved one.Work on being humble and teachable instead of hard headed.🙂 –Shannon White
The best advice is FORGIVE. I would have never ever suggested such a thing but having been married for 20 years that is the one thing nobody ever told me I should or would have to do. It is not easy but most marriages that have lasted have done so because of forgiveness. –Chris
Love with all you have, there will be times when you disagree . You both will change over time but always love that person for who they are and who they become. Change together. And most of all forgive often, forgiveness is the key to a lasting marriage. –Friend
Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!! Talk about everything even the hard stuff and even when you don’t want to. Especially the hard stuff and especially when you don’t want to. It’s the one piece of advice my mother-in-law gave me and it has taken us a long time to get it!! But every bit of these 17 years makes it all worth it! –Laura
Never go to bed angry, always tell each other you love them at least once a day, if not more, and ALWAYS show respect, no matter what the situation is. –Friend
My advice for both of you is to never stop being friends, and to truly love each other for who you really are. If you don’t, you are creating unrealistic expectations for one another, that neither one of you are able to live up to. You will see the worst of each other, but you’ll also see the VERY best. My husband and I have been together for 7 years, and have a 2 year old daughter. Once you have spent days and weeks without any sleep, you will definitely know what the worst is in someone. And before you say something, just step back, and breathe, and think is this really that big of a deal? Chances are…. it’s not. There will be times that you laugh together, and cry together, but always do them together. I wish you both the very best in your marriage!! –Krystin & Derris Butler
Always remember your “sense” may not be the same as your spouse. If you think about a large iceberg, you can only see the top portion. What you do not see is the largest part which is under water.The under water portion is what gives your partner their “sense” of a situation.Try to see their sense. –Brandy Allen
Natalie,
I want to share two pieces of advice that I feel will be important for many years to come…
1st: Always LOVE with all your heart!
1 Corinthians 13:4-7New International Version (NIV)
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
2nd: Remember to put God first in your marriage and you can NEVER go wrong!
Philippians 4:13 – I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
Much Love and Happiness for many years to come!! –Kimberly
Always put your spouses needs first. If you both do this, you will always win. Don’t forget to always always date your mate. –Diana
1. If you show and respect him, he will always cherish you.
2. Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy. –Pamela
No matter how hard it is to realize…sometimes he is right!!Ha! Ha!Been married 23 years as of this March, and we work together 24/7 in our own business and have raised two beautiful children.Best wishes!! –Nicole
Continue to date your husband, even after you have moved in together and/or gotten married. Every day I tell my husband what it is that I love about him- both to remind him and most importantly to remind ME why I married this man. Also, after we fight, even if I feel I’m “right” I still go to him after I have calmed down to apologize for being so hot headed. We usually are both “right” from our perspectives, but it is more important for us to be together than apart and still angry. And then I tell him from my heart why I got so angry, especially if it wasn’t his fault I am angry. Good luck! It’s a lot of work but it’s so wonderful that it doesn’t feel like work. –Teresa Flores
My Grandmother told me the secret to marriage: “There are very few things worth arguing about.” –Becky Lacey
Marriage is a 50/50 relationship, but no one on Earth can tell you what that really means. So if you both put in 60, you’ll be fine! –RenéHale
Seek out opportunities to laugh and be silly with each other. … and when he’s on your last nerve, it always gets better when you realize that you can never change your partner but you can change how you react to your partner. –Jessica
Marriage is awesome, but it’s also hard!It’s God’s best way of refining each of us to be more like Him! So my advice to you is:
1) Keep God first in everything.Rely on the Holy Spirit to be a giver more than a taker.
2) It’s okay to argue, it just depends on how you do it!When you start to argue, take the time to pray first.Pay attention to how God is looking to change you, and pray for God to take care of your spouse.
Many blessings on your marriage! –Friend
Forgive Easily –Holly & Jonathan Buchanan
Start each day with a snuggle and a prayer. No sweeter way to start the day! –Sabra Penley
Smile and laugh often! And they now sell pregnancy tests at your neighborhood Dollar Tree stores. 🙂 –Friend
Date night is not optional – especially when kids come! –Stephanie
My best advice is to keep Jesus as the center of marriage. All other problems fix themselves when He is your sole purpose for marriage. I would also say to not waste time fighting about the little things. If you aren’t going to remember what you were upset about in 3 days, it’s not worth wasting time arguing over. Life is way to short and sweet to waste time being at odds with the one we love. –Rachel
You are never too old shop at places like Victoria’s Secret. Just seeing the bag will help you with a little romance if you need it! –Star Bailey
If you push to get an answer more quickly, you’re likely to not get the answer you want.And if you force your spouse to give the answer you want, they may not mean it in their heart.From now on, be prepared to wait patiently and accept the truth from your spouse. It may not always feel good, but when you receive the truth graciously, you create an environment where your spouse never needs to lie to you. –Crystal
Even when your other half is grumpy, moody, or unlovable….show them love…shower them with love…and you will see a dynamic change in them…Love conquers all! –Michele McCartney
Always be a student of your spouse. Your spouse is dynamic, with preferences, dreams, and needs always changing. You’ll never have them entirely figured out. So humbly and eagerly learn in amazement and wonder as the gift of who your spouse is continually unwraps over the years. Congratulations! Enjoy the journey! –Sarah M
My husband and I are about to celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary. We have 2 beautiful children.My husband is starting his 21st year in law enforcement.Needless to say he has missed many holidays, birthdays, soccer games, and other special events.My best advice is to talk to each other. We always carve out time each day between shuttling children to practices, church actives, and homework. We are each others sounding boards.He tells me when he has had bad day at work.I tell himwhen I am worried about the kids or aging parents etc….My next piece of advice is date! After you have babies and there is not much money or time, make it a priority to have special time for just the two of you.One day the babies will grow up and fly the nest and it will be just the two of you again. It will happen faster than you think it will 🙂 You don’t want to be staring at a stranger when that day comes. -Jennifer Getts
Don’t ever loose your sense of humor. The more stressful things get the more you’ll need a good laugh. Share inside jokes that only the two of you will get and always have each other’s back. –Laurie
Always remember and think of each other as your best friend! –Robin Guadagnini
Every time you think something negative about your spouse, (ie..he never puts his dishes in the dishwasher) think of three things he does do to help out around the house. It puts things into perspective and will make you smile! –Friend
Never go to bed angry. Even if it means you have to stay up till 2am to resolve it. That said pray together everynight before bed and kiss and say I love you. –Melody
First of all, congrats! You two chose each other over 7.125 other billion people. That is an amazing thing! My advice is to remember that marriage is fun! There will be times where you will feel bogged down with responsibilities and stress. Taking the kids to practice, pressures at work, chores, errands, etc. Just because we’re adults and have more responsibilities, doesn’t mean that we can’t have fun while we’re at it. Lean on each other and remind one another that you’re on this wonderful, fun, and exciting journey TOGETHER! 🙂 –Joy
All marriages are unique and change over time. Always be ready and willing to change something that you thought would make “the perfect marriage” to something that give you the marriage you need and deserve. Being willing to sacrifice the short term wants for the long term beautiful marriage. –Brooke & Paul Iverson
Marriage isn’t always easy or happy but when it is happy it is so good!And if and when you start a family some day remember to always make time for each other and give each other “me”Congrats!Live, Laugh, Love! –Friend
Always treat your husband with the same love and respect that you would want your future daughter-in-law to treat your son. –Teresa & Joseph Ramires
The wedding is the easy part, the marriage takes work. Always listen to eachother, remember no matter what, God comes first, then your partner, then your kids. Have an amazing wedding, wonderful memories and people around you who love and support you! –Jackie Ludwig
Communicate. Communicate. Communicate. Never stop. –Nickole
Tomorrow, February 9th, I will be married 25 years. After thinking long and hard on this, the best advise I can honestly give is this: Choose your battles wisely. Always make sure that it is worth the turmoil and headache. Will it cause your marriage harm in the long run? Will you be able to forgive each other by sundown? Will you be able to look each other in the eyes and always say I Love You without doubting.Not all battles are worth fighting. Sometimes it is best to look the other way and pray about it first.
Oh, and have separate tubes of tooth paste, always. –Cyndi
Don’t take life so seriously. My hubby and i just love being silly together, even acting like teenagers in love. Life is full of hard “grown up” stuff, so just be goof balls together. –Shannon
First of all congrats on your engagement!!!I hope you both will have a lifetime of love, peace and happiness together!Let’s see a couple of tips or advice I can give would be to never go to bed angry. Be a good listener, respect and try to see your spouses side of thingseven if you don’t see eye to eye on the same thing. Try to have a date night together at least 2x a month. Either at home or go out somewhere. Having a girls night/boys night is just as important. You’ll both need that alone time. Just have fun being in love and enjoying each other’s company! May God bless you both in your marriage! Congrats again:) –Breanne
I’ve been married to my love for 11 years. My two pieces of advice are… 1. Never ever talk bad about your spouse to others… even when with your girlfriends and they start complaining about their spouse. It is a slippery slope where if you start dwelling on a negative, it starts to grow in your heart. And 2. Always take interest and ask questions about your spouses passions. My husband has worked in radio, as an on-air personality part-time since he was 12. I must have heard all his stories hundreds of times, but I take the point and ask to hear about certain stories again. To see his eyes light up when he goes into his story, is so worth hearing a story that you can lip sync along with! 🙂 Best wishes on your nuptials! –Rebecca Kuchenbecker
Compromise!!!That is the key to a successful marriage.And too often we are more worried about having the last word.Sometimes you just have to say “your right dear” (even when you know YOU are!!!) Silly arguments often end up being huge disagreements, usually fueled by pride. –Samantha Nelson
Our priest told us to fight naked. 🙂 Have we? no, but it makes sense. If you’re arguing over something meaningless, by the time you’re naked, you realize that it wasn’t something to be arguing over in the first place. Bonus, you’re already naked 😉 However, communication is key to any long standing relationship. Don’t forget that.
Also, don’t forget to say I love you out of nowhere. It becomes so routine, that it’s nice to get a random I love you text in the middle of the day.
Lastly, never stop dating. We get so caught up in our everyday lives/routine that we forget why we got married in the first place. Whether it’s once a week or once a month, make time for a date night/day. Go be a tourist in your city/state, dinner and a movie, or cook dinner together and cozy up to a movie at home. Put away the computers and cell phones and enjoy each other! Don’t let life get in the way of love. –Ashley
Love isn’t always a feeling. Meaning, there will be times in your marriage when you don’t feel like being very loving or your husband isn’t being very lovable, but you act like a loving wife anyway. –Friend
If it won’t matter in 20 years, its not worth fighting over now.
For him: If you are in a situation in which you need to choose between your mother or your wife, always choose your wife! –Amy
Put God as the ultimate center and head of your marriage. Think of 1 nice thing about your spouse and give him/her at least 1 nice compliment everyday. –Joanne
Never, ever go to bed angry with each other.If it’s bothering you, speak up as soon as possible.Otherwise, it’s not worth your time.Life is way too short so speak up if it matters to you. –Laura
Always fall asleep touching! There’s something beautifully powerful to feeling the peace, safety and comfort of knowing each of you are only one small touch away. So, why not, no matter how tired, worn out, satisfied or hurt you may be when you lay down your head on the pillow at night, just make one small move towards connecting in such a simple way! –Rhiannon
Learn what God’s design is for marriage, what His role is for wives, and be obedient to that role and calling. The world’s ideas are so contrary to God’s plan, but following His plan and design, being obedient to that calling, will bring innumerable blessings beyond comprehension! –Melissa & Robert Pallone
Never go to bed angry at each other. Sometimes holding to the “never” isn’t possible, because life happens, but in those instances, make an action plan for when you are going to work through whatever is wrong and promise each other that you’ll individually work on forgiving yourselves and your spouse. This prevents grudges and unsolved issues. We always feel stronger and closer after this process so that we can rest a little easier that night. –Anna & Josh Goodman
I’ll give you the best advice I got at my wedding: Keep God first and never shower alone 😉 –Kaylin & Gregory Spurrier
Go to bed angry! In my marriage and relationship skills class they talked about when to HALT an argument and put it aside for later. H(hungry) A(angry) L(lonely) T(tired). Those important conversations can wait until you are rested, thinking clearly, and no longer emotionally charged. Sometimes you will find that sleep will solve the little problems that seemed big at the time all by itself. “Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved.” –Elizabeth
Every day you must catch each other doing something right and comment on it.There is nothing more discouraging than trying to please the other person and not getting it right.There are as many ways to do a job as there are people so give each other room to do a job differently than you would do it And express gratitude. –Shanna Wheeler
Keep the communication. I have been with my husband 36years, Times get hard but with love, you will get through things. Congrats! –Sue
Never be afraid to communicate, for it is the key to eternal happiness! –Kat
Make sure laughter is prominent in your marriage.It has saved my husband and I a lot of dirty fights because we were able to find humor and make the other laugh. –Michelle
Forgive as much as you can,we all make mistakes.Then go forward with your life. –Terri
1)Each day share with your spouse One thing about them you are grateful for…different thing each day! Yes you will discover more each passing day!
2)Whatever disagreement you have settle, seek forgiveness and make amends before you go to bed!
3) Read Gary Chapmans book on Five Love Languages together!!! Speak your love in the language your spouse will best recieve it!! Gods richest blessing on your “till death do we part” journey! –Margie Heard
Wash his dishes, cook his meals,
Raise a family, pray together,
Spend his money, share your thrills
Through clear and stormy weather
Help him with work then help him play,
Always do your part,
But most important along life’s way-
Always protect his heart. –Teresa Camp
Conversations can be the most important part of a relationship. Beauty may fade, but your partner’s ability to make you laugh or challenge your thoughts will last forever. –Leigh
Sorry but I have 3 things I’d like to share
1.On your wedding pic or engagement pic, each of you either write or have printed the things you truly love about each other.even write the small things he/she does.The key is to always focus on the those things, especially when you are angry with each other.The point is to read those things when you are mad each other so that the thing you are mad about doesn’t seem so bad!There will be times that you don’t like each other very much, but as long as you can focus on what you love about each other everyday then your love will only grow stronger.And never, and I mean never focus on the things you dislike, never speak about these things to your friends!This is the man/woman that you chose to love and stand by your side.
Originally Answered: If you were to give words of wisdom to a newly married couple, what would it be? A2A. Be in a stressful situation with the person you plan to.
