Life Advice For 18 Year Old Men If you heard any these words during your school education, then you weren't being educated, you were.
One of the advantages of reaching our 60s is that we’re (hopefully) so much wiser than we used to be! Isn’t it amazing how much our lives have changed and evolved? As we get older we often realize that some things that used to be important to us no longer are so terribly significant. Certain dreams and priorities and relationships fall by the wayside – and yet we also have the good fortune to discover new passions in life, adventures to pursue, new people to share with and experiences to enjoy.
I reached out to our Sixty and Me community and asked them, “If you could travel back in time and give one piece of advice to your 18 year old self, what would it be?” The results were enlightening and inspiring!
Here are some of women over 60s best advice to their 18-year-old selves:
Several of our readers gave advice centered on the importance of taking care of yourself first. For example, one person said “Think well of yourself so you will be happy alone.” Many reminded their younger selves to put their needs first, even if it meant putting other relationships on hold.
Many women over 60 value their financial independence more than ever before, especially if they’ve gone through a costly divorce or a marriage Several readers offered advice such as “have your own bank account” and “never be dependent on another person” for your financial security.
One of the most inspiring things about being a woman over 60 is seeing how many opportunities our generation has created for younger women in the workplace. Much of the advice that readers gave to their younger selves focused on the importance of getting a good education.
Many advocated delaying marriage until after school. When women get a better education, they tend to have better job opportunities and earn more money over the course of their lives – and better-educated women tend to have stronger marriages and better overall life prospects for themselves and for their children.
Women over 60 are known for our energy and active lifestyles, but we all need to step off the treadmill of life and refresh and renew ourselves from time to time. One woman offered this advice to her younger self: “Don’t be in such a hurry!” Another reader reminded her younger self not to be a perfectionist and to remember to stop and smell the roses once in a while.
Many women in our community offered advice related to love and trust in relationships. Many warned their younger selves to use caution when choosing a partner, even if it meant taking longer to find the right person. It’s interesting to see the changes that have happened in society’s expectations for women during our lifetimes. When most women over 60 were in their early 20s, it was normal for young women to get married right out of high school or university.
Today, women over 60 are more likely than ever before to be single – whether it’s due to divorce or widowhood, or never having married. Perhaps the lesson here is that many women over 60 have found as much meaning in life from their friendships, careers and personal interests, as from romantic relationships? Or perhaps our perspectives have changed as we have gotten older, and we’ve seen the risks and pitfalls of marriage, as well as the rewards? It’s a fascinating question that deserves more attention.
As for myself, the advice that I would offer to my 18-year-old self is as follows – and some of it echoes the advice that our community shared:
Get a great education, and don’t get married or have children until you have lived on your own for a while. Being independent is so important, and a confident and self-aware mindset will serve you well throughout your life, no matter who you meet or what work you decide to explore.
Invest in property in your own name, and be sure to make enough money to support yourself. Save for your retirement – start now!
In your career, don’t let fear stop you from trying new opportunities, and never think, “I can’t do that because I’m a woman” – as you will discover, there are no limits to what is possible for you in life. Be a lifelong learner.
In your personal life and love life, trust your instincts – follow your heart, but always take your brain with you and choose your friends wisely. Enjoy the life you create – relax, spend your energy on things with lasting value, and let people know you love them.
Finally, be good to yourself. It is not selfish to put yourself first. Learn to say “no,” and let other people handle their own problems. Stay physically active and avoid gaining weight – work out every day – not to please others or to maintain an image, but to stay connected with your own body and stay healthy in mind and spirit.
You have a beautiful life awaiting you, young Margaret! Enjoy it to the fullest.
What advice would you offer to your 18-year-old self? What are the most surprising lessons you’ve learned during your lifetime?
What is the best life advice you would give to an 18 year old about to start their . Sorry If some of my words will hurt you but never waste your time, energy.
On the morning of her birthday I texted (of course! I'm a modern "hip" big sister kind of friend. LOL) the following words to her. It was meant to be a really quick "happy birthday, we love you" kind of text, but whew, I got wordy, imagine that! It's just that she's got her entire life in front of her and I care about her so much. I think I even surprised myself how quickly I churned out the longest text of my life! She urged me to share my thoughts with you and felt it was especially fitting since this is my final post here on this site.
I love you. Happy Birthday, girl. You're truly the most inspiring young girl I've ever known!
Stay good and loving and kind. Don't let the ugliness of the world take you down!
Be the best YOU that you can be. Always stay true to who you are and what you believe.
Never alter yourself even when jealousy, ignorance and misunderstanding attempts to paint you differently.
Only repay with love, kindness, and understanding. Refuse to settle.
Always see the pot of "good" at the end of the rainbow.
Make wise choices and well thought out decisions.
Love everyone, even those who are difficult to love. Never give in. Never give up. Never quit with or without a fight.
Know when you're wrong and admit it willingly. Don't ever let anger get in the way of love.
Accept your destiny that God has chosen for you. When He gives you more than you can handle, rely on Him for the strength to handle it.
Thank Him for the breath He has given you and use it to encourage and help others. Give more than necessary every time.
See beyond the surface appearance of those around you:
Their smiles don't always mean happiness. Their tears may mean more than a momentary disappointment, and quite possibly could be the result of a lifetime of repeated disappointment, loneliness, helplessness and exhaustion. Learn to recognize the different types of tears and don't miss an opportunity to ask how you can be of help. In reaching out and helping others, it brings happiness to ourselves. Making others smile, is addicting. Cry often. Let tears flow. Then pick up and move on. Live unapologetically. Love fiercely. Refuse to have regrets. Go out and grab life and live it. Be safe. I love you! Always.
As I sat to ponder my son’s upcoming 18th birthday, my mind was flooded with memories from his childhood—the first time he swung a baseball to bat, his first words, first steps, the first time he said, “I wub you.”
I could not believe that the last 18 years had flown by, just as others swore they would. I wondered how I would mark this special occasion in his life. And so, alas, as a writer, what else would I do, but write? Here are the 20 tidbits of advice I offered him and thought you may one day appreciate for your own children.
1. Gratitude is attitude. Always thank God for your blessings.
3. Practice good personal hygiene. Bad breath and dirty armpits are gross.
4. Clean up after yourself.
5. Pay your bills on time. Your credit will follow you everywhere.
6. Work hard.
7. God’s word is the only thing that won’t fail you. Read it.
8. Be a man of high integrity. Don’t lie. Don’t cheat. Don’t steal.
9. Do not give up on church. You need it.
10. Profanity defiles your spirit. Watch what you feed your soul.
11. Money won’t make you happy.
12. There’s no substitute for time with the Lord. It fills our soul.
13. Sexual immorality has life-altering consequences.
14. Be whole in Christ before you search for a wife. She will never complete you.
15. Voting is a right and a duty. Participate.
16. Look for ways to serve others.
17. Take your time finding a life-mate. Marriage is forever.
18. God is good. He loves you, won’t leave you and extends grace to his children.
19. Don’t forget to call your mom.
20. It’s my greatest joy to call you “son.” I love you.
As an 18 year old, I didn't really know how to be an adult. The people that could probably give me the best advice — my parents — could not.
We asked for the top bits of wisdom you'd give to your 18-year-old selves if you had the chance, and here they are!
'Take a chance and be brave, don't stand back and regret it later.'
'Always do your best, never regret your choices and grab every opportunity.'
'If it isn’t fun anymore, do something else.'
'What you decide to do now does not determine what you do for the rest of your life.'
'When someone says, "don't make the same mistakes as me" – listen!'
'If you try something once and enjoy it, do it again.'
'Do what you love and love what you do.'
'Be the best you can be.'
'Enjoy yourself but learn from your mistakes.'
'You are braver than you believe.'
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